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Nine weeks pregnant, but scan showed just under six weeks gestation..

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IrnBruTheNoo · 30/01/2014 12:35

I've had brown discharge with minute pink discharge occasionally for the past five days, on and off, with a dull ache, crampy feeling....

Sonographer said there's a heartbeat (which I also witnessed on the screen). Seem like good news, but found it hard to get excited about this.

Is the outcome likely to be good? Or should I just expect the worst? Anyone out there been in the position of measuring small for their dates and it's turned out well in the end?

DH suspects that the embryo did not implant straight away to explain the lag in time. Not sure that I feel very convinced....

What a worrying time :(

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eurochick · 06/02/2014 10:24

I'm sorry it was not good news. I found the miscarriage forum (under Body and Soul) was a great source of information and support when I went through it last year. Be kind to yourself over the coming weeks. I felt very drained by mine and it took me longer than I expected to feel like myself again.

Pixielady83 · 06/02/2014 10:25

So sorry to hear this irn Thanks hope you get the chance to rest and recover in the next couple of weeks (easier said than done with 2 dc I'm sure). Wishing you all the very best for the future.

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IrnBruTheNoo · 06/02/2014 10:27

I've chosen natural management, as I do not want any procedures done unless it's an absolute necessity. I have had a MMC before, so this is the second time for me and it's not as scary this time round. I also opted for natural management the first time. I have passed most of the products (hate that word) now and had horrendous pain yesterday afternoon. On 500/80 co-codamol four hourly to keep the pain at bay. Pain is starting to ease today, not as bad as yesterday.

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IrnBruTheNoo · 06/02/2014 10:29

Thanks pixie and eurochick. Just wanted to update in case others needed advice and went through a similar shitty time. Things can only get easier, trying to rest as much as possible. DH has been fantastic since it all happened yesterday (a few hours after leaving EPU).

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stickysausages · 06/02/2014 10:32

So sorry, look after yourself.

I've had the medical management twice & felt quite washed out after, get a good supplement with iron, like floradix.

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Armadale · 06/02/2014 11:41

I'm so sorry it wasn't good news Thanks

Metalhead · 06/02/2014 14:51

I'm so sorry it was bad news IrnBru. Hope you get lots of support from your family.

And thanks for the well wishes, I'm quietly hoping for good news at my scan on Wednesday but at the same feel like I've already accepted that it might not be.

bakingtins · 06/02/2014 18:46

irn I'm so sorry it was bad news Flowers

Bonnella20 · 07/02/2014 08:30

IrnBruThenoo I'm sorry to hear your in this situation. I totally understand the wait thing. I'm waiting to go back for another scan after they could only find a sac. From reading different stories and threads I believe people have been in this situation then the baby catches up with itself, some are just slower developers. It's hard to stay positive, I've run all different scenarios through my mind and pretty sure it's not going to end well for me but I hope all is good for you and you gy positive outcome, try not to stress xx

Bonnella20 · 07/02/2014 08:31

I'm sorry I've just seen all the most recent replies :( my apologies, take care x

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IrnBruTheNoo · 07/02/2014 12:46

Let me know how you get on Metalhead next Wednesday Flowers

Thanks to everyone who has been supportive whilst I went through that horrific waiting period earlier this week and last week. I am just glad to know it's over with and I can just get on with my life now.

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Metalhead · 07/02/2014 13:56

Will do IrnBru. Hope you'll start to feel a bit better (physically at least) over the weekend.

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IrnBruTheNoo · 08/02/2014 12:42

Midwife called me yesterday afternoon to ask how I was doing, and I told her most of it has passed. Follow up scan is on Wednesday next week (there must be something about this particular day of the week!) and I just hope it's all clear so I won't need to return to EPU again.

I'm still tender around the lower tummy area (because of the contraction type pains from Wednesday) but I'm getting there. Dad has taken the DC out for the afternoon, and he stayed over night to help first thing this morning so I didn't have to rush to get DC breakfast, dressed etc. Very kind of him. Brother is helping me out all day tomorrow (DH working this weekend). Hoping to physically be all back to normal on Monday, but emotionally it will be a while before I feel fine again. More than anything I'm just mentally and physically exhausted just now. Plenty of rest is needed! :)

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Metalhead · 08/02/2014 14:06

Glad you're getting lots of help at home IrnBru, sounds like your family are all very supportive. Try and take it easy and relax as much as you can!

