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Any pregnant mums to be out there over the age of 35?

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mandbaby · 28/01/2014 13:02

I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant with DC3. Hubby and I are the only ones that know at the moment, but I did tell a close friend and colleague (just in case anything should happen at work). Her general response was an excited one, but then she started reminding me how old I will be before I get my life back (i.e. nearly 60).

I will be 37 when this little one is born and my colleague has made be feel practically geriatric!

Any other "ancient" mums-to-be out there?

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Wuxiapian · 28/01/2014 15:22

I was 20 when DC1 was born.
I was almost 35 when DC2 was born.
I'll be almost 36 when DC3 is born.

I feel young in my outlook, but my body feels about 75 with this pregnancy!

ChicaMomma · 28/01/2014 15:29

I havent been classified as anything anywhere yet- none of my charts or anything mention geriatric thank god. The nerve of them! way to make you feel even more horrible than you already do!!

squizita · 28/01/2014 15:35

Sebs when my mum had me (at 28) they wrote that on hers in the 70s! It's gone up because women ARE healthier and longer living these days. :)

JosieMcDozie · 28/01/2014 15:38

I had my first ds at 35 and am now 30 weeks with second ds at 39. Have not ruled out a third either my sister was 39 with first dd and 40 with second dd. does colleague have children??

lizziekal · 28/01/2014 15:46

39 with my first and my being an 'older mother' has only been mentioned once. Pretty common here in Italy to have kids in your late 30s/early 40s.

aspergersrus · 28/01/2014 15:53

I had my first child at 19, second at 21, third at 39 and 4th at 43 am now 49 and youngest is 5...still feel in my 20's, don't look it though ;)

SicknSpan · 28/01/2014 15:58

Your colleague has got a very odd way if looking at the world if she thinks you need your children to be adult before you "get your life back"- it's not like you stop living once you give birth and only resume when they've left home! How strange. Sounds like she resented having children/has a unrealistic view of what being a family means.

Congratulations by the way. I am nearly 38 and pg with an unexpected but delightful 3rd baby, I'm finding it physically harder than the first (10 years ago so no surprise really!) But us women are made for doing this, things might get a bit more wearing the older we get but we're still pretty darn good at it!

livingzuid · 28/01/2014 15:58

I'll be turning 36 soon after the birth. I couldn't care less about the age thing. It's our first and I have hopes of a second in a year or two. All my friends are having their kids now and it doesn't matter now I don't think. If you're comfortable with it then that's the main thing.

60 is not old I don't think either. My parents would be very offended to be put in the old person category, still running marathons, working, travelling, enjoying life!

Strongecoffeeismydrug · 28/01/2014 17:09

I had first at age 21 and everyone said I was too young.
Second at 30 and it said advanced maternal age on my hospital notes( cheeky feckers).
I'm now excepting number 3 in a week and nobody ( not even the hospital ) have mentioned my age .
And I've sailed through this pregnancy just like I did the others .

Strongecoffeeismydrug · 28/01/2014 17:10

Forgot to sayim now 40 so I is well old lol

YouAreMyFavouriteWasteOfTime · 28/01/2014 17:18

I am an ancient 40 years old. however I got pregnant first month of TTC so there is life in the old dog yet!

Irishmammybread · 28/01/2014 19:06

I think I'm the oldest!
I had DS in my 20s, DD1 and DD2 in my 30s and am currently nearly 28 weeks pregnant with DC4 (though had multiple miscarriages before this pregnancy).
I'm 45 but will be 46 when baby is born.
I am under consultant led care and classed as high risk due to "advanced maternal age" but apart from the usual varicose veins,back ache,tiredness etc which you expect with any pregnancy there have been no complications so far .
We're all really looking forward to the new arrival and change in the family dynamic!

dats · 28/01/2014 19:44

I'm 41 and I'm 28 weeks today with first babe. No one (care-wise or otherwise) has batted a eyelid about my age and I've had a really easy time until SPD showed up a few weeks ago. I've been pleasantly surprised really. Bring on the sleepless ni...oh noooo actually, don't

TobyLerone · 28/01/2014 20:25

I've just given birth to DC3 at 36. My other DC were born at 22 & 23.

