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How long do you keep the secret of pregnancy?

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MumKat2 · 26/01/2014 17:39

Hello everyone,

I'm new to mumsnet, and hoping to get some good advice! I'm pregnant with my second baby - my first is only 10 months old. I only just found out I'm pregnant... maybe only 4 weeks pg. Im bursting to tell people, and feels weird to keep to myself! I told my Mum and my sister, but want to share with friends. How long has everyone kept their pregnancies quiet?

Ty
Kat

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teenagetantrums · 26/01/2014 17:43

Just tell them, i told everyone with my second, I know things can go wrong, but i would have told them if they had gone anyway so thought why keep it a secret, i even told work very early.

MrsBungle · 26/01/2014 17:46

I told my close friends and family straightaway. I had no choice but to tell work at 7 weeks both times as that was the start of the numerous hospitalization for hyperemesis. I also told with my miscarriage pregnancy and I would have told the same people anyway.

Nevercan · 26/01/2014 17:49

Congrats! I waited until 3 months when I had the first scan and knew all was well in there

Mummytobe2014 · 26/01/2014 18:10

We found out about 8 weeks confirmed by few tests and then told my parents that eve so we kept it secret for bout 8 hours didnt tell rest of fam for few weeks and didnt tell work until after three month scan (well i told my boss because i needed time off etc for appts)

Writerwannabe83 · 26/01/2014 18:25

Me and DH didn't tell any of our parents or our friends until our first scan had been done and we'd had our NT results back. It was at about the 14 week mark.

91chloejp · 26/01/2014 18:32

I told my mum and sisters at 5 weeks only because I was in hospital with pains and that's when DH and I found out.

I haven't told extended family and I'm 32 weeks; I don't feel the need to as they were bitches when I was pregnant with DS.

Lydiejo · 26/01/2014 18:33

We waited until 10 weeks to tell family, knowing that ours moms especially would not be able to keep it a secret. I liked keeping it to ourselves, I just felt it was private and wanted to wait even though we found out very early and had a scan at 8 weeks.

HalfPintPickle · 26/01/2014 18:36

Told my parents, sister and work at about 5 weeks. DH told his parents at 7 weeks. Will be waiting to tell close friends and other family until after the 12 week scan. Probably not going to do a big FB reveal either this time.

Ragwort · 26/01/2014 18:39

I didn't even realise I was pregnant for the first ten weeks - thought I was menopausal as weren't deliberately trying to get pregnant & I was in my 40s.

I think I then waited until at least 12 weeks but to be honest I didn't make a 'big thing' about telling people ......... I need to come to terms with the news myself . We had actually moved to a new area so a lot of friends didn't even know until I sent them a birth announcement.

Shellywelly1973 · 26/01/2014 18:44

I told my grown up dc at 16 weeks. Everyone else including parents at 19 weeks.

It's my dc6. I had a MMC only few months before & only 1 sister was sympathetic so decided not to say anything until all tests & scans were complete.

eurochick · 26/01/2014 18:45

Who would you tell if things were to go wrong? IMO it's fine to tell this group of people. We had IVF and a few close friends supported me through the process, so they know the outcome (and how nervous I am having previously miscarried). My parents haven't been terribly supportive through the gruelling IVF journey, so I haven't told them yet.

I applied the same rule last time when things did go wrong and it worked out well for me - the people who knew were very supportive and just what I needed through that difficult time.

neversleepagain · 26/01/2014 18:49

Told parents, sisters and best friend straight away then at 12 weeks found out we were having twins and announced pregnancy & twins at 17 weeks.

PenguinsDontEatKale · 26/01/2014 18:50

I have waited longer each time. This is dc3 and most people weren't told until 16-22 weeks

Alb1 · 26/01/2014 18:58

Iv told my mum an best friend but were tryna wait till 12 weeks to tell everyone as we had a miscarriage last time so am extra paranoid this time! However everyone at work is starting to guess so it may be sooner than we'd hoped! (9 weeks now)

randdom · 26/01/2014 19:22

We told three close friends at about 8-10 weeks and then everyone else at 13+4 when we had our scan.

Meglet · 26/01/2014 19:31

I told parents straight away. Then colleagues around 8 weeks, if anything went wrong I would have needed them to know (they were a nice bunch). Gym instructors straight away too.

Then friends and rest of family after 12 week scans.

I was in maternity trousers / jeans by 10 weeks both times so it was pointless not telling people. And I had to cut back on gym classes due to sickness which would have got people muttering, it would have been pretty obvious to people I saw every day.

Steffyjayne23 · 26/01/2014 19:35

We told family straight away and friends at 12 weeks when we had our first scan picture! :) congratulations on your baby!

MissSlackPants84 · 26/01/2014 20:17

Im 15+1 and have only told my very very close family and friends. Dont intend on telling work until after my 20 week scan.

I like having something this exciting a bit of a secret

Cannotbelieveit · 26/01/2014 20:26

Told my parents at 4 weeks, friends we were going on holiday with at 7-8 weeks and work/fb at 18 weeks

CrispyFB · 26/01/2014 21:05

DC3: 38+2 when he was born last time. Close family knew from around 20 weeks, that was about it. He was high risk both for losing him and for chromosomal abnormalities (I didn't want to do invasive testing) so I never felt "safe".

DC4: This time around 20-24 weeks, although we told family after a good Harmony result (wasn't available last time) at 12-14 weeks.

First two we announced after a good NT scan, there were no high risk issues at that point with either.. that was yet to come

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 26/01/2014 21:13

I'm useless! I can't keep it a secret at all! Both my sisters and my best friend knew as soon as I did!

Madonnaquintessential · 26/01/2014 21:19

I told fam and friends straight away... At around 8 weeks. Told work at around 9 weeks- i guess i am awful at secrets and was so happy!

Plateofcrumbs · 26/01/2014 22:54

Immediate family and closest couple of friends: 9 weeks -it was Christmas - would have been impossible to get through Christmas without them working it out, plus it felt like a nice Christmas present. We had an early scan beforehand to check everything looked OK.

Now at 15 weeks I've not told anyone else other than my boss at work. I'd rather not tell anyone else now until after 20 week scan (due to risks flagged up at our 12 week scan) but not sure I can keep hidden that long - bump is already a bit of an issue. Will probably compromise and tell others after we get the full CVS results in another 2-3 weeks, assuming the results are good.

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MumKat2 · 26/01/2014 23:06

Thank you Mummies! Still not sure what to do... I may just go ahead and tell my closest friends, and keep it relatively quiet until first scan....

Thank you all
xxx

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YoungWoman94 · 26/01/2014 23:27

I told my partner straight away and my mum a

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