Anyone regret being honest with midwife about past drink or drugs use!?

[EmilyJane86]

I'm 9 weeks pregnant and I was very honest with my midwife about my past. I suffer from depression and anxiety and had a year or so where I started to use drink and drugs as an escape. This was around 3 years ago I have not touched drugs since and I drink on the odd occasion although have not and will not drink whilst pregnant. I am more or less free from my depression but still get anxiety. I have never needed rehab or medical treatment for drink or drugs (never injected or smoked hard drugs). My midwife is insisting I need a referral to drug and alcohol team. I disagree and feel this is a waste of time and money. She's even told me that they will have to do a drug test on me. I am shocked at this as I have been quiet open and honesty with her. I will refuse drug test out of principle but then it will look like I have something to hide.anyobe had similar alarmist

I was sexually attacked when I was 21. When I was 34 and pregnant I told midwife in booking in session ( I think she asked if I had ever had counselling) she then put in my notes I was high risk for something or the other but basically in case I hurt baby because of being sexually attacked and potential trauma of birth and feelings towards baby and had notes about referral to social worker team post birth.At next midwife session I had another midwife and told her o was very unhappy to have that in notes and did not agree I should have support from specialist team as was not needed. She agreed thankfully and it was fine.

Separately I gave up smoking before conceiving baby number one. Roll on three years and I'm pregnant with second one and I was asked my midwife to do one of those exhale into tube tests . I did think they didn't believe me and I wanted to refuse out of principal ( she did say I could ) but thought it would make me look suspicious and I had nothing to hide. So although annoyed i did it anyway so they didn't make an issue of it.

I agree a box ticking culture and fear of getting it wrong can mean some of us get caught up in he referrals but then again f it can help one mother to be not to fall through the net maybe it's worth it?

Congratulations by the way and good luck with your pregnancy xxx