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any teen mums/mums-to-be?

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dlittle29 · 29/08/2006 12:33

hi. im possibly pregnant, not sure. cant take a test yet. wondering if theres many other young mums on here?

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JennyLee · 31/08/2006 17:48

but im sure that wont be the end of the world

JennyLee · 31/08/2006 17:48

but im sure that wont be the end of the world

prettymum · 31/08/2006 17:50

but everyone else will

HappyMumof2 · 31/08/2006 17:55

Message withdrawn

SophieB · 31/08/2006 17:56

Grannysmith im 22 and expecting in 3 weeks time, i would hardly say me getting pregnant at a young age as me having nothing better to do, it happened and me and my partner have made MANY sacrifies after finding out i was pregnant. we have our own house which we pay for, we have our own car which we pay for and we pay our bills out of our own many. When i go out shopping or out clothes shopping i get funny looks from older women which really annoys me because you do not know my situation. If someone in their early 20s has 5 children so what? and if a young lady of 15 is pregnant so what?

Charleesunnysunsun · 31/08/2006 17:56

Well i think (ducks and runs for cover!) that a congratulations is in order because in my opinion a baby is always a special thing.

Grannysmith i am 19 and am about to give birth to my second child who was very much wanted, in fact i went to a dr as i have suffered 5 misscarriages to get this baby, i also have my darling son who will be 2 in september andagain he was wanted more that anything in the world. Yes we do have benifits but very small amount as my fiance works 2 jobs to support us and we dont live in a council house we rent privatley!

I just wanted to say that not all teen parents have children by acident. i also think that young girls that fall pregnant by accident are very brave as they vould easily get an abortion but they choose to take responibility for there action and give birth and look after these children and love them anyway.

I personally am totally happy with my life and wouldn't want a high flying carrer i have always wanted to be a young mother.

muma3 · 31/08/2006 17:59

im sorry but to have 1 child is an acheivement but for cazboldy to have 5 is fantastic . im 24 and have 3 , first at 15 (14 when pregnant) . i like you cazboldy decided as i had had 1 child i may aswell finish my family off and have my children young .

i think dlittle is brave enough to seek help and support . i couldnt tell anyone and i for 1 will welcome her with open arms and help her as much as i can and if she goes on to have 5 by the time she is 25 then so be it its her life and i hope she is happy whatever she choses .

there , done

NomDePlume · 31/08/2006 18:02

Sorry for quick hijack..... Did someone say that xxxkatxxx has had her baby ? Can someone point me to the thread announcement please ? Can't see it on Birth Announcements.... Thanks

Hi dlittle29, welcome to MN. Have you taken the test yet ? Do you think you'd continue with the pg if the test is positive ?

BTW - please try not to get too upset by grannysmiths idiotic comments, some people don't engage brain before letting their fingers loose on the keyboard .

Charleesunnysunsun · 31/08/2006 18:04

Nomdeplum i dont know if she had an anouncement but she had the baby by cesarian at 28 weeks both are fine its in the pregnancy threads somewhere under help!

Charleesunnysunsun · 31/08/2006 18:05

sorry nomdeplume

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grannysmith · 31/08/2006 18:05

well,you are obviously all very happy with your lifestyles.It is not what I would want for my daughter or for my son,for that matter. Luckily he waited until he was 27,married and in a good job before having my grandson. I just hope you all want better for your own children.

muma3 · 31/08/2006 18:08

whats to say that these people who have had children early in their lives havent got a better job then your ds/dd? or a bigger house or a more stable relationship ? age doesnt mean it isnt the right time.

anyway back to op, have you done a test yet dlitlle?

Distel · 31/08/2006 18:08

I want my children to be happy, and to support them as much as I can. Wether that be a university course or a happy family, then so be it. I would think they had the integrity and sense to make the right choices for them at that time.

SophieB · 31/08/2006 18:13

Grannysmith you dont know any of our situations. I was sacked for being pregnant and my partner is in a high position in a very large estate agents where he is on an excellent salary. We are VERY happy that we have a baby on the way and we are proud that we can provide for ourselves and our baby by ourselves. You should becareful with what you say because you do not know everyones situation on here however young they are.

Charleesunnysunsun · 31/08/2006 18:15

Well i think whatever anyone says some people have scared off poor dlittle!

If your out there and wanna chat with a friend im

[email protected]

NomDePlume · 31/08/2006 18:18

Grannysmith - I was 19 when I had my daughter, who was entirely planned. I owned my own home and was in a very secure relationship with my partner (now my husband) who earned a very, very, good wage, we have never, ever claimed a single solitary benefit aside from CHB which everyone gets. How does that fit with your cosy little pigeonhole?!

FWIW, I understand your point about teenage pregnancies being a 'problem' in the UK (stats confirm this to be entirely true), but you cannot judge every single 'teenage' or young parent. It is wholly unfair to label every teenage mother an economic failure, a slut and a burden, and every teenage father as an irresponsible idiot who will dump his girlfriend the minute the + appears in the test window. I do not see how beating a younger person who has come on here, obviously a bit confused, scared and unsure, will help anyone. Take a step back and remember that the person you are insulting has feelings.

muma3 · 31/08/2006 18:20

well said

NomDePlume · 31/08/2006 18:20

Sorry, I was 19 when I fell pg with DD, 20 when she was born.

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 31/08/2006 18:21

GrannySmith - I got pregnant with ds1 when I was 18, I was married, we were both working etc etc etc all idealist and perfect.... Things change though, 5 years on I am seperated and not working.... You cant plan things in life, sometimes things just happen. So it may not have been what you wanted for your children but maybe its what they wanted? You had your turn to do things your way so let other people make there own decisions and do things their own way without feeling you have to push your opinons on them. If someone is happy then thats there own buisness and nothing what so ever to do with you. But its ok, I understand that things were different in your day

muma3 · 31/08/2006 18:22

prettymum · 31/08/2006 18:23

im 21 and have 2 kids, i love my kids and they mean the world to me!! my dp and i wanted another child(ds) because we loved and enjoyed having our dd, we wanted another and so that our dd had a sibling to play with.

it doesnt matter how old you are, just as long as that child gets all the love it needs!!

im glad i had my children young, at least i can have a career later and not have to stop in the middle to have kids!!

Distel · 31/08/2006 18:23

I agree with all of you, I don't see how a person can be so single minded.

muma3 · 31/08/2006 18:23

i am worried about dlittle though do you think she is ok ?

its these stupid comments that scare young people into doing stupid things and not feel comfortable with choices they have made .

lynsey24 · 31/08/2006 18:25

All I can say is poor dlittle. Shes come on here for support {Which is a difficult thing to do for anyone regardless of age}

I wish her all the luck in the world

Distel · 31/08/2006 18:27

dittle, if you are there.........I know of 4 or 5 people who have had children as young as you. They have all been fantastic mums and managed everyday life perfectly well.

Please post again.

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