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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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guess what mum, i've been having sex!

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gigglinggoblin · 01/08/2006 20:10

why is it that even tho i am not a teenager, i live with my partner and this is baby number 4 i am terrified of telling my mum i am pg? its not even like she wont be pleased, i know she will.

i just cant think of a way to tell her. have decided only option is text message. someone please tell me how to get over feeling like a naughty schoolgirl, i have to tell her soon cos im getting fat!

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MacSporran · 02/08/2006 15:00

Ah, I did that too, put dd on the phone and told her to tell gran that she was going to be a big sister. My mum promptly burst into tears at the thought of being a grandmother twice as dh and I had said we were only going to have 1 child.

DogMum · 02/08/2006 15:02

Hi gigglinggoblin. Congratulations on your news. It's funny how we all feel we're telling our parents we've had sex when we're having a baby. (DP and I are nearly forty and it still felt like that.) The truth is they got used to the idea of your having sex long before you thought they knew! (Oh yes.) We had to tell my Dad because Mum died a couple of years ago. And the novelty doesn't wear off for them. This is my Dad's seventh grandchild and the very idea has given him a new lease of life. He's looking ahead for the first time since Mum died.

Go on, make the most of your Mum. Tell her in person, she'll be thrilled to bits.

ChaCha · 02/08/2006 15:45

Congratulations

I couldn't tell my inlaws for some reason, felt very silly and childlike, left that to DH who was cajoling me to do it!!

Strangely enough, i found out that i was PG with DS, 12 days after my father arrived for his summer visit, as we'd been trying a while dad was convinced it was due to his bringing blessings with him from afar

Better still, he arrived this year for his summer visit and i found out i was PG with this one just a few weeks after....now you can imagine what he said this time!!! So embarrassing especially when you hear him tell 'his' story to everyone!!!!

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 02/08/2006 15:53

I got DH to phone my dad when I was expecting Becky! I just could nto do it - I had it in my head he would freak out because Jess was onyl 6 months old.

Dad knew the minute he answered the phone and heard DH's voice!!!

cazboldy · 02/08/2006 17:00

I have been in exactly this situation. I have 4 children and last time I left it til I was 13 weeks and then burst into tears when I was on the phone to my mum and blurted it out and she just said " oh no not again!" this actually really annoyed me and i told her that any normal person would be thrilled and hung up. I am only 24 and I did expect that reaction but tbh I hardly ever ask her for any help with the kiddies and just couldn't see why she had to be so negative. All I will say is don't let their feelings spoil your happiness! Congratulations x

SophieB · 02/08/2006 17:33

Tell your mum in person, i considered doing it over text message but my friends told me that was a terrible way of telling her, so i pluked up the courage along with my partner, sat down with him and my parents and told them, they didnt take to the news very well, i was 21 when i told them, but now im 33 weeks and i havent got long to go, theycarnt wait for the baby to arrive! i know its hard to tell your mum in person but its the best way!

ELM · 02/08/2006 20:09

If you can't do it in person/by phone..what about sending her some flowers, with congratulations- your going to be a grandma/granny/nana again on the card?
If you know she is going to be pleased the flowers will add a little sparkle, and if you're worried she won't be then it will give her a little time to compose herself before talking to you and maybe stop her saying something in the moment that she may regret later?
Congratulations by the way!!

cutekids · 02/08/2006 20:39

I was having fertility treatment when I first got pregnant-at 30!.i rang my mum and all she could go on about at the time was Diana's death-she'd died about 3 days before. I said, "Never mind Mum, i've got some good news at last".(Bearing in mind i hadn't seen her for about 2 years as we'd moved away!)."Oh no, you're not pregnant are you?"!(She knew i'd been desperate for years!).When pregnant with my son (3months after first daughter was born, she was disgusted.) When I found I was pregnant with 3rd child (son was only 3 months old!) I waited until my hubbie had gone back abroad to work and made him tell my Mum over the phone ( i only lived 20 minutes away from her by then and I was 32! (By the way, she loves them all to bits now!)

prozacmighthelp · 02/08/2006 20:45

The first time I told my mum I was pregnant her first words were "I thought you were on the pill" But inlaws were thrilled! 2nd time, my mum had a dream I was pregnant and when she told me I said I was 12 weeks Inlaws weren't so pleased that time as SIL was having probs TTC.

Congrats GGG

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gigglinggoblin · 04/08/2006 11:30

told a friend last night by text as i am going out with her tonight and cant be bothered making up excuses not to drink and now feel a bit better as its not such a big secret. was all psyched up to tell my mum after 1st mw appt on tues as i thought she would try to hear heartbeat but she refused to even have a go not pleased. anyway have scan on 16th aug so will tell her then (prob by phone) when i know all is ok. think half the problem is that i dont believe it til scan so is hard telling other people, especially people who will get excited.

at some of these stories tho, i am squirming with embarassment, its not cos i am worried abhout her response. god knows how i would do it if i thought she would be unhappy!

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BROWNY · 04/08/2006 11:41

Congratulations Gigglinggoblin!!

When I was expecting my fourth baby, we had just told my other children the night before when my Dad came the next morning - I didn't have to worry about how to tell my Dad that another Grandchild was on the way, because my youngest who was then only just 4 said, "Grandad, mummy's preggannannt!! Dad replied, "you arn't are you?" and I grinned and he hugged me! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

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gigglinggoblin · 04/08/2006 11:44

now thats a fantastic thought browny! ds1 cant keep a secret, i could pretend i was going to tell her but he got there 1st

i am such a wimp, gettting a 7yo to do my dirty work

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BROWNY · 04/08/2006 11:49

Glad you liked the idea! I've now a very, adorable 2 year old son and a very full house of toys! Wishing you a lovely, happy pregnancy and a lovely, quick, easy birth! xx

alexsmum · 04/08/2006 11:50

i gave my mum a gift bag with a positive preg test in it!

TambaIsBadBadBad · 04/08/2006 11:51

My mom says it was worse for her having to tell her 23 year old daughter (me) she was pregnant recently

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