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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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any teen mums/mums-to-be?

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dlittle29 · 29/08/2006 12:33

hi. im possibly pregnant, not sure. cant take a test yet. wondering if theres many other young mums on here?

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cg25 · 31/08/2006 18:29

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NomDePlume · 31/08/2006 18:34

(BTW, thanks for the link Charlee }

Mercy · 31/08/2006 18:36

Where is Custardo? I'm sure I read she was a teenage mum - and would have bags of advice, shooting from the hip style

dlittle needs support and advice as we all do, not snide comments (and neither does Cazboldy or anyone else)

Scoobydooooo · 31/08/2006 18:37

Oh i am going to have to PARP myself before my PMT gets taken out on Grannysmith....

BUT before i go i will say something, don't look down on people that you don't even know grannysmith, just because your dd/ds have done the way YOU believe it should be done, gives you no right to judge others

PinkTulips · 31/08/2006 23:58

not even going to comment on grannysmiths nonsense... as a 22 year old with 2 planned babies (dd took 2 years and many miscarriages) i'm perfectly happy with my life. i find running aroud after a toddler hard enough now.... i doubt i could do it in 15 years after working my ass off for years to be no better off than i am now... and i'm delighted that i'll be able to enjoy middle age without having to run around after toddlers. oops... looks like i did comment after all just out of curiosity though, would it have been less deplorable if Caz was catholic? (as a catholic myself i'm intrigued if this makes me less of disgrace to society?)

anyway... back to the important issue..... dlittle, i hope you've done the test and gotton the result you were hoping for, whichever that might be. either way there are people here who'll be happy to give you support and advice (please don't be scared off by ignorant posters like grannysmith, they are not the majority thankfully)

cazboldy · 01/09/2006 09:01

Can I just say how nice the majority of you are. I guess it's the same on here as in general society and that theres always people who just dont feel the same as you.
FWIW, no my ds1 was not planned, but would say that he was an accident not a mistake and knew from the moment that I knew about him that I would have him. As another poster has said me and my lovely dh knew that we wanted more children and decided that it was best to just go for it! We are lucky in that we can afford for me not to work, although until October last year I was working 10 hours a week as a special needs classroom assistant and had completed relevant training in this area. I also completed my GCSE'S with very good grades and at the moment I am Chairperson of our local pre-school. So I would object to Grannysmith saying that all I spend my life doing is looking after children.(Although would that really be so bad?) When my new baby starts full time school I will have just turned 30, and at the moment intend to go into teacher training(hopefully doing a degree in the meantime) so should end up with a career in the end, and will probably spend more years at work in the long run than someone who works until they are 30 and then stop to have a family.
Also following on from what another poster has said yes, me and my dh have now been together for almost 12 years (nearly half of my life!) and married for 8 and a half and are still thankfully very happy and yes, he is the father of all of my children, and a good one at that. I am proud of myself and proud of my lovely family and if that is so bad then I don't care! (rant over)

cazboldy · 01/09/2006 09:04

Oh and meant to say that all I want for my children is what they want. You cannot live your life through your children, and just because you brought them into the world doesn't mean you can control them forever. On the other hand, I would rather they did like me and were happy than be alone and miserable, because "i wanted better for them".
Hope that answers your questions Granny Smith!

Distel · 01/09/2006 09:05

cazboldy, I actually had somebody ask outright if all my children had the same father and if we were still together. I can't believe some people just think they can say what they like to you just because you have made a different choice to them.

cazboldy · 01/09/2006 09:13

I know. It's so rude isn't it. I have had people say that to me before aswell. (which is reaslly odd in my case as they are practically peas in a pod!)

PinkTulips · 01/09/2006 12:18

lol distel, when i had ds last month the public health nurse (HV) asked me if he had the same father as dd...... with dp sitting there cuddling dd on his lap! some people are ignorant and presume just because you have kids young you must be a complete slut with a differant dad for each one!

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dlittle29 · 03/09/2006 13:28

hi everyone, thanks so much for all the nice things everyones been saying
my internet has been down over the weekend so i havent been able to post again til now
i'm booked in for a test at a clinic nearby, but the wait is killing me.
grannysmith - i didnt intend to get pregnant at such a young age, i was using protection but accidents happen.

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belgo · 03/09/2006 13:45

Good luck - becoming pregnant is a life changing event whatever your age - I hope things work out well for you.

Charleesunnysunsun · 03/09/2006 13:49

Good to here from you dlittle - let us know how you go.

PinkTulips · 03/09/2006 13:59

hi dlittle, hope everything goes ok at the clinic

shhhh · 03/09/2006 19:51

goodluck dlittle.

BTW grannysmith (sorry for the delay but been busy), the reason I say "good on you" is because we don't know her circumstances and I admire anyone with 5 kids. Someone wouldn't have 5 kids for the hell of it and obviously has them because they want that path in life. Like others have said I think a life of a baby is such a lovely time and something to be appreciated. Having had mc's I appricate dd and dc2 even more.
Scoobydooo I back you 100%.

I'm so glad you ds choose to have YOUR grandchildren at 27, god help him if he didn't live up to your expectations.

twelveyeargap · 09/09/2006 13:10

Dlittle - Did you have your test? I just saw this thread. I had my dd at 16, she's now 11. I hope everything is ok. Let us know. x

Blondilocks · 09/09/2006 13:39

Hiya, I was a teen mum - now I'm 22.

Did you take a test? I was going to say that you can get packs of 2 tests but it may be too late for that advice.

MrsApronstrings · 09/09/2006 13:48

I was really pleased to see your post near the end of all this dlittle - let us know what happens -

I have to say this has been one of the worst, and least appropriate hijacks I 've ever seen on here. The thread is to support dlittle - not debate views on teenage pregnancy

nikie1 · 09/09/2006 17:35

that was just what i was thinking but there are good points and bad points on both party's i was 16 when i gave birth to my son and now i have 4children and bump i was lucky i'm married with a good job and my husband is the same but that is for us lucky ones but for the ones that mistreat there children such as drugs drink etc dont deserve them so if i was you d little have a think about wwhat you want in life first if you do need a chat you can email me or msn chat on [email protected] good luck chick xxx

nikie1 · 11/09/2006 17:44

hello dlittle any news?!!!!!!!!!!!! did you do the test? how are you chickxxxxxxx

charlii13 · 15/09/2006 14:41

hey dittle.... I'm 20 and expecting my first baby. Did u do a test in the end?

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