Thread for Ladybump (All welcome to come and give advice)

[wheelybug]

Hi Ladybump

Good luck with getting your results - the waiting is so hard... Will keep fingers crossed for you.

Anyway, ask away - anything at all....

How are you feeling today Ladybump ?

I'm ok!Still waiting for blood results from yesterday. Want to know they dropped before i drink. Think might be in denial but want something concrete you know, a solid hard fact that I am no longer pregnant! I have mixed feelings really as if my levels were to rise, I'd worry like mad for whole pregnancy that something was wrong. i know that this is highly unlikely but feel moving on would be the best thing now. Kind of hoping they have dropped and not stayed the same or some other middle road that'll confuse me even more! Had a few cries but generally starting to acept it. My DH is doing his very best bless him but just feel so sad.

I know what you mean about 'concrete evidence'. I actually felt quite a lot of relief the day they confirmed I had m/c. Was obviously v. sad and wish it hadn't happened but at least I knew and could move on rather than not knowing (but being fairly sure).

My DH took it harder once we knew for sure - he had been being blindly optimistic (most unlike him) up to that point and admitted he didn't really think it was happening. We've both shed quite a few tears over the last week and guess they won't be the last !

Hope each day gets easier for you and that friday comes quickly.

thank you so much. we'll get through this together and be cyber birthing partners one day!

how are you all today? wrighty have you got your results?

Hi All

I m/c two weeks ago today at 8 weeks. The worst part about it was when the bleeding started, my doctors were closed for 'training' so phoned the hospital in the evening who put me through to the delivery suite where some snotty midwife basically made me feel like a piece of shit, and that I shouldnt have phoned. After eventually seeing GP I went for a scan and being sat there with pregnant woman knowing your losing your baby is horrible. Two days later I got the 'baby blues' know one told me i'd get them and spent the whole day balling my eyes out, still feeling emotional but guess thats the hormones.

Ladybump I really feel for you, mine would have been a March baby too. xxxx

Just when you think things can't get any worse!

Rung hospital for most recent hcg blood levels yesterday morning and they told me to come in.

Basically hcg levels weren't dropping (failing preg) or rising (continuing preg) and they were concerned so wanted to scan me immediately.
When i got in, they scanned me and my gestation sac had grown but was empty plus they noticed a shadow on my fallopian tube. Everyone panicked as they suspected it might be ectopic and I was prepped for theatre.
I was so scared, they told me when i was down they might have to remove a fallopian tube which would reduce my chances of concieving by 50% all while people were taking blood from me left, right and centre!! As i wasn't in pain, they kept me waiting and waiting.
Eventually at 8.30 last night when i was on a ward (having been on nil by mounth since i arrived at 10am) they decided it I wasn't a risk of eptopic but they wanted me to see the consultant for advice but he'd gone home so I'd have to stay in. They then went on to tell me they'd probably give me a d&c in the morning to remove the sac which is happily growing away oblivious. I psyched myself up for this but when I woke this morning I could not stop crying. Don't know what happened, it was like it just hit me like sledgehammer. As i was so upset the consultant came to see me and advised that I give the gestation sac 10 days to expel naturally then go back for another scan! I'm having lots of clots (TMI) and pain so they expect it's in process of removing itself.If not, it's another hospital visit and a d&c!

Miscarrying is so emotionally hard and i knew it would be but I never expected this.

Sorry if I'm being negative just so pissed off.

oh so sorry this is how i started too, i really hope it comes away for you and yes i was crying for england still do ! so soory i really am ((((hugs)))

what was the outcome for you then? Don't worry about upsetting me!

mine came away with in a full week, it was not nice i was sitting one min then felt large clots coming down (sorry tmi) and new when i stood up i would flood, i had to change my pads every 15 to 20 for two days, then i settled down a little but the pain was like mini labour! and had nothing done as it came away its self,( was glad as they said i could start staight way if i was ready, becuase i didnt need a d&c

Oh ladybump, I'm so sorry that you have been through all of this. I've been on holiday and missed your recent posts. I too had a miscarriage two weeks ago, another one who should have been due in March. I completely understand the sadness and guilt that accompanies the physical and emotional pain that you are experiencing. I never dreamt that my first pregnancy would end like this either. I found it very hard to stop feeling like I had let my husband, the baby, my family (would have been first grandchild) down too. All I can say is that it does get better and I know today it feels like it's just getting worse. Just do whatever feels right. Eat and drink what you want, I found a hot water bottle and some paracetamol really helped and DH bought me some books, magazines and DVDs to keep my occupied. Cry, get angry and accept that you need to grieve not only for now but for the next nine months and the plans you had made.

