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guess what mum, i've been having sex!

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gigglinggoblin · 01/08/2006 20:10

why is it that even tho i am not a teenager, i live with my partner and this is baby number 4 i am terrified of telling my mum i am pg? its not even like she wont be pleased, i know she will.

i just cant think of a way to tell her. have decided only option is text message. someone please tell me how to get over feeling like a naughty schoolgirl, i have to tell her soon cos im getting fat!

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ssd · 01/08/2006 20:12

congrats, your mum'll be delighted!

Chandra · 01/08/2006 20:14

What about telling her the story of the bees?

Congratulations!!!

MumRum · 01/08/2006 20:14

congratulations...
can you give her a baby cup/bottle and ask if you can keep it at her place... it will be fun seeing her face as the penny drops...

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gigglinggoblin · 01/08/2006 20:16

whats the story of the bees?

baby cup would work if i didnt already have 3 kids very well catered for there!

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LucyJones · 01/08/2006 20:17

aw, don't tell her by text, I'd be gutted if I found out about a member of my family that way...

shhhh · 01/08/2006 20:23

I know what you mean..!!! I have been the same when having to tell my parents about being pregnant..! I to live with dh..!! Suppose it doesn't get any easier..I have never told my dad though..thats my mum's job ..!!!

Congrats!!

Chandra · 01/08/2006 20:24

BAsically is the way to explain kids about reproduction without entering into sexual details: "so the little bees went from flower to flower etc..."

But I think that sending her a postacard congratulating her on her 4th "grannyhood" could do the trick

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gigglinggoblin · 01/08/2006 20:27

o dear god, i couldnt tell my dad! my mum will also have to tell my grandmother as i just cant do it. we sent dps mum a birthday card saying happy birthday granny to let her know but no one has a birthday anytime soon so cant use that one. also considered leaving a scan picture on the table but i wont get one for another few weeks and she needs to have been told by then (stomach muscles struggling to hold things in 4th time round).

would you really be gutted to get a text lucy? its not like its her first grandchild, am hoping maybe the novelty will be wearing off by now...

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gigglinggoblin · 01/08/2006 20:28

hmm, postcard is interesting idea, she would have a little keepsake aswell then. that could be seen as doing something nice rather than just chickening out!

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LucyJones · 01/08/2006 20:28

yes! a text is so impersonal!! Congrats by the way

waterfalls · 01/08/2006 20:29

Send her a card and put guess what on the front, and a scan pic inside.

quootiepie · 01/08/2006 20:34

Just popped in to say (nothing helpful but) Im too scared to even conceive no. 2 for fear of my mum. Im gonna wait about 3-5 years I have to become an accountant, then I can be a SAHM... (????)

heavenis · 01/08/2006 20:39

Does she do any knitting,if so ask her if she has any spare wool she says why,you say in x amount of months I'll need a baby blanket. Would it be easier to tell her by phone.

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gigglinggoblin · 01/08/2006 20:39

lol @ accountant!

thanks for congrats, havent told anyone in rl yet, cant tell other people before my mum! just have to take a deep breath and get it over with

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/08/2006 20:40

I know what you are going through ggg. When I conceived no 4, I didn't know who to tell my parents either. Having a fourth child just seemed rather extravagant and , at times when the other 3 were winding me up, downright foolish.

In the end, the moment was taken away from me. I was rushed into hospital with a suspected miscarriage and my dh had to ring up my parents and explain very quickly that I was pregnant, but probably not anymore and could they come and look after the others while dh and I were in hospital. I didn't actually lose the baby and I can well remember my dad visiting in hospital and saying "so, a fourth baby?" and me grinning with relief at still having my baby and saying "looks like it..."

Oh btw, don't do the text message. that can't be right.

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gigglinggoblin · 01/08/2006 20:40

ooh, knitting, yes! i could leave her a load of wool on the table with a blanket order! have told her by phone before, found that horrendously embarassing aswell

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/08/2006 20:44

I shook with nerves when I had to tell my parents about No 1 and yes I was married etc too!

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gigglinggoblin · 01/08/2006 20:49

i think you have summed it up really well with the extravagant/foolish thing dg! thats possibly part of the problem, i just feel a bit silly. so glad things worked out for you tho,i am terrified something is going to go horribly wrong this time, i feel that 4 normal healthy pregnancies is pushing my luck

nice to know im not the only one who doesnt want to tell parents.

i think maybe a card is the way to go, i suppose you are right about text messages, but it just seems so easy!

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/08/2006 21:36

I had that feeling that something would go wrong all the way through my fourth pg GG. (OK, a couple of things did go wrong - the near miscarriage was actually me losing an undeveloped twin, and then later on I had a high Downs result). I am sure though that most of my worries were totally related to the feeling that I wsa being extravagant/greedy having a fourth. If you feel a bit the same, then you might go through the pg a bit more anxious than you were for your others, but try not to let it spoil yur pg - especially as it will probably be your last. My baby was fine despite all my worries, and loads of people have 4 or more babies!

Good luck telling your mum! (Wish I could be a fly on the wall!)

emzickle · 02/08/2006 13:54

When I told my mum there was a horrible biuld up then a huge anti climax...She was sitting at her kitchen table and I started to unpack the dishwasher for her, trying to mask my shaking hands, I asked her in a stupid voice "why do you think Laurence and I are in SUCH a rush to get the house sale through"...

and she answered the question for me

good luck though x x

Iklboo · 02/08/2006 13:56

I phoned my folks and said "Do you want to be called Nana or Grandma" (mind you, are married)

JennyLee · 02/08/2006 14:50

Quootiepie I'm in a similar situation have a 7 year old then went to college then uni , now have to do 4th year and do someting with the degree before i'm allowed anymore {according to my parents) this is just implied by them but keeps me from dropping everything and ttc. (im 29)

JennyLee · 02/08/2006 14:54

Congratulations gigglinggoblin

when people ask me if Im having more my Dad answers for me 'NO'!

would not tell my parents untill it was obvious but I think if you got a card like others suggested or go to the sshops and bought baby stuff in front of you mum so she ask s you, or tell your other kids so they tell her lol

FoghornLeghorn · 02/08/2006 14:55

I had no choice but to tell my mum by text as she was in a different country. We already have a DD but as we found out we were expecting again in March and we were getting married in July I though my mum would freak completely - so I pansied out and sent her a text from DD saying "I'm going to be a big sister".
I had to tell her straight away because DH is a big blabber mouth and I didn't want anyone else to know until all parents had been told.
Congrats btw

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