Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!prescribinginfosub

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Can I just say I meant my MiL. My own mum is actually very good about distance and boundaries! Just not on other things

It's like he's oblivious to anyone suffering. We heard of a friend's daughter who is due the same time as me and is also really bad but according to him she's just saying that to make me feel better!

Dh was so desperate to come here we never sold our house. He won't rent it out as the rental value doesn't cover the mortgage and despite having a managing agent the las tenants trashed it, we just lost another buyer as they didn't even have a mortgage then the agent didn't take the sold board down and wondered why all the viewings cancelled!

Your psychologist makes perfect sense. I definitely need to do that. I just want to be able to do things my way or at least for them to understand. I have issues with my dm too. She has no biological grandchildren yet but 11 stepgrandchildren. 3 of those were born at the same time I had my mc and she is constantly comparing them, births, christenings, equipment, feeding routines etc and that is driving me mad too. It's definitely a good idea about the stuff there's nothing wrong with doing that I definitely think it's a control thing. The stuff mil got I do like but it's a lot of money and she shouldn't have bought it yet I might have found something better and cheaper if id looked longer.thank goodness it's unisex!

I totally agree about it being our turn that's why I wish my dm would stop banging on about everyone else. Hope everything resolves itself for you living.

Agree about meerka!

Mrsb, I agree about working for yourself. There are definitely pros and cons. I've had a couple of failed ventures here but dh's business does well enough to support both of us. It's hard work but the best thing for me was waving goodbye to corporate rubbish!

My OH has mostly been understanding about the HG. However I can tell he's pretty stressed at times, it sometimes goes between asking me to do more stuff to the next day asking why I've dropped the prednisolone as I'm clearly not as well on a lower dose...

I'm adapting to my MIL. The both of them are a bit overbearing (FIL) They talk a lot but don't always listen. However I am softening, I appreciate the help they have given us and they do live 200 miles away! I just say no to them if My Ma was never like that, lots of space, but she was my best friend so I didn't really need it.

MrsB
Self employment is great, especially now I have a child. You just have to be organised. Tax returns, keeping a work diary, I pay my NI by direct debit monthly so don't even think about that. I wish you lots of luck :-) go for it!!

Meerka
Hope something good is happening!!!

My OH has been great too. It must be very hard on them though. He's worried sick about me and the baby and super stressed at work and then comes home and has to do everything around the house.

He's amazingly supportive I just wish I could be more help to him.

My MIL has started bringing round food parcels for him though which is good. She realised that practically the most help she can be is to reduce the house chores and him not having to worry about cooking helps a lot

I honestly don't know what is do without both my rents and my in laws. Yes mil has offered me ginger several times but they are supportive and not hugely interfering. It's first grandchild on both sides so I can't expect them to be totally uninterfering.

Sorry I'm just rambling, going a bit stir crazy stuck at home on my own all the time.

Estate agents are money for old rope as far as I am concerned!

Don't worry Oaklahoma I'm interested in other people's set ups. It helps me figure out if my feelings are normal or not!

And yes living, that's certainly been my experience of them so far! Although they were very nice, honest and efficient over here surprisingly!

Okla
Going stir crazy too...
Not been so well this week. As soon as I eat I either vomit or feel intensely nauseated. Okay with fluids though...but I'm starving!
Lovely weather here today, would be nice to have a potter down by the river but I don't know if I can manage going out.
I've had to get a cleaner to manage house....OH is less stressed!!

35 weeks this weekend...June cannot come soon enough.

We'll be selling in a couple of years...dread to think what estate agents charge, got a 1% no VAT on last sale...

We moved last summer and got 1% estate agent fees but VAT, stamp duty etc are killers. It's a very painful process

Hi :) I'm new to this thread(18 weeks so another October baby)..I've been sick and unable to work/do much since 6 weeks(nightmare financially as I'm a self employed nanny)..it has been utter hell to be honest and at points I have felt I was literally dying.I am feeling less constantly nauseous now but now feel very nauseous after eating and vomit if I eat too much or too rich so stuck on toast and noodles and stuff.Bit worried because I haven't managed to eat any veg or take vitamins for weeks.
I've been struggling to get excited(even though baby is very much wanted) because feeling depressed and lonely being home alone every day and often stuck in bed so thought it was about time I joined this group.Thanks :)

Welcome george the loneliness is crap isn't it? Don't worry too much about the veg, the baby's a good parasite and will be taking lots from you. Welcome to the best thread on MN, if you haven't already check out Lucindas links.

