Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!prescribinginfosub

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Giving birth is nothing compared to hg honestly!!

Thanks for the support everyone.

Feeling nauseous and down tonight. Might go to bed and try and sleep my troubles away.

Bosses one redeeming feature is he did quite nicely ask me how I was doing later on this afternoon, and seemed to listen when I told him still not great. He did comment that I 'look much better, just tired', which I suppose is true, he was pretty shocked the one time he saw me in the midst of a really bad time. He is really overwhelmed with everything he has to do and I do feel for him, but unfortunately not enough to be prepared to pick up all his slack, I just haven't got it in me at the moment.

Hi everyone!

re the birth stories and messyness. First timer with a bit of anxiety about that bit too. Just trying not to think about it at the moment especially when looking at the dates reminded me I'm not even half way yet.

But yes Oaklahoma, Meerka is right I suppose!and kali's point about labour is interesting too and makes me feel a bit better about it!

Lottie, sorry to hear you're having a hard time. You can only do so much and it sounds like you are stretching yourself a lot anyway. Sorry and much sympathy to anyone else who's struggling at the moment. Relapse here too this morning, but it wasn't too bad.and I've had to entertain guests all day. They've gone now. Early night for me and a day off tomorrow. Sorry if I missed anyone.

Hello again everyone! I'm now in London again and have managed a couple of gentle walks outside with dh, including an epic 4mile round-trip to see my consultant yesterday. Utterly exhausted and had panic attack in waiting room (had to wait for 1hr) and cried. Thankfully consultant was really understanding, changed my medication (had been on metoclopramide for over 12wks) and added something to help my anxiety/panic attacks. He got one of his junior drs to chase-up my referral to the mental health dept and they should get in touch with me next week. Fingers crossed.

I asked about a caesarean and it was agreed immediately and they'll do it in wk39. I think I'll get a date in my next appointment with him in June.

I've got a midwife apt on Friday afternoon (3.20pm) and I'm already shaking and tearful with fear because it's a 4mile round trip alone because dh is starting his new job tomorrow and can't come :-( How do people manage to do this on their own? Any tips? Any advice? Help!

meerka your baby Willem is utterly gorgeous!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing those lovely pictures of him!!

Starry, can you get a taxi? 4 miles seems impossible with this, there must be a better way?

he he elizabethsmum! Pregnancy and birth are one long embarassment! We have 6 builders working here just outside the kitchen window. I was in the kitchen the other day sneezing like crazy...and holding onto my crutch (in a vain attempt to stop the wee from coming out)...when my boob popped out of my too small top! The fun the builders had!

Starry I'd definatly recommend getting a taxi.I've had to get taxis to every doctors/hospital appointment because I don't drive and buses are just not possible when feeling ill..

starry I know the taxi and car thing is an issue. Is it at all possible to make a playlist of your favourite music to listen to whilst you walk? And see if there is somewhere to stop on the way there and back for a break - anything you can treat yourself to? My latest treat is a Mango and Passion Fruit slushie smoothie thing from McDonalds which is quite amazing at cutting dead the nausea. I sip on it whilst we walk the dog so I get exercise.

Very well done on the consultant thing and so glad they took your concerns seriously and you are getting your follow up.

quick message from me, must go to bed. Pain in hip has started again but also have a very active baby right now. Thanks so much for feedback :) will write properly tomorrow. Hope everyone has a good night.

starryis there any way the midwife could possibly do a home visit at all? I know this is obviously more of a post-natal thing but I do remember my initial booking appointment when I was about 9 wks pg with dd1 was a home visit (I hadn't even requested it but I was very grateful!!) it may be worth asking???

Sorry not meaning to scare anyone btw re earlier comments

Take care lottie and get as much rest as you can. Are you on phased return?? I know this us cloud cuckoo land thinking as I should have been but it never happened

Thanks so much for all your comments and help. I've tried getting home visits from the midwives, but I was told 'no' because they are all hospital midwives and not 'community' midwives. I didn't really understand the difference, so I've had to go in. I cancelled the last one because I wasn't at all up to it and I'd had a scan shortly beforehand so I knew the baby was okay.

Sadly, like living mentioned, going in a taxi isn't really an option for me because the motion makes me more ill and I have horrible panic attacks too. We don't have a car.

Really great idea about the playlist to listen to - I'm definitely going to do that. There are a bunch of McDonalds on the way there and back, so may give the smoothie a go. Thank you living!

Urgh. The simplest things seem impossible with this awful illness... and so stressful too :-( The worst of it is that it will be just a 10min appointment, so all this stress, worry and utter exhaustion and more sickness for just that. Honestly, doesn't seem worth it to me. :-(

Poor starry, it sounds awful for you. The midwives are buggers for not doing home appts. Where I live now they much prefer coming out to you which is just lovely, so much easier esp with a toddler who gets bored in waiting rooms. Hope the McDonald's and music help.

Re disgracing oneself in labour... I thought a small poo was almost obligatory! In all the excitement it goes unnoticed though. First time ladies please don't worry about labour, I echo all comments about it being a walk in the park compared to the sickness you're experiencing, brave ladies.

