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Thread for Ladybump (All welcome to come and give advice)

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wheelybug · 31/07/2006 10:21

Hi Ladybump

Good luck with getting your results - the waiting is so hard... Will keep fingers crossed for you.

Anyway, ask away - anything at all....

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ladybump · 31/07/2006 10:33

i started to bleed on friday. was brown and stringy like tissue but not clots. went to epu straight away and they said there was 1 in 3 chance i was miscarrying, did vaginal scan and saw sac. they didn't say where bleeding was coming from or if my cervix was open and my head was all over the place so didn't ask.They took blood and told me to come back on sunday to measure the increase (if any) in hcg.
on saturday, the cramping started, in my back and my front and the stringy bits got bigger, going from nothing to big bits each time i wiped. Over night i had no bleeding at all.On sunday, nothing had changed excpet was vey constipated and full of wind so was getting confused with pain, wind or period type? Got myself into a right state and cried like a babay in the hospital when i went back for second blood. I discribed my increase in tissue bits and she pulled a 'that's not good' type of face.
They wouldn't do another scan as they said it's policy to leave it 7 days. i only wanted to see if sac had gone.
is this like what happened to you? How did you know for definate that it was all over?

ladybump · 31/07/2006 10:36

oh yeah and i've woken up this morning and i feel different. sore boobs have gone. did my morning pregnancy test and line took longer to appear and seemed to be weaker. this really upset me but think i's time to accept what they're gonna say. gotta prepare myself.

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wheelybug · 31/07/2006 10:40

I started bleeding last tuesday - started brown and then went red by tuesday evening. No bleeding or pain that night. Went to Docs on Wednesday am and was booke for a scan on friday. Wednesday, the bleeding got worse and I got period type cramps. Overnight the cramps were really bad and this continued all day thursday with clots and pain and lots of blood (TMI !).

Friday I went to EPU and they scanned and couldn't find a sac. I knew though by this point myself so was no surpise.

Are you having cramps still and how is the bleeding ? How many weeks are you ?

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ladybump · 31/07/2006 10:45

i'm 5.5 approx so no heartbeat yet. all cramping has stopped and still got black stuff coming out in clumps each time i wipe. it's just so confusing but i think i know in my own heart of hearts that it's not meant to be. however, despite all the signs there is always a little bit of you that hopes you'll defy medical science but when you don't the fall is so tough.

when it's all you've ever wanted it seems so unfair.

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wheelybug · 31/07/2006 10:52

well it doesn't sound as much as I had but I would have been about a week further on.

It is so terribly sad and does seem unfair. I keep telling myself that if it had to happen at least it happened naturally (I dreaded having d&c) - A friend has just had a missed m/c found at the 12 week scan and I had friends who had to deliver a 15 week foetus as it wouln't have survived to term/birth. Am focussing on the fact it could have been worse. Also, that it happens so much and people go on and have successful pregnancies. At least you know you can get pregnant.

The above isn't meant to sound preachy - its just what i keep repeating to myself tohelp me through.

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ladybump · 31/07/2006 10:56

i know just had friend here and she said the same. So many of my friends and family breezed through pregnancies and i just feel a little bit inadequate, whay can't i do it? But as she pointed out if the worse does happen your body is working very well, it's getting rid of something it wasn't able to nurture to full term. it doesn't sound preachy at all. Just though my first experience of pregnancy would be nicer than this. Have always dreamed of my first bfp!!! Suppose it'll make my first successful pregnancy so much more special. Are you going to ry again immediately or give it some time?

ladybump · 31/07/2006 10:57

also, glad i didn't hear heartbeat as that would have given such hope. Suppose this happening early is a blessing in some way or other!

ladybump · 31/07/2006 10:59

think i'm gonna ring now. do you think they'll be back?

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wheelybug · 31/07/2006 11:11

Don't feel inadequate - it just happens.

If it makes you feel better, in my first pregnancy I had IUGR (where the baby doesn't grow properly). I managed to get to 37 weeks an was induced, my body didn't react at all and so I ended with an emergency c-s, due to dd being 4 lbs 9 oz and weak we never managed to crack breastfeeding. Then my second pg ends in m/c at 7 weeks..... and you think YOU'RE inadequate..... .

As for trying again, we're going to leave it until probably September - get one cycle out the way. Also plan to go away at end of Sept and don't want to be pg and worrying then so think the holiday will be the time to start thinking about trying again. At one point, I always wanted 3 children but after all of the above, if we manage to get a 2nd one I think we will just be happy with our lot !

Any news ?

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wheelybug · 31/07/2006 11:17

ladybump, I'm just popping out for about half an hour but will check back when I am back....

thinking of you !

