IVF Graduates - A place for pregnancy menkulling

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A chat thread for those who have conceived via assisted conception.

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I learnt that Doctors know scarily little about this fertility lark, which has coloured my trust in them elsewhere too. I am very much a too much rather than too little information person too. Much to DH's annoyance a lot of the time!

Good luck also Bad - how many weeks are you now?

Then euro, I'm sure your bag is ready filled with all your well researched questions so will just wish you good luck with your consultant.

I too will question the hell out of every medical professional, because a) I like to be in the know and dealt with like an adult, not some naive kid who can't handle the truth or doesn't need to know, and b) I am a control freak.

AFM - feeling rotten today. Am officially suffering from third trimester gripes ... No sleep, Braxton's, nausea, backache.... Etc, and my son is resenting me for it.

When I was out of action from the sch hemorrhage my son was really kind, but this past week, if I get upset because I am in pain, he drags his dad away from me or starts shouting abuse at me. He is nearly 5.

I always expected some sort of trouble when bubs arrived because DS had been the only child for nearly 5 years, but it's the last thing I need directed at me when I am in pain before bubs is even here!

Sorry you're suffering a bit Ferrero Children weirdly perceptive. When I was PG in the summer DS (then nearly 2) would have nothing to do with me. It was all about Daddy, he would push me away, not let me settle him etc. He was with us at the MMC scan and literally changed in that instance. He was just shy of 2 but held my hand and in the proceeding days would come for snuggles with me etc. Totally broke my heart in a good way!

It has been much better this time, although he is still a Daddy's boy, tells me Daddy is his best friend, but I am not....! Now I have the no lifting ban again I can see it getting worse, although he needs lifting less these days he is a leaper! Loves jumping from anything high into are arms.

TBH I have heard far more positive sibling acceptance stories than horror ones!

Hi everybody - am 21 weeks now, thanks Val and am feeling massively reassured after seeing my midwife this morning. Told her all about my arguments with the other medical staff and she was great! She tells it like it is as well and is totally supportive and understanding of my desire to go for a VBAC. If it's any consolation, ladies, my DS is being a mare right now as well in terms of wanting to be carried everywhere and having huge tantrum fits over everything. I think he is going to struggle big time with a new baby in the house because he is a little Emperor!

ferrero that is not what you need! It sounds like he is a bit insecure about the baby's arrival. Is your partner dealing with it well?

bad it's great that your mw is supportive.

I've had my appointment with the consultant (well, consultant's flunky). He was fairly laid back about the recent scan report (although he did trot off and seek the consultant's opinion at one point). The bump is measuring 2 weeks behind, which is roughly in line with the scan measurements, but the baby is moving and the heartbeat is strong. They have referred me to Foetal Medicine for monitoring, but the appointment is not for 10 days, so they can't be too panicked. That means that barring a lack of movements or anything like that happening in the mean time, I should get to at least 30 weeks. I feel a little more relaxed. We are going to "hope for the best, plan for the worst" so we are at least prepared. This weekend I will be doing things like buying hospital nighties in case I have a section soon (I only own pjs and they won't work so well with a catheter) and a car seat. At least then if centime does arrive suddenly we will have the essentials ready and it will be one less thing to panic about!

Euro that sounds positive - as does the planning!

That does sound positive euro. Glad to hear centime will be monitored and that you have time to plan for his/her potential early arrival.

That's good euro, glad you have been a little reassured.

My hubby is dealing with my son. Better than me at the mo. I am short of patience.

I've finally twigged that my son isn't anxious about baby (he is looking forward to it), but is resentful when my hubby pays me attention.

It seems that whilst I was on bed/couch rest in the second trimester, far from missing me, my son has revelled in the undivided attention he had from daddy, because daddy had to be his main carer.

Now, when my hubby pays me attention because I am in pain, my son kicks off because he wants daddy's attention. I suppose, we'd better deal with it, because the baby will demand a lot of attention from me and daddy when he comes.

Euro sorry to hear about your stressful time. Hopefully the fetal medical centre can help more, I found when I spoke to the normal doctors they really didn't help much with my issues, but the specialists are excellent.

