Large age difference between siblings

[Marcie123]

Hi all

I am 12 weeks pregnant with my third child ( huge surprise!) I am 37 and will be 38 when this little one is born

I also have a 20 year old girl and a 7 year old boy. My 20 year old will be 21 when the baby is born and I am worried about the huge age difference between them all. I was only 17 when my daughter was born so wanted to wait for my second until I was settled I thought I was done so this is a big shocker for me!

I was worried I was too old but I am getting over that now! My partner who is 45 is still worried but l am trying to convince him we will be ok

Has anyone else got a big age difference who can share any experiences with me

I would be really grateful of any comments:)

There's 24 years between me and my half brother. I feel sorry for my mum a little bit. My eldest will be 7.5 when my youngest is born, I'm going to have my tubes tied after this one. For my sake, not theirs.

I'm six years older than my sister. We have always got on really well. When she was born and in the first few years of life I played with her like she was THE BEST DOLL EVER. I think the age gap also stopped us fighting as much as some siblings who are closer together.

She quite often liked to sleep with me in my bed when I was in my early teens - probably from about 11 to 14 (when she was 5 to 8).

We drifted apart a little when I was in my late teens and when I left home as she was still very much a child and I wanted to be a grown up, so at that point we had little in common, but now we are both adults we are best friends.

ALSO my best friend is pushing 33 and has a one year old (half) sister. They adore each other.

I'm 34 and have 11 year old boy/girl twins who are off to secondary school in September. My partner is nearly 42 and has an 18 year old daughter.

He is really struggling with the age thing and thinks he will be a really old dad.

However, at my children's school, there are lots of older parents - most of my son's friends parents are in their fifties ! I feel really young there.

To be honest, Ive never thought any of them are "too old", in fact they all seem really grounded parents - and are still fun and in touch.

I don't think you have anything to worry about. My partner has the same worries about his age and doesn't listen when I try and reassure him.I think that there are a lot of older parents about nowadays and its not a problem at all.

There's 20 years between my half brother and I. We never lived together, but we're remarkably alike and get on very well, and it doesn't seem to have been difficult for my mam to have one relatively young and one relatively old. My half-brother and his then gf certainly used to enjoy playing happy families with me when I was a baby!

I'm due my first in a few weeks, but because of career and study plans, it's unlikely we'll have another until DD is around eight. I think that'll be easier financially and stress-wise - I'm in awe of those of you who manage more than one under-4 at a time!

Our DCs are twins 14, youngest DC 2 and another due shortly. The age gap has worked for us because the DTS got loads of our attention when they were little as it was just them. By the time youngest DS arrived, they wanted to spend less time with us anyway!! They are fantastic with little ones, and extremely helpful to me. I'm over 40 too! Still enjoying it all. Congratulations to you