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Am I really that huge!?

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Waggamamma · 28/04/2014 14:44

just a minI rant really...

I'm 22wks pg with dc2, I've put on about 10lb since getting pregnant. I was overweight before getting pg anyway but still. In the last two weeks, three people have told me I look like I'm 'ready to pop' or good luck for my 'imminent arrival.' These were all woman whom I'd literally just met at seperate work events. I'm not ready to pop I'm only half way there!! I'm self conscious enough about my size without people making comments.

Argh, I think I'm over sensitive as I have a lot going on right now and struggling slightly with being pg (although Im excited about this baby I'm not enjoying being pregnant).

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justhayley · 28/04/2014 14:56

People will always comment on your bump size - with DS I had are you sure your eating enough you look very small. This time round iv had the total opposite.
It's horrible and either way makes you feel a bit crap. My response is always "do you think? Someone told me the opposite earlier" (even if that's a lie - shuts them up).

10lbs doesn't seem like an ex seaside weight gain for 22 weeks, I'm sure if you were putting loads on your MW would let you no xxx

justhayley · 28/04/2014 14:56

Ex seaside?!?! No I mean excessive lol

JustAboutAdeqeuate · 28/04/2014 15:02

People love to talk shit about the size of pregnant women. My new theory is that people just don't see truly massively pregnant women much, because going anywhere after about 34 weeks is generally too much hassle, so have no idea how big 'big and about to drop' actually is.

I've had all the usual 'oh are you sure its just one in there', 'oh you're soooo big' comments - I'm measuring spot on, have lost weight on my face and arms, and frankly anyone who isn't saying 'you're looking great' can do one :)

hayesgirl · 28/04/2014 15:04

Last week I had 3 complete strangers separately (but on the same day) say "when are you due, you're massive!"

So f*cking rude! I came home ranting about it saying that I was gonna start going up to fat people and telling them how massive they are (obviously I would never actually do that!).

I am pregnant with twins but although my bump is pretty huge I haven't actually put any weight on anywhere else (watermelon under the jumper is the usual description!).

I just do this sort of smile and nod thing whilst in my head I basically have Tourette's and visions of punching these people in the nose!! Don't take it to heart or let it get you down.

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Waggamamma · 28/04/2014 16:13

Thanks . People really just need to keep their opinions to themselves. Yes I have a big belly, it was big before but it's bigger now because there is a baby in there!!

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ChicaMomma · 28/04/2014 16:29

I work in an IT company- so lots of men without good social skills, in general. The head of R&D said to me on Friday ''Any day now, you'll surely go early, the size of you!'' (i'm not even 33 weeks, and not that big). The same guy wouldnt eat for days if he could have his way, definitely has eating issues. So i said '"yes john, this is what happens to people that ACTUALLY EAT' in a really brisk manner. Fucking wanker!

EyelinerQueen · 28/04/2014 16:35

People have been doing exactly the same to me OP.

I'm 27 weeks and pretty big (see proof) but when people ask when I'm due and I tell them I have 3 months left they just at me.

It seems to be fair game to comment on bump sizes, large or small. It can be very annoying.

ChicaMomma · 28/04/2014 16:42

lovely bump though Eyeliner- perfect shape and no weight anywhere else.
You might find it doesnt grow that much for the next few weeks.

The rudeness of people is off the charts really though!! I hope i never carried on like that with pregnant people in the past.

ChicaMomma · 28/04/2014 16:43

As we speak, the girl (GIRL!!) who sits beside me is actually staring at my bump, head in hands. WTF is wrong with people?

Also, my 10 yr old nephew yesterday told me i looked 'gross', so i'm hyper sensitive about it today :)

Mummytobeforthefirsttime · 28/04/2014 16:57

I had someone say hello fatty! I am clearly pregnant and his belly was far bigger then mine. I'm only 5'2" so I think it looks bigger. I'm 27 weeks.

supermum83 · 28/04/2014 17:43

I too was slightly overweight to begin with (classic apple shape) and am feeling so paranoid about my bump and feel absolutely huge. It's awful. The bump is there, but awful - a B and not a D. And I too work in a male dominated environment and dread any comments...partly as I have a tendency of blushing. I am only 24 weeks. So a long way to go yet. Luckily am very tall so hopefully can hide the majority of it for a while yet. Give me strength!!

greenwinter · 28/04/2014 17:50

I think it is true that many people have no idea how big pregnant women who are close to their due date, actually look. I was shocked when I was visiting my friend at home close to the birth and saw how big she was. She was a normal size.

