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How might i feel after the birth...

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Boogles91 · 15/05/2014 13:44

Just wondered if anyone could tell me...i know we are all different but i would like to hear some stories :) good or bad. As i think im going to miss feeling pregnant lol if that makes any sense :s will my emotions be all over the place or will i just be too excited for anything else to sink in lol

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Abby1976 · 15/05/2014 14:43

You will be too over whelmed / exhausted to think!

bassingtonffrench · 15/05/2014 14:46

my first thought was not good probably!

but as I recall once I'd had a nap i felt high as a kite because I was no longer pregnant, felt light as a feather and many of the uncomfortable late pregnancy symptoms just vanished.

Fairypants · 15/05/2014 15:25

The first few hours both times I was far too delighted to sleep or feel uncomfortable. I just stared at my baby. After a few hours I started to feel uncomfortable and awkward with aches and heavy bleeding. Once i started to move around i became aware of it. I did miss the 'squirmy wormy thing that lived in my bump ' as I couldn't equate that with the actual baby in front of me (weird, I know).
It varies a lot but that was my experience. I should say that I've never experienced post-natal wards which may make a difference. First time I had a 6 hour discharge so by the time I'd had stitches and a bath, I was probably in a recovery room (with other families) for about 2-3 hours and DH didn't have to leave at all. Second time was a hb so the magical post birth bubble wasn't burst for probably a good day.

WearYourPinkGloveBabe · 15/05/2014 15:27

DD - like I'd been run over, shattered, scared, clueless, constipated, sore, panicked, tearful.

DS - top of the world, felt like Shera, excited, proud.

I think that's the difference between baby number 1 and 2...

slug · 15/05/2014 16:01

Starving. All I wanted to do was eat. (This was after I stopped throwing up immediately after gibing birth)

Shell shocked (it had been very traumatic)

Exhausted but completely unable to sleep

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 15/05/2014 16:05

Like I'd been hit by a bus, I can't think of any other way to describe it.

mrsbug · 15/05/2014 16:07

Like i had been hit by a bus. Tearful. Exhausted but unable to sleep. Constipated. After a couple of days, massive swollen boobs added to the fun.

i should add i had a difficult delivery. plus dd was on scbu so i probably had more time to focus on how i was feeling than someone who was looking after a newborn.

GrassIsSinging · 15/05/2014 16:08

After my first I was overwhelmed, exhausted, daunted, anxious and a bit spaced out for a long time (months). It was a kind of proper shock, I think. His birth was not a great experience.

After my second I was in a state of utter bliss. I felt calm, relaxed, totally in love with my baby and like the world was a rosy place, and again, that lasted for months. Her birth was amazing, and I think that had a big impact.

RoseberryTopping · 15/05/2014 20:06

I felt horrible after my first. I knew I loved him but the responsibility of having him was a lot to handle, DP wasn't the best then either. I just remember feeling like shit all the time and crying a lot, but the first 6 months are still a bit of a blur.

Hoping I feel better after this one, I feel a lot more positive about it and DP is fab now so fingers crossed!

It totally depends on you and your situation OP. You're more than likely going to be shattered but hopefully you'll find it all a positive experience :)

SweetPeaPods · 15/05/2014 20:08

I felt like id been hit by a bus. Not straight away, maybe after a couple of days. I was pushing for 2hrs though so I used muscles I didn't know I had! My friend felt absolutely fine though.

Gen35 · 15/05/2014 20:10

Drained (pph), exhausted (3 nights in hospital), terrified. It gets better fast, but it was a massive shock, I wanted to go to bed and cry and I couldn't.

BingoWingsBeGone · 15/05/2014 20:13

I had 2 cs's and just felt sick from the drugs. However after a shot of anti sickness drugs and a cup of tea I felt pretty damn good. No pain as morphine is pretty good shit

Meglet · 15/05/2014 20:19

(An EMCS and planned CS here).

Relieved we were alive and well.
How nice it was to not be squashed by a bump anymore.
Tired.
Thinking about a cup of tea.

MoonHare · 15/05/2014 20:23

I did miss my bump after my first, I loved being pregnant but I loved my baby and becoming a mum more.