Ladybump and Wheelybug, I am here if either of you need anything at all, be it friendly ear or joint whinge. Again, I'm so sorry that you're both going through this and I wish you lots of love and hugs for the next few weeks.

Do you know, i read your post when you had m/c and I cried for you. I showed it to my dh and we prayed that everything would be ok for us. Little did we know. Life is hard sometimes but you have to take the rough with the smooth and I reckon we've all got something pretty good coming up!!!!!!!!!!!

there seems so many of us of the march thread! ans i really hope we all get our bfp again very soon.

i am a little scared that it will happen again

Too right, a joint lottery win if you please!

sofh, was wondering if you had gone way,

Ladybump, so sorry to hear your news (and the news of others who have recently had m/c). Was gobsmacked that you apologised for being negative - I think everyone would completely understand you being pissed off, gutted etc (you're entitled to a HUGE rant and scream), but also think your post was very calm; I can't imagine how you were feeling all day at the hospital (had some pretty crappy treatment in the EPAS myself, but nothing like you) and am glad that you are off work until the beginning of term.. SOunds like you really need some nurturing time for you and your DH. Thinking of you xxxx

Been camping trace. In fact I ovulated whilst away, was all ready to try again, positive outlook, on holiday etc etc and DH had bloody man-flu and was next to useless for absolutely anything. Not only did we make zero babies, he coughed, spluttered, sneezed, snored and moaned through the whole trip. But still the weather was nice.

Hi All

Sorry - only just seen this. Ladybump, I can't believe its all taking so long. Thinking of you and certainly don't apologise for negative thoughts.

Hi Showofhands - its all a bit rubbish isn't it. There do seem to be lots of us in March, Trace, but I don'tknow if thats just because thats the time we're involved with IYSWIM?

Can't post much as have people staying but thinking of us all and will post more when I can. Stay strong y'all and lets all moan together !

Sorry Squishy - thjanks f or your message too. Didn't mean to leave you out am just stealing a quick MN minute before bed.

my god cannot believe how tired i am. slept for ten hours last night been doing housework this morn and feel exhausted. Is this normal?

I passed the biggest clot last night ever (TMI)it was unlike i've ever seen before. Hoping that was it! Will keep you informed!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi ladybump, I think it's normal to feel exhausted, not just because of the physical readjustments taking place but the emotional ones too. It's only in the last few days that I've managed to get to 9 o'clock without nodding off on the sofa.

In terms of bleeding/clotting etc I think it varies from person to person. It took a few days for the m/c to start propertly but I then passed quite heavy clots for about a week (af is usually 4 days, heavy for two) and was quite crampy and achey for the whole week too. Luckily everything came away naturally and I ovulated on cue two weeks later so it hasn't had any lasting repercussions.

Anyway, I hope the weather's nice where you are. DH took me shopping this morning, bought me a pretty nice dress and took me for lunch (he's still treating me as if I'm about to break which is very sweet). Afraid my afternoon won't be as interesting, ironing, cleaning and trying to stop our new kitten climbing up the curtains.

Take it easy, go to sleep if you need to and let us know how you are!

DH has to go into work tonight so i've invited those who know for tea and some wine tonight cos i don't want to be on my own. Feel like if i'm on my own all night i might just sit and cry cos i'll think too much! I know it's good to cry but sometimes it's good to stop too as my eyes are raw! My eczema has come out round my eyes cos of the stress and i'm crying salty tears into it all the time and it's raw! I look gorgeous as you can imagine ha ha! Bloody hell go help me. Oh well girls have done the lottery..this could be our night!!!

Hope you've managed to have an ok evening Ladybump. I know what you mean about the tiredness - that has been almost overwhelming for me. I have been fortunate that my dd has been exceddinly lazy this week and let me sleep in till gone 9 and even then I've struggled to rouse myself.

Had good night. Had bit of a wobble and cried a little bit but managed to control myself!

I'm on my own all day today (DH in bed now cos he finished late at 4am but is back in at 2pm)and i think i need it. Gonna sleep and just lounge around. From tomorrow I'm gonna get myself sorted. Back on diet and start running again (stopped when found out i was pg). It'll make me feel so much better but it's just getting round to it!

Just wanted to say - it does take time to feel better - don't be surprised by how long it does take or feel bad about feeling bad, or out of control emotionally, if you see what I mean. Take it easy and do those things that make you feel better, running, having some wine, and sleeping whenever you need to. Wishing you all the best.