Crocodileclip · 28/04/2014 18:06

I was a little annoyed today. I'm 27 weeks and my bump is about the same size as those above who have added pictures. I was at an event at work today with some colleagues who I haven't seen for a while. I mentioned something about not being involved in a project as I would be going off on maternity leave at the beginning of July. My colleagues all seemed surprised that I was pregnant. Maybe they were just being polite but if they didn't think I was pregnant they must have thought I hadn't stopped eating since they last saw me or that I had swallowed a football.

greenwinter · 28/04/2014 19:14

You must be so beautiful crocodile, that all your colleagues just look at your face normally.

DownstairsMixUp · 28/04/2014 19:25

Ignore them! People turn into rude dickheads when you are pregnant! 10lbs for 22 weeks is pretty normal isn't it? Tell them to eff off!

RAFWife12 · 28/04/2014 19:51

I swear people lose all sense of tact and sensitivity around pregnant women! I get told multiple times a day how big my bump is and have the question "are you sure there's only one in there?". At my 25 week appointment last week I was measuring dead on track (fundal height 25cm) and am within the healthy weight gain range.
I too have visions of punching people when they say that. Instead I just smile sweetly and ignore them.

Sarah2013mum · 29/04/2014 17:27

I'm 22 weeks and had the same too. Had 2 weeks off uni for easter and went back to mouths hanGong open. And " wow Uve gone huge " ??! Wtf! Erm yes I have a baby that's growing?
I also happened to leave a Lecture at the same time another girl was who I hardly know and she suddenly touched my belly and rubbed it ?? As we were walking ! I didn't no how to react I was so gobsmacked.

I don't like the touching from strangers!
But ignore the small minded people who seem to forget that your growing a child and yes u surely will be getting bigger :)

squizita · 29/04/2014 17:35

People make really thoughtless comments.

I'm 20 weeks and have a typical 20 week bump. Given that some women don't tell anyone till 20 weeks, and I can't hide it! No photo, but it's very average to me compared to anyone else at 20 weeks: a definite bump but not huuge.

I have had to explain myself because of my "tiny bump" (i.e. my pelvis, is the baby small etc') to biddies who want to tell me it's too small (honestly, it isn't!). Particularly insensitive as said women KNOW I had losses and a fertility scare, so 101 questions about my bump might worry me. It's like they think you go from flat to 38 weeks overnight!

...but I reckon they'd comment the other way too if I was 'big'.

Mummyto3tobe · 29/04/2014 19:42

Omg im so glad i found this thread, had the second 'are u sure theres just one in there?' Comment in less than a week today. I think its so bloody rude people just say stuff like that to pregnant women when they have no idea how far along u r etc.
Some guy from another department said it to a colleague today about me and it got back to me and it really pissed me off actually! He has no idea when im due and i havent put on that much weight. Im already paranoid of getting huge like i did last time and had the comments all the way thru my pregnancy - "youll never make it to ur due date!" And " i cant beleve how massive u r" etc all from work colleagues. I literally just wanna cover it all up tomorrow at work now to stop all the comment :-(

Mybellyisaneasteregg · 30/04/2014 07:15

Don't worry op. I have been about the same bump size for the last couple of months, I am now 31 weeks. People made similar comments as well about my 'big bump ready to pop'!

Now that I am getting further along people have started saying that I have a 'tidy, neat' bump and that I'm 'all baby'

Mummymidwife87 · 30/04/2014 09:17

I would never dream on commenting on bump size, as it means sweet FA. I am sick of people asking if it's twins, or saying I must be due soon. I have had this since 26wks, even women sitting in clinic in front of me saying that. It's so rude

27mummmy2boys · 30/04/2014 14:48

I think because it's a second baby and your body has done it before the bump tends to show quicker the second time round! Did with me anyway then I had the same size looking bump for a while :) xx

DownstairsMixUp · 30/04/2014 18:38

This is me at 22 weeks OP (sorry covered face and arm with bad paint shop as have indentifiable tattoos) I've had a few comments today, one was a lovely "GOSH!! You defintely won't make it to term!!!"

eurochick · 30/04/2014 18:41

When I was 22 weeks, a homeless man shouted at me "it's twins in there".

It's really, really not. I'm not even that big.

MissYamabuki · 30/04/2014 19:22

OP at 22 weeks I had LOST half a stone due to.sickness and people still commented on how large I was. Am 28 weeks now and finally putting on weight (6 lb). With the deluge of rude comments I was convinced I must be abnormally big so I'm surprised to see I look no different to the pictures above! I have never been self-conscious about my weight or shape (normal BMI) but it's really getting to me.now :(

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