It was my easiest pregnancy by far, and a fairly easy birth. And so far, 3 weeks in, it's not too hard :)

Plateofcrumbs · 28/01/2014 20:33

I'm 36 and DH is 40. We have been together nearly 15 years and have owned a home, had stable finances etc for ages - we just didn't feel "ready" (eventually I realised you never really feel ready but you just have to take the plunge).

DH is a twin and his brother and SIL had children early: the age gap between me and our niece will be the same as the age gap between her and her baby cousin! Strange that we're just starting as they're preparing for an empty nest!

OwlinaTree · 28/01/2014 22:27

I'm 36 and expecting a baby in 5 weeks. Hoping to havemore too!

Ilovekittyelise · 29/01/2014 08:30

i had my first at 35 and second at 37.

if i had met my husband younger maybe it would have ended up being a year or two sooner, but certainly not much. iv enjoyed being able to travel, do nice things and enjoy my life both before and after.

my mother was a professional woman who gave it all up when she had family, and placed all her trust in my dad to provide on the financial side. by the time they divorced she was already re training in a different profession but rather than being a senior level high earning employee (as she would have been without career break) she had to start again. i have always vowed that however much i love and trust, i will keep up to date with my career and always be in a position that ican support myself and my family if need be. not something i want to do but being an equal partner in every respect is important to me and not something i could have done had i had children in my twenties.

i know plenty of other people choose to do it the other way round and it works out fine, but from what iv seen women who do it later on do tend to have more confidence as parents, and possibly with a few more life experiences under the belt are a bit thicker skinned?

Ilovekittyelise · 29/01/2014 08:32

when i say not something i want to do, i mean not be with my husband, rather than work!

Ilovekittyelise · 29/01/2014 08:32

when i say not something i want to do, i mean not be with my husband, rather than work!

firstpglivingabroad · 29/01/2014 11:43

I'm also 37 and expecting DC1 - a complete accident, will be 38 a month after EDD. Worried about the next few years yes, but not being tied to the child until I'm 60. Fully intend to continue my adventures with a little one in tow. (finances permitting)

LightTripper · 29/01/2014 11:55

I'm 38 and pregnant with my first. Nobody has even mentioned it (apart from me )! My mum was 38 with me and 42 (a week off 43) with my sister, so I guess it never seemed that weird in our family.

As for the "getting your life back" thing ... my friends with older kids who are starting to go to Uni don't want them to go! Even friends with kids going to school are sad because they are seeing less of them (also proud of course, but also a bit sad). So I don't think it's something real people with kids actually worry about.

There are pros and cons to any age. I'm sure I would have had more energy when I was younger. I also would have worried a lot more and been less confident to stick up for myself and my child. And I would probably have felt I was "missing out" more then (parties etc) than in my 30s, when a lot of my friends have kids and most people having birthdays etc. have kid-friendly ones.

I don't believe that anybody really chooses when to have a baby because they are the ideal age - they have a baby when their life is in the right place to build a happy family around that child, which can be any age.

People can be so judgemental, but that's their business - just be glad you are open minded and not like them!

LT xx

MrsPatMustard · 29/01/2014 14:01

I'm 6 weeks off turning 40 and have just given birth to dc1. I thought I'd be classed as geriatric too but I wasn't even the oldest in my NCT class. It's not unusual anymore...

Franchini · 29/01/2014 20:09

I'm 39 having twins hopefully they will be delivered before my 40th in March!
They are ivf we had been trying to have babies for 6 years before my dd was born in 2011 also ivf!

Woweeeee · 29/01/2014 20:13

Hey everyone,

I am new round here :)

BFP a couple of weeks back and now into my 7th week with my first! It's like a miracle since I have been told the chances of conceiving would be very slim so never really planned for this. Excited and terrified at the same time. Nervous and happy - what a mix of emotions....

Wanted to put a message here as this is my first baby and I am 41.... Husband is 5 years younger than me (my toy boy ;)) and we are both delighted !

Heatherbell1978 · 29/01/2014 20:24

Hi I'm also a newbie but have been browsing for a while;-) I'm 36 and 11 weeks pregnant with my first. I had a miscarriage in November at 6 weeks after falling pregnant first month TTC and then I conceived again immediately after. Fingers crossed this all goes well. I've spent years worrying I'd left it too late but was too busy travelling, focusing on my career and finding the right man (!) in my 20s and early 30s. Got married in September at 35 and now pregnant at 36. Definitely life in me yet!!

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