So many posts!! Just had to scan them all and now can't remember anything!!

Meerka I have no idea how to find your photo :-( I've only ever used this hyperemesis support link on this website. Was a MN virgin prior.

Starry sounds a nightmare all this distance you've got to travel.., wonder if you could talk to them about difficulty at your next appointment.
I honestly didn't find my MW appointments that useful until after 20 weeks. As I was always at hosp it seemed like everything was already being monitored and so the MW was just an extra expedition.
Glad they have agreed CS for you! Yay!

Living fingers crossed things get moving soon for you!! I'm convinced that if it wasn't for CS this tink would stay put for as long as possible. I think the HG would do it just to spite me. It's worrying that I am giving HG human characteristics!

Survived work. Friends and family are asking me what on earth I am doing. Especially when I walk in covered in vomit from the journey home. What am I doing??
Three Wednesdays to go......then official mat leave.

Agree....cannot comment on labour but CS and recovery and dealing with newborn soooooo much easier than HG. This is the worst part.

How difficult for you Starry! A four mile walk is just not reasonable, I can see why you would be exhausted! Have you considered weird alternatives like rickshaws (I think you're in London right?):
rickshawsinlondon.com/

Have also been thinking starry once you are at the appointment and waiting which is also a point of anxiety- if you have to sit in the waiting room with a vomit bowl (ask for one when you get there if you need it) then so be it, it is quite common to see people waiting with them in antenatal depts (I work in one!!) it is a hospitl after all and lots of patients preg and otherwise not well so you shouldn't worry if you need one (even if it is only 'just in case'!) Locate the toilet if there is one close by, ideally in the clinic and then if you have to keep going, even if it is to put a bit of cold water on your face, neck, wretch, compose yourself, whatever, you can do.
ime friday afternoons are usually the quietest clinic times as well so am hoping that is the case for you and you are not waiting too long.
Can you manage sucking on a sweet or something as another distraction technique? Sorry am not coming up with brilliant suggestions but any coping mechanism may help you get through it xx

Starry also can you ask the midwife if there is a team of community midwives you could be referred to? Obviously you need home visits so there must be a better way! I know there are teams of midwives who offer this service in London- although I don't know how widespread it is.

I was offered one for my next appointment but I've elected to go to the clinic as I'm driving again now, and finding that easier than cleaning the house but they were keen to offer one as soon as I said I was too unwell to drive, they said it wasn't reasonable for DH to have to take time off so they would come to me. Despite the fact that I could have gone in a taxi (with an emergency bucket).

Starry could you splash out on a private MW? I am sure they would do home visits. DP was in London for work and needed a GP urgently. He booked over the phone and a private GP made a home visit within one hour...and apologised for the delay! It cost a bomb but if it's a matter of a limited number of visits it might be worth it?

Starry nothing to offer that hadn't already been said, just lots of sympathy. I find sucking on Polos helps with the nausea a bit if I have to move / be in a car. It's all relative though.

starry sending lots of sympathy your way, I hope you find a solution!
punk click on meerka's name and you will get an option to see her pictures.
Today I am exhausted! 3 full days at work, 2 sale prep and 1 first day of sale which was mentally busy, an £8000 day which has nearly killed me! The overnight nausea and heartburn last night was awful. I am doing as little as possible, it started off well by not getting out of bed til 11. I did want to do the hoovering but dh has left it upstairs and I am not carrying that heavy thing down so that has poo pooed my plan for day!

mrsb I looked at the hoover and thought, nope! Dh is doing it when he gets back.

Horrible night last night woke up retching and gasping for air. Dawned on me it was a panic attack. In my sleep! Spent an hour battling nausea then ended up on the sofa.

On the upside start date for new job has been put back a week thank the Lord. More time to prepare and I have a two day week the first week as we are at a wedding. Small things...

Primark by the way, vile. It was so horribly busy. I don't remember it being so bad at home but it was like half the country had done a day, trip just to go.

I avoid Primark at all costs. I used to think the novelty would die down but it never seems to.

My mum wants to go maternity jeans shopping this afternoon but I just can't face it. Maybe next week.

Wow I'm impressed by people managing to work.Even though I'm not as sick as I was I'm still often nauseous and very faint and weak and have to rest most of the time.Even just going for a short walk down the road can exhaust me! Perhaps it will get better..I'm 19 weeks..

Aha thanks MrsB
Pictures now viewed Meerka a beautiful little love :-)
Hope all is going well and eating resumed!!

George do not think about work...at 19 weeks I did very little. Went back to work at 26 weeks, only one day a week though. Have tried two days a week but things go a bit insane again and I'm pretty ill for a few days following!!! So just surviving at 19 weeks is great!!

Last time work was a bit easier in third tri but I think some of this is due to now having a one year old, it's tough to manage the HG along with child and work.

George I'm doing a couple of hours from home a couple of afternoons a week. So I'm not sure it really classes as work. I also need a nap if I walk down the road!!

Honestly I'm probably doing more than I should, I Mean lucky though that the ondansatron really does stop the sickness 80% of the time.