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Wading into spring with the all new shiny Posifrickentivity thread. PG after MC? Dive right in!

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 17/02/2014 14:06

All comers welcome, we're a rolling thread. Newbies, middles and oldies alike, join here for hand holding, knicker checking and general batshit craziness! Grin Wink

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GuffSmuggler · 25/02/2014 10:18

Urgh pixie that doesn't sound good. I was the same last time, DS would have been here by now, I wasn't expecting him to come a week early and I just went into labour and he was here about 8 hours later! I'm definitely overthinking it this time, but I guess the WHOLE PG has been overthought due to the MC so why would the birth be any different!

Hope you Fod and saggy all get going ASAP

Welcome oddsocks my best advice is get through one week at a time in the early days, seemed much easier if I could just set small milestones.

GuffSmuggler · 25/02/2014 10:19

PS thinking of you total!!

Pixielady83 · 25/02/2014 10:29

oh no saggy can you beg steal or borrow an adaptor and pump? Smile

watching obem to see if it encourages matters. Either that or my cervix will close up for business entirely Grin

OddSocksandHoleyPants · 25/02/2014 11:39

Well, the mw wasn't helpful about an early scan. No point as I'm not bleeding etc. arghh, there is a point, it might stop me going crazy! I know what she means, but wish there was something I could do other than just wait.
Thanks guff, not sure I can even manage a week atm. Right now I will just get to lunch time...

Aoifebelle · 25/02/2014 12:29

oddsocks if you have the money you might want to consider going private should be about £100. So unfair that we all have such different experiences.

bakingtins · 25/02/2014 12:42

oddsocks I'm afraid it's a sad fact that your emotional wellbeing is not an NHS priority. I had to get to 4MC before I got regular scans in first trimester. I can see their point, 15% of pregnancies miscarry, maybe a third to a half of women will have a miscarriage at some point in their childbearing career, that's a lot of early scans.
8 weeks is a good point to have a scan - if you have a positive scan at that point your MC risk drops to 3%, and you'll be able to see a little bean with arms and legs waving. Any earlier and confusion about dates can make the scan inconclusive so it may be more worrying than reassuring. 8 weeks also neatly halves the wait from BFP to 12 week scan. You can usually get a private reassurance scan for less than £100.

fedupofrainydays · 25/02/2014 13:13

oddsocks I think I would just book a private scan rather than wrestle with NHS. I think I've been lucky as my EPU felt sorry for me and after my last mc said when I was there that when I got pregnant again they would scan me at 6 weeks. They said phone up direct and not go via gp or mw - they knew my name which is both a good and bad thing I guess. It was also because I had suspected ectopic last time round. That aside, the EPU is run by the only empathetic medical professional I have met and she says she does that for people who have had a rough time as she gets how horrid it is.
But all epu work differently and are inconsistent nationally so I would just go for a private scan - I would be doing that if I didn't have a scan next week.
And I agree with baking as last mc I asked gp if I could have early scan - outright 'no' for the reasons that mc is so 'common' and couldn't do it for everyone who had a mc.

JBrd · 25/02/2014 13:30

Sorry to hear that your mw is less than forthcoming, odd The differences in care don't cease to amaze me - I mean, anyone who has had a mc is bound to be so anxious, but whereas in some places this is recognised and acknowledged, in others you are just left to fend for yourself.
Do you think you might be able to get your GP to refer you...? Or call the EPU directly? Someone might take pity. And yes, if everything else fails, I would also recommend a private scan. Expensive, but you will get some reassurance. Good luck!

Any news from the ladies with the twinges/pains...? total should have had her baby by now, right?

I feel so sick today, not even eating is helping much. I've even resorted to drinking effin' ginger tea, which is a) vile and b) does bugger all. Of course it all had to kick off the week DH is away! I could have cried this morning, trying to get DS dressed. Boo. I've been so unproductive at work yesterday and today, but thankfully, nothing urgent is on the plate right now.

But I had a very positive booking appointment, my midwife is great. This is going to be a very medical pregnancy, due to me being ancient, having RMC issues and a history of DVT, and there is a strong possibility I might have to have an ELCS. But whatever works!

kjh5 · 25/02/2014 14:42

Welcome oddsocks - today you are pregnant! :) Sorry to hear you are having a hard time with a reassurance scan. As a few people have pointed out, sometimes it is better just to go direct with your EPU, is yours self referral? If so, might be worth phoning up and asking them if you can book yourself in for a scan.

JBrd happy to hear you have a supportive mw - makes such a huge difference!

Hope Total is doing ok and has her bubba wrapped up in her arms right now...