My DD has come down with chicken pox, so it looks like I'll be going to the scan on my own, as DH will have to look after her. I'm ok with that though, feeling quite philosophical about everything at the moment.

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IrnBruTheNoo · 08/02/2014 19:14

Just found out my cousin is pregnant, she's got roughly the same EDD I would have had. I thought I was coping fine then I heard this today. I am happy for them, but finding it difficult now because it's really starting to hit home there won't be a baby in September for us..

I had a feeling that I'd hear good news like this from a relative or friend just as I had my bad news. It happened the last time I had a MMC. It's hard enough coping without hearing this a few days after it's happened.

Ah, you're poor DD, hope she gets better soon. My two had pox a few years ago at the same time, what a nightmare! I went to the first scan on my own two weeks ago and it wasn't too bad (DS2 was unwell so DH had to stay at home with him).

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IrnBruTheNoo · 08/02/2014 19:14

*your - can't spell today!

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CrispyFB · 08/02/2014 20:32

Just caught up with this - I am so sorry for your loss Sad Flowers I am glad you are out of the limbo at least.

What a law of sod your cousin has a similar EDD - not what you need at all. It always seems to be the way.

Good luck Metalhead for Wednesday.

Metalhead · 08/02/2014 21:57

Thanks Crispy.

How annoying about your cousin IrnBru, that really is bad timing and not what you need right now...

Metalhead · 12/02/2014 10:15

Today is D-day for me, got my scan at 3pm... I'm scared!!

firstbaby01 · 12/02/2014 10:44

Good luck! I hope it all goes well and you have a little wriggly bean waving at you. Il be keeping my fingers crossed Thanks

Kellsbelles83 · 12/02/2014 11:17

I'm so sorry to hear you had to go through this IrnBru. I went through similar in october. 9 weeks - scan showed 5 1/2 weeks w/hb. 11 weks scan due to spotting showed no hb or growth. I tried natural management but after 6 days and nothing happening, I went for medical management which was the worse thing I ever did. I ended up bleeding extremely heavily for 6 hours before I started getting unwell. I had to go to hospital and have emergency surgery and a blood transfusion. Pregnant again now and I'm so scared! Had a scan on monday and all looks good for 6 weeks but I'm still scared. All the best for everyone in the future.

sebsmummy1 · 12/02/2014 11:33

So sorry IrnBru Sad. I was also due in September and lost the pregnancy a week and a half ago.

I think it's natural to have good days and bad days. You think you are coping well and then something happens that feels like a kick in the stomach. You will get through this though and you have two beautiful children who you can give me big cuddle to when you feel like crap.

Take some time out and you may reconsider when you feel stronger. I have opted to start trying again straight away as I have just the one DS and I'm keen to give him a sibling, plus I think my experience was slightly easier psychologically as a mc had been on the cards from the get go and I never even saw a heart beat.

Sending you huge hugs xxxx

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IrnBruTheNoo · 12/02/2014 16:46

Thanks sebsmummy1, and really sorry also for your loss, wishing you all the best that you fall pregnant again quickly for your DS to get a sibling. Pregnancy and TTC itself is just so very stressful. It's a worrying time for so many of us.

Kellsbelles I am sorry for your loss after having similar experiences as myself, and wishing you all the best in this pregnancy. I'm sure it will be okay this time round :)

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IrnBruTheNoo · 12/02/2014 16:49

How did you get on with your scan this afternoon Metalhead?

I had my scan this morning and the miscarriage is complete, and the midwife also asked me to do a pregnancy test and it showed positive so the hormones are still circulating around in my system for now, will gradually go down over the next few weeks. She said to use protection as I'm at risk of falling pregnant easily just now, but there's just no chance of that. Not interested in sex at all.

Was thinking of you today Metalhead and hoping you've had a better outcome than I did last week.

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Metalhead · 12/02/2014 17:35

Thanks IrnBru, unfortunately it was bad news for me too. No heartbeat and smaller CRL measurement than last time, so looks like mmc. Got an appt at the hospital tomorrow to discuss options.

Glad to hear your miscarriage is complete, hopefully you can move on now.

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