I've been cruising on uneventfully with a regular scans, but have hit a bit of a bump this week. At my cervical scan on Wednesday they saw that the amniotic sac was funneling through my lovely new TAC. This shouldn't really be happening... the point of the TAC is to stop the sac/baby putting pressure on the cervix, or to catch them if the cervix fails. Seems my TAC isn't doing that! So we are back to relying on my own dodgy short cervix. Thankfully the cervix itself, while short, is still closed.

So I've been told to take things as easy as possible. The prematurity midwife said just to not lift anything, no sex, no long walks, no standing around. I couldn't decide how to approach that with work, so emailled my surgeon. His response was 'stop working, the next two weeks are crucial'. Much easier advice to follow - much less ambiguous!!

So I've decided to tell work that I am working from home for the next two weeks at least. Midwife said I'm likely to be moved to bedrest soon enough, so I should get everything at home as ready as I can for that. I'm 22 weeks and suddenly quite worried about making it even to viability, and I really don't want to have a baby anytime soon. Fingers crossed for us all.

Sorry to hear things may not be stitched in as tightly as the could be Time I hope you can avoid bedrest for as long as possible. In the long run it will be a relatively short period of time...

AFM stressing again. Reduced the progynova from 12mg to 10mg, patches to be changes every other day and no more Gestone. This has been since Weds. My symptoms have pretty much vanished. Boobs feel 'normal', just so scared things aren't right. Got a scan on Tuesday (Harmony).

val symptoms do come and go. It's worrying but normal.

time I'm sorry to hear that you have such a worrying time. Your consultant's advice is nice and clear! Two weeks is really not long to go. You will get to viability. Just pop your feel up and make mr ttd wait on you!

We're off shopping shortly, to get as baby ready as we can.

time although that sounds worrying, sounds like you're being looked after well so that's very reassuring. Make sure you follow doctors' orders! Once you're on bedrest it'll be tricky working from home too, and I imagine the idea will be that you're not stressed by work too. So start downloading those series you've been meaning to watch for ages. Take care of yourself! (is it me or is every pregnant woman told that they need to take care of themselves and be very careful?!)

val good luck with your Harmony test. I got the probability test back and all looks good. But apparently the hospital will still ring me and offer the amnio test "because of my age". Grrr cheeky buggers!

You had PGS didn't you Nobeer?? Seems like an amino would be unnecessary?!

Yes I did val. I'm going to politely decline.

Hi Time, glad to hear you are being well looked after/monitored. Echoing everything that is being said about following that consultant's advice and not working, bed rest if needs be. Will/can they do anything to the TAC to strengthen it or are you past the stage where 'redoing' (sorry, I am pretty ignorant about what the procedure entails and what can be done) it is viable?

val I have had stages where I suddenly didn't feel at all pregnant, or days where my boobs felt normal after being really sore for a while. I also found it scary coming off the progesterone, even though everything I read or heard said I no longer needed to be taking it. It still felt like I was letting go of a security blanket.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

Hey ladies, just a quickie.

For those of you who had the Harmony test, did you get told anything from the first scan (the 10+week one)? Just wondered if they did anything more than say yay or neigh on viability.

Thanks!

Not told anything at least 10 weeks. Just confirmed it was viable and took bloods. It was a tv scan though.

They gave us a scan report which just showed size and that it was a single pregnancy in the right place. They did the nuchal measurement and combined that with the result of my bloods when we went back for the Harmony result 2 weeks later.

Thanks ladies! Just wanting to know what to expect

Hope you have all had lovely weekends x

Sorry, one more question! Did you get the blood results on the day of your follow up or did they come through earlier?

I got them at the follow up appointment. They told me the Harmony result, then scanned me, then gave me the nuchal measurement and combined result (with my blood tests). I was at the FMC.

Thanks again. Just wanting to know what to expect when. Hope I can at least get into the scan tomorrow without balling

Great scan today, very wriggly little baby, stretching, waving, kicking and generally being cute. Measuring as it should etc. Bloods taken, so yet another two week wait begins. They did say if they were unable to obtain a result or if the result came back high risk they would call in in advance of 24th....great. I can imagin missing a call from an unknown number will send me into a spin!!

Glad you had a great scan Val

Hope you can pretend the 2ww isn't happening!

Val.

PS Am currently in South of France - today spent on the beach at Villefranche - and am sort-of thinking maybe having just 1 who can walk, talk etc isn't so bad.