Any pregnant mums to be out there over the age of 35?

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I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant with DC3. Hubby and I are the only ones that know at the moment, but I did tell a close friend and colleague (just in case anything should happen at work). Her general response was an excited one, but then she started reminding me how old I will be before I get my life back (i.e. nearly 60).

I will be 37 when this little one is born and my colleague has made be feel practically geriatric!

Any other "ancient" mums-to-be out there?

I'm 34 , 35 this year and preggers with first one

My sister was 37 when she had hers and my other sister 42.

So don't feel old :-)

I am 37, will be 38 in april, baby 1 due in June and have every intention of having a second (before i'm 40 god willing)

Maybe it's different in Dublin but i dont feel old at all- i'm average enough amongst my group of friends, i've a really close pal who's having her first at 40. I've had no comments at all about it. I do hear that in remote/country areas though that they all have babies well under 30!! so maybe it's a city thing to wait a little longer! maybe it's because we have more exciting lives :)

H&H pregnancy to you and f* the begrudgers!

I'm 38 will be 39 about a month after they are born (dc1+2) for me. I'm not overly worried - after all there's absolutely nothing I can do about it.

I've got a mixed bag in terms of friends my age - got some whose kids are already teenagers and some who have babies/toddlers

Enjoy ... And don't worry about people's comments - I've had a few of them - but on the whole most people have been really excited and pleased for me
:)

Where i live it's quite normal to be an older mum (house prices etc'). I had no choice in the matter, tentatively pregnant after several losses and I'm 35.
Some people say heartless things, suggesting it was me having a career which caused the losses, or anything to fit their stereotype.

It's not even such a new thing as people believe ... after WW2 lots of 30+ women had babies after 'time apart' from husband and in Victorian times you kept going till menopause basically! I think too many people live in a "under 26 ... teen mum, over 30... career bitch" judgement world and need to mind their manners.

rant over.

I'm 37 and having mine in a couple of weeks. How nasty of your colleague to say you'll be 60 before you get your life back - your kid will be 23 by then and hopefully will have been independent for quite a few years by then!

I'll be 35 just before the baby is born. Out of my friendship group who are preggers / just had kids I am the youngest. The eldest with her first is 38.

Its always been normal for women to have kids in their 30's especially if they have a larger family.

congrats

I am 38 and pregnant with my first; will be just shy of turning 39 when the baby arrives. I am the oldest amongst my group of friends but at the ante-natal clinic and yoga group I go to I am definitely not the oldest. It's such a non-issue these days, but unfortunately some people just like to have a dig, about something, anything. And apart from not having met my dh until my mid-30s, it is only now that I feel properly psyched to have a baby. Congratulations and enjoy!

I agree Swamp, i genuinely would not have felt 'ready' for a baby before now. I cannot imagine being a mother in her 20s. At that stage of my lfie i was busy climbing corporate ladders and indeed mountains around the world, so dont regret waiting for one second.

Furthermore, we got pregnant on first attempt, so the scaremongering about it taking 6 mths+ min over the age of 35 does not always ring true either. But maybe we just got v lucky.

I am 30 weeks pregnant with dc3 and turned 38 last November, tell your work colleague to bugger off with the insults :)

Congratulations :) I'm 38, will be 39 a few months after DC1 is born in June :)

I think that was a really rude thing for your colleague to say. She should maybe have kept that to herself. If anyone had said that to me I'd be raging.

Its not unusual to have children in your late 30s where I live, so I don't feel ancient, and also I didn't meet my DH until I was 34, so to be honest we've not exactly been hanging back! It took me all of 10 weeks to get pregnant after stopping the pill, so I feel very lucky.

I didn't feel ready to have a child until now anyway - I too have been travelling, getting my career established and generally growing up until now. I know that I'll be a good parent now, whereas I would have been terrible in my 20s.

There is def more 'older' mums around now. My DS is 15 weeks and I'm 42 and will be trying again in a few months when I'll be 43!