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ladybump · 31/07/2006 11:28

this is the outcome
my hcg levels were 2351 on friday and only 2811 on sunday. Not nearly enough progression they said so i have to wait until friday and have a scan. sound familiar? prolonging the pain. How can i possibly wait until friday?

rubles · 31/07/2006 11:33

Ladybump, I'm really sorry to hear this is being so drawn out for you. I don't know how you can wait until Friday - it seems an incredibly long time. No advice, just a hug for you.

ladybump · 31/07/2006 11:35

this is just so horrible but appreciate your supportive messages. feel like my life is on hold. I know i'm been dramatic but am so upset

wools · 31/07/2006 11:40

Hi ladybump, I'm sorry to hear you're going through this stressful time. It is so hard waiting to have a scan but in the long term it is better as they will be able to tell you more. Do you have to go back and have more bloods taken or are they just going to scan you on Friday instead?

I have had 2 miscarriages - found the second one much harder to deal with than the first - imagined that I had somehow failed my baby and that my body was letting me down - this is all very natural. However, an awful lot of women here on Mumsnet have had bleeding and cramps and gone on to deliver healthy babies so you could be one of them. Wishing you all the best.

ladybump · 31/07/2006 11:44

i just feel like if the hcg isn't rising, it's not coping very well. they don't want any more bloods, just have to wait until friday now.

Mrsworry · 31/07/2006 12:01

Ladybump, sorry to hear you are going through this agonising wait. I had brown "bleeding" and stringy stuff when I wiped at around 8 weeks and then again at 11 weeks. I too was getting pain but then started to get confused what the pain was as also had trapped wind and needing the loo etc. After I kept on at the doctor I eventually got sent for a scan at 11 weeks and saw the heartbeat and have since heard the heartbeat again at 13 weeks.

I know how horrible it is to have to wait but the best thing to do is to rest, keep your feet up and try (easier said than done) to relax. Hopefully all is okay with me now, and hopefully you will be too. Keep your chin up and big hug for you.

I don't know how helpfull this is (my first post) but just to let you know I had very similar symptoms and all is well. x

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wheelybug · 31/07/2006 12:45

Hi Ladybump

Its all a bit drawn out isn't it ? But maybe that means there is hope like Mrsworry says ? What did they say about the hcg levels ?

I won't say try not to worry because I know you will ! Keep posting - you're not being dramatic -its normal!

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Gemmitygem · 31/07/2006 13:24

ladybump, I really feel for you;

don't want to give you false hope, but at 5 weeks I had exactly the things you describe, a bit of cramping, weird stringy black and dark brown stuff, like I've never had before, after two big gushes of red blood (sorry to be gross!), but no obvious clot. It trailed off after 2 days. But I was still preg and it was fine.. If you haven't had any 'real blood' I also wouldn't give up hope.. I didn't do hcg, just kept doing urine tests and after 3 weeks plucked up courage to have scan.

Fingers crossed for you!

foundintranslation · 31/07/2006 13:28

Oh ladybump. I am sorry you're having to go through this limbo. I miscarried three weeks ago for the second time; before my ds was born I'd also had a miscarriage.
I can't really advise on your concrete situation, but just to say if the worst does come to the worst, don't feel inadequate, please. It's not your or your body'as fault, I promise you. Miscarriage is terribly common, and the vast majority of women who miscarry do go on to enjoy a healthy pregnancy and birth.

flutterbee · 31/07/2006 13:31

really sorry this is happening ladybump, will be thining of you all week.

ladybump · 31/07/2006 13:46

thank you for your thoughts everyone! there's not a lot more i can do or say but try and keep my mind off it. God knows what i'd have to do to achieve that but i'll try!!
wheelybug- they just said that they weren't rising as rapidly as they'd like. Don't really know how significant this is. suppose they do but won't commit themselves. Let the waiting game begin..... keep in touch!

Beccy1974 · 01/08/2006 18:36

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hi wrighty

this is the charity tommy's professonal advice line; might be useful if you need to ask questions out of hours or something

Tommy?s Pregnancy Information Line on 0870 777 3060

lots of love

ladybump · 01/08/2006 19:26

Thank you so much! you've all been so kind to me but think it's all over for my beanie and have been told so much by the doctor in epu. I'm ok. It's just the strangest feeling. Don't think it's hit me yet. I'll be back though. Better get warmed up for some bding and i must say, I am looking forward to a bottle of wine. think I'm relived to have an answer at last although dh did park in mother and baby bay at supermarket earlier and i fell to pieces. i even surprised myself, DH felt so bad. bet i'll have a few episodes like this but it's all part of the process i suppose.
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wheelybug · 01/08/2006 19:38

Hi Ladybump- jsut posted on the march thread. So sorry this has happened and I said on the other thread, if you want to CAT me, please do.

It WILL be up and down for a while I think. The thing that is getting me is the overwhelming tiredness. I have managed to get back into some of the things we do but if I do something in the morning am too shattered in the afternoon. Do you work ?

Thinking of you.

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ladybump · 01/08/2006 20:01

I'm a teacher so am off til September which is a god send. I don't know how I'd have coped otherwise. I'd have had to have told more people which i'm glad i could avoid.

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