I had such a dreadful night's sleep thanks to bad SPD and an arm that was literally ON FIRE! I knew the whooping cough vac was supposed to be unpleasant but as I hardly felt her inject me I thought people might have been exaggerating... apparently not! yes I am a wimp

The thought of going to work a haggard, exhausted mess is not appealing right now - only three shifts left to go and it feels like an eternity. Although DH has pointed out that come Friday, I can stay in bed all day if I want. The thought is oddly appealing!

fedupofrainydays · 25/02/2014 18:21

Who was talking about cheese yesterday? OMG my cheese craving is insatiable! Last pregnancy I joked that my weight was predominately baby bel and now I remember why!

JBrd · 25/02/2014 18:36

Me, fedup! Although lots of people contributed. I now crave Babybel with a vengeance. Might have to pop into the shops with DS after work tomorrow to get some Grin

TotalShock · 25/02/2014 18:47

Hi ladies,

Baby James arrived at 1257 at 8lb 1. Can't believe it!

Just nicely back to ward and feeling back and I'm starving!

Catch up later x

fedupofrainydays · 25/02/2014 19:00

Hooray!!! Congratulations total and I love the name James too! Well done you xxx

jbrd my prob is I already have a stash of babybels in the fridge that it rapidly decreasing!!!

squizita · 25/02/2014 19:14

Jbird I've been at the bels already.

Total WOO CONGRATULATIONS! :) :) :)

bakingtins · 25/02/2014 19:17

Congratulations total and welcome to the big wide world baby James!

fod27 · 25/02/2014 19:25

Thanks squiz and guff I hope she gets her bottom into gear soon ;)

Yayyyy for total and her little man! Über jealous but mega pleased for you!!!

Quick question guys I've been loosing lots and lots of discharge - is this normal?

fod27 · 25/02/2014 19:35

Ooooo saggy just seen youvd had a show!!!!! Yayyyy!!!

Aoifebelle · 25/02/2014 19:49

Woo hoo. Thread baby. Nice size and all. I like James. Made the mistake of looking on the baby name thread yesterday. People there are just nasty.

I am building up a good head of scan doom. Also have incredibly sore boobs. If there is no baby in there it will shock me to my core.

GuffSmuggler · 25/02/2014 20:47

Fabulous news total!!! You did it!!!!!! Grin Grin Grin Enjoy those lovely, gorgeous, snuggly cuddles. Hope you recover quickly xxx

JBrd · 25/02/2014 20:54

Congratulations total how lovely! Well done you and welcome baby James! Hope you're all feeling well and recovering quickly Thanks xx

I still feel bleurgh, even though I just had a very substantial dinner of 'posh' beans and tuna salad (couldn't be bothered to cook, opening tins was all I felt capable of).
I will now make myself a cup of (Roiboosh) tea, quickly wash my hair while it cools down and then retreat to my lovely bed and continue to watch Despicable Me 2. My life rocks Grin

BobaFetaCheese · 25/02/2014 20:59

Congrats Total! Lovely name!!

MrsGiraffe12 · 25/02/2014 21:00

Congratulations total on the arrival of baby James :-)

Now it's time for all the other due date babies to get a shift on.

Got my scan tomorrow. DH starting to panic we won't see anything there and that I've had a mmc again. Which doesn't help the nerves I'm sure. Keep repeating the mantra to myself...and will ask the sonographer to keep my screen off till she/he sees baby is ok x

squizita · 25/02/2014 21:05

Aoife I can imagine the bitchiness on the forum. Shock
I have a spooky story about names from work. A child/teen I work with suddenly asked me "do you want kids one day miss?" I said "yes" and she looked at me and said "I think you'll have a little boy one day and he will be called ... MICHAEL."

Michael is the family name for oldest sons in DH's family. She wouldn't know this and isn't even from a culture where that would be a normal name. Obvs, she doesn't know I'm up le duff.

SPOOOOOOOOKY.

fod27 · 25/02/2014 21:13

Good luck for tomorrow Mrs G I'll be thinking of you abd sending lots of posifrickintivity

Sounds like a perfect night to me JBrd - no mither just simplicity ;) I on the other hand have gutted the house and packed a second changing bag (much wishful thinking)

fedupofrainydays · 25/02/2014 21:35

fod I know tmi but what's the discharge like? Could it be waters? I have a lot of milky / creamy cm going on but that's early preg for you.

Good luck with scans mrsg will be thinking of you.

Spooky indeed aoife

I watched one born every minute earlier and cried the whole way through. I just so want my baby now too but oh so long to go... Each day feels like an eternity.

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