43 is the new 33 Foxeym, very common nowadays to have a baby into your 40s, 10 years ago you would probably have been hospitalised from conception!!!

This has made me feel much better, everyone, thank you.

I must admit - I'm expecting a similar reaction off my mum when I tell her. She had 3 children by the age of 27, so I'll be a whole 10 years older than she was. She was only teasing me last night about it only being 3 years til I turn 40.

Chicamomma - we also got pregnant this time on our first attempt. In fact, hubby desperately wanted a third but I was less sure, so I told him he had one shot at it. And, hey presto! Here we are!

Women have always had baby's in their 40 ' s. I'm 40 & dc6 is due today.

The change or shift is women choosing not to have their families until their late 30 ' s or 40 ' s.

I'm much healthier then my mother was at 40. I have an underactive thyroid but no health problems.

There are loads of us!!

why 60 before you get your life back? that's bizarre.

i'm 36 and pregnant with my 3rd too. my youngest is nearly 7 and he hasn't taken my life. work saps the life from me, not my children. they are little and dependent for such a short space of time.

your friend is talking out of her arse.

nevergoogle: that made me laugh out loud then. You hit the nail on the head with how I feel - that they're only dependant on us for such a short time, and when they're older I will sorely miss their baby days. Although, I must admit, it IS my children that sap my energy - not my work. I find being at work FAR easier than I do staying at home. (I work 3 days a week and have far more energy on those evenings than I do when I've spent the day at home with my 4 and 2 year olds.)

Almost 34 with my first. Put it off due to not having stable finances. Still don't really have that stable finances but didn't want time to run out!

yes 4 and 2 year olds are hard work. however,
the school called and i'm spending the day with a poorly 9 year old. (I suspect he has developed an allergy to maths), so am making sure he's not having too much fun. Duvet, film and supply of food. It's easy when they're 9.

congratulations.

I've done all age groups, i was 21 when preg with my DS, 30 with DD1 and 36 with DD2. Health wise the last one was a tough pregnancy but wasn't anything to do with my age. I struggled financially after my son was born when I ended up a single parent at 22yrs old. Much better off financially being older and also I'm much more chilled out now and less likely to stress over the small stuff.

I probably spend more time having fun with my girls than I ever did with my son just due to circumstances. They certainly don't take over my life though.

Oh and i'm 40, my kids are 18, 9 and 4

it's nothing new to have children in your late thirties or early forties. what is new is that women are having their first child at this age. but then, my grandmother had her first at 31. my mum had my sister at 33.

I'm 37, pg with my second. I was 36 when I had my first. only one person in my nct group was a young 20 something. Ages ranged from 31 to 41. And that was just first timers. how many people are having a surprise third or fourth baby nearing or into their forties? quite a few, I'd venture. and they don't think their life is over.

I had my 4 dds between the ages of 35 and 40. Yes, life has been a little on hold for the past few years. Four kids born in 5 years and 2 mons will probably do at. I feel lucky that I made the most of my years up til the age of 35 travelling, focussing on my career etc etc.

We are also a lot better set up financially having our kids later. I always knew I'd have kids later, started trying at 31 but infertility and stillbirth saw that I was 35 when my first surviving dd arrived.

If I thought I could manage it, I'd have more too. At the ripe old age of 42!

another one here. 13 weeks pregnant with my first, i'm 36, will be 37 a month after the baby arrives. I didn't meet dh until I was 32 and for the first 2 years of our relationship, we were long-distance. doesn't make ttc that easy!!!

I think they do class us as 'geriatric' over 35. I couldn't believe it when I first saw it written down but obviously it's terminology that's still in use and I guess they are saying we have an increased risk because of it.

I had my first at 37 and my second will be due (assuming this pregnancy goes to term) when I am 39. My sister had her two in her forties and the pregnancies were fine.

Oh and I would totally agree about older mothers becoming normal. I meet so many other mums my age and older at baby/toddler groups.