I felt elated for about 2 weeks - very sore, very tired but on cloud nine. Then I felt like I'd crashed into a wall emotionally (I guess it was some kind of massive hormonal change plus 14 days of hardly any sleep). I cried, felt bewildered, overwhelmed. After a week or so I evened out again and ploughed on through. The sense of elation faded but remained for a long, long time - a bit like after I passed my driving test (!).

sillymillyb · 15/05/2014 20:25

I was overwhelmed, emotional, confused about what I should be doing, sore, glad not to be pregnant... To name a few things!

It was just a bit of a surreal time - weird feelings and thoughts.

sillymillyb · 15/05/2014 20:26

Oh, and traumatised. I had a nasty birth and whilst I was thrilled with my son, I was very detached and bemused by proceedings. It was just the most bizarre morning of my life!

Martorana · 15/05/2014 20:29

As high as a kite. Both times. Absolutely full of energy

Sitting down was a bit painful, and the first poo was worse than the birth- but apart from that......
Sorry.

mummyof2lou · 15/05/2014 20:31

Sick and teary and emotional and blissfully happy and loved up!

elportodelgato · 15/05/2014 20:39

Bleeding profusely and with terrible after pains, really bleeding quite a terrifying amount. Also totally unable to walk for about 24 hours, then unable to cope with stairs for almost a fortnight. Utterly dependent on strong pain killers, occasionally topped up with to get through the evenings. Then the milk came in and I was also leaking everywhere and had horrendous sore chapped nipples. I was genuinely horrified by how awful I felt, AND I looked 6 months pregnant still for aaaaaages. It was disgusting, I remember being quite depressed about it

waterlego6064 · 15/05/2014 20:46

Physically, I felt very battered and bruised. I identify with 'hit by a bus'. Your bits are likely to be very tender for quite a while if you have had a VB. I second the poster who said that the first poo is a scary experience. Weeing was very sore too, so I took the midwife's advice and poured water over my bits when weeing, which helped. Lavender oil in the bath is really helpful too.

I didn't miss my bump, as such, but did feel weird without it. But my tummy was still big, swollen and wobbly for quite a while.

Emotionally, I felt...God, I don't know. Bewildered, overwhelmed, scared, exhausted but too wired to sleep, spaced out. That was with DC1. It had been a long night and I'd found the labour very scary which must have taken a lot out of me, I think.

With DC2 it was different. I felt more 'with it' and quite elated and invincible. I'd had a full night's sleep just before my labour started, and I had a HB and avoided the gas and air that time, all of which helped I think.

Martorana · 15/05/2014 20:50

Ds was born after a very short labour at 10 in the morning- I had woken up after an excellent night's sleep at 6.00!. I remember Dp and I felt odd because we had geared a ourselves up for a long day- and we both weren't quite sure what to do do with ourselves and with all the energy and adrenaline that we hadn't needed! He went home later and did some DIY. He never does DIY!

MrsAtticus · 15/05/2014 20:52

After my first I was utterly delirious with happiness which helped with the tiredness! 2nd time round was a slightly milder blissed out. Also very emotional, both times on about day 4 just cried all day.
It seems to vary enormously though, so I would try to minimise expectations and not to worry if you have some negative emotions or don't feel how you expect to, as it's all quite normal.

Andcake · 15/05/2014 20:55

Cs (breech) so maybe a bit different but I didn't manage to sleep for 4 days (actually mostly not ds fault as it was just me feeling over excited/ anxious at the same time. It's weird and marvellous. Was also delight to know he was safely out!

neversleepagain · 15/05/2014 20:58

I had a emcs with my twins and physically I felt great afterward. Carrying 2 babies & 2 placentas was much harder than a c section recovery. I felt light as a feather and slept like log as I had a catheter and didn't have to get up for the loo a dozen times.

I felt very conflicting emotions. I felt love that had never felt before, totally consuming love, life my heart became unwrapped. It was bittersweet as the were in nicu for 2 weeks and being separated from them was like torture, I wished I was still carrying them for a long time.

I cried a lot for the first 2 weeks.

ommmward · 15/05/2014 21:04

When I first stood up, it felt as if all my insides were moving into different places, to fill the gap left by baby, placenta, waters etc. Very very very odd sensation.

Third-ing the ghastliness of the first poo (felt as if all my innards might fall out)

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