Hello george. Don't worry about your terrible diet. I consumed nothing but drugs and IV fluid for weeks, and my diet didn't return to near normal until months after I had DS and he was absolutely FINE, a good weight and excellent AGPAR scores. Every time they tested my blood in pregnancy they told me I'd run out of something else (vit D, calcium, iron, B vits etc etc) and I didn't have much success with any of the recommended supplements because of vomiting but evidently it was all just going to him. If you do get a weird craving go with it. There were odd periods of a few days when something I couldn't stomach at all became the only thing I could keep down (e.g. milk for a while). I reckon this was probably when my body really needed a bit of something.

Well I am really geared up for HG now. My coil is out, I have a big bag of meds already prescribed and our nanny has started which should make things easier at home if I am seriously ill for months. DH is away this week but once he gets back on Sunday we are going for it. Obviously it'll never be a great time for work but it's as good a time as anyway and key people who would have to arrange necessary cover have been warned of the possibility. Such a weird time: of course I am excited to hopefully have another but it seems such a distant prospect with the massive mountain of the pregnancy in front of us! Also really odd trying to plan for the next few months in a way that means that if I am suddenly totally unable to do anything at all it won't be a disaster, but also that I'm not going to be completely bored and underoccupied if we don't conceive for some time.

Thanks :) it helps feeling less alone and knowing I'm not the only one going through this.My partner is extremely supportive but works fulltime and is out 7-6.30 mon-fri so will be good to have people to chat to online who understand.

george, welcome :) i cant type much atm but i hope you find a home here :)

Willem Ian arrived this moment 08:48. after all that dreadful preg, its over. he is healthy and quite bonny. 3,875kilos

true ti dutch style, there was -no- pain relief though i\d asked for pethedine. it wasn't too much fun! but its over. over. over. over. over.

CONGRATULATIONS meerka! That's such wonderful news, and a great weight too!

(Do you not even get gas and air?!)

thank you.

no, no gas and air. nothing. Nix. There was a certain amount of screaming, ahem (blush)

Congratulations meerka amazing news! Great name too! I think you were entitled to make a bit of noise. Sounds like you're both doing well. And welcome George! I was worried about my diet too especially when I had my bloods done but they seemed happy with my results.Despite the sugar I consume! I agree with the others. I'm eating mostly sandwiches and cereal and struggle a lot with drinks but do understand that fluid is probably more important.

How long was your labour in the end meerka? And are you feeling less sick already?

HOORAY!! congratulations mummy Meerka

Willem a lovely name! ooh you brave thing how marvellous.
Enjoy some vom free scoffing! and gulping down drinks! the novelty of that will never wear off!
oh brilliant news XX

Phew!!! Congratulations meerka!! So so happy for you x

meerka congratulations!!!! Thrilled for you and a great name :) no gas and air either wow. They said at our info evening that pethidine would be a second choice and they might even not administer it if too late. Bastards here! Have you eaten or drunk anything properly yet?

Pic please :)

And welcome George very sorry you are here. I have had the worst diet and my baby at 36 weeks is gainormous so don't worry about it! I should have shares in diet coke and McDonald's the amounts I have consumed this pg.

Punk - our turn soon...did you get your c section date? I'm sending vibes to the baby that anything from next Friday onwards in terms of putting an appearance in is more than fine with me! I'm so fed up of eating or drinking anything then promptly feeling sick. And heartburn. I see my consultant next week and might see if I am a special case for elective c. Section too. It's so depressing.

Huzzah Meerka
Massive congrats!!
It's over!!!!!! Must be a huge relief. Hope things are going well :-) really glad pregnancy has finally ended for you.

Welcome George
Totally understand what you are saying about the isolation and worrying about diet. I've had strawberries and ice cream so far today...nothing else has stayed down :-(
Just eat and drink what you can manage. I've never eaten such a crap diet! I'm self employed too so understand the reduced income. HG is just a farce!

Khali good idea sorting a nanny, looking after a one year old has been rather challenging with HG. I've had lots of help but it's the 6am get ups that have been problem....
It's great to be so organised, I got pregnant pretty much instantly this time and was pretty taken aback. Lots of things needed to be rearranged with work etc

Living
See obs next Fri!!!! Aggghhh just give me the date, my sanity is slowly disappearing. Hope you get a CS date too!!! That would be fabulous :-)
Last preg I had ideas of water birth etc but the minute this CS option appeared I jumped at it, anything to end the HG!!!

Not surprising we are so desperate to escape it...the consultant I see explained that lots of women he sees are requesting terminations as they can't cope with HG anymore. It's so sad that this illness is either so badly managed or it's so extreme that nothing helps :-(