Disgusted by my weight gain

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I put on 3stone last time and lost it very quickly but I won't be lucky twice especially at the rate I'm gaining now. It's gross. My body is gross.

I'm only 26+4 and put on about 24lbs. Weigh 10stone now. Gross. And with the expected 2lb a week weight gain from now til the end I'm looking at about 4stone weight gain.

My body is disgusting. Huge bump, massive boobs. Hate it. Every other pregnant person I know is tiny. I look overdue, not someone with a good 13 weeks left.

Stop fretting about your weight. You are growing a tiny person in there. You need to feed him/her with good nutrients and keep yourself healthy too, STop worrying about a number on the scales and how you think you look, and start thinking about how you are nurturing a tiny life within you. Motherhood is not a time for vanity.

You're being way too hard on yourself.

You will have all the time in the world to lose weight in the future, if that's what you want to do, but now is not the time to be worrying about it.

10 stone is not big at all. At all. It's quite worrying that you see this as "gross".

I used to be a size 8 before both my babies and I have gone from 9 stone to 12 stone 4. I am 5 ft 7 so on the taller side but it's still a lot really but to be honest I am so busy and hectic with everything I'm not going to worry about it until my youngest is at school and I will tackle it then. Dh loves me regardless and thinks I'm sexy so that's all that matters :) ... what does your dh think?

Honestly please be kinder to yourself. If your best friend talked to you that way about you I bet you'd think she was horrid - be your own best friend.

You are growing a baby. That's as good an excuse as any for weight gain. You can always sort it after. And please, 10 stone is not gross!

With each of my 3 previous pregnancies I have put on 3 or 4 stone, and each time I have lost it quicker than the time before. The best thing I have done this time is to not use the scales (the battery has died and I'm not changing it) there is nothing I can do about the weight I put on I just no I have the time to deal with it afterwards. I too see many people with tiny bumps and no extra weight and it gets me down, I'm just realistic inthe fact tthat my body must need the extra weight in order to get through the pregnancy.

I'm sorry 3 stone, is that it! Not every one looks like Kate Middleton when pregnant :) . I put on 5 stone with each pregnancy, I look like a blob, my nose gets fat and my chin blends into my neck. I am on my third pregnancy and look term with 11 weeks left. I have lost the weight after each pregnancy, it is doable. don't give yourself a hard time your body is doing some thing amazing, just let it do what it needs to do.

i agree with the others. im 5"4' and my slim toned size 10 weight (which i last weighed in 2009!) is 10 stone. im almost due with my second and last and am over14; THAT is gross. however, i can barely move, am constantly hungry and food is my only pleasure. now im actually excited about going on a diet in a few weeks time; didnt lose much between babies but im all set on going back to work in lovely little dresses this time. deal with it afterwards!!!!

Goodness 10 stone that it !!! Your positively a super model compared to me fatty boom booms. I m too scared to get on the scales... I no my bottom can't no longer crack walnuts and my thighs are thunderous .... But I m trying not to eat every 30 seconds of the day ( no matter how hard that maybe ) and just so focusing on my little lady bump . I know someone that starved themselves through their pregnancy , they looked terrible and very poorly

..... It doesn't help seeing celebs in the mags looking great in skinny jeans and 3 foot heels & their 8 months pregnant .... Want to kick them and then force feed them doughnuts !!!!!

I'm 5ft 2 was 12.7 before I was preg so by your standards I'm must of looked extremely gross now at 27 weeks I've gained 12 pounds weight 13.5 so 10 stone is nothing to worry about.

Baby is more important just eat healthy and with in reason. Life to short to obsess about weight, feed your baby and stop worrying

Ha! I put on 5 stone luv! Went from a skinny size 8/10 to a mountain (literally!) 9 months in I have lost 4 stone of it... Rather easily too. Saying that; next time i would not be quite so greedy! It is a pain having excess weight to consider as well as a bambino.
Im sure you look lovely, for what its worth!

Ps I have had a ferocious appetite. I appreciate how hard it is!

Gee thanks, 10 stone is gross? I was more than that pre-pregnancy and I'm 5'5 and a size 12 usually, so hardly a fatty.

The fact you see your life-giving pregnant body and boobs as gross is pretty disturbing. I know this probably sounds harsh but then so does your original post!

Good lord. My pre-pregnancy weight was 10 stone 3 pounds (I'm 5'5, so gave a BMI of 24-ish). Unless you're EXTREMELY short, then there's no way you can consider yourself 'disgusting' for being 10 stone whilst pregnant.

I should say that even if you were extremely short, 'disgusting' wouldn't be the adjective I would use. I think stupid celebrity magazines that show people bouncing back to size 6 a few weeks after giving birth are 'disgusting' personally.

I was gonna take umbrage on behalf of us fatties, mainly your use of the words gross and disgusting, however I can appreciate how weird it must be for skinny women to have these bulges and a completely different shape. My suggestion would be to try to appreciate other things about your body - eg how are your legs, your skin tone? And despite how you feel, know that there a quite a few people who find massive boobs something other than disgusting! I even know gay men who appreciate the aesthetics of a nice rack!

I have put on more than you and I'm exactly a week behind, 25+4. Goodness knows what you'd think about my body

I was stressing about my weight gain for weeks but I've accepted it now. In fact I'm quite enjoying just looking different. If you're eating well and exercising (if possible) then your body will change however it needs to to grow your little baby. Life's too short to be so upset about something you can't control - not to mention something which is entirely normal and natural!!

I am 30 weeks and have put on about 22lbs. I'm not 10.5 stone and don't feel gross at all, I feel wonderful. I may have this huge bump protruding out the front of me but I love it because I know what's wriggling around inside it My boobs and nipples look bizarre but again, I am just in awe of it all, knowing my body is incubating a new life and preparing to nourish it when baby is born - it's amazing. When getting ready for bed I always take a few minutes to look at myself in the mirror in just my underwear, it makes me smile every time

What does your DP/DH make of your weight gain and does he know you feel disgusting and gross??

I meant to type "I'm now 10.5 stone" Damn auto correct

Dp thinks I look beautiful. I know my concerns are irrational but the four pregnant women I know (2 further on than me) have half the bump and boobs I do. I can't help but compare especially when colleagues compare us too. I don't get the crazy bump though when baby is measuring 50th centile for everything :-/

I feel fat as bump hasn't taken a proper bump shape although I'm definitely showing. I can relate to op not liking how feeling fat looks.

I Am choosing not to weigh myself because with severe morning sickness I'm doing my best to get through every day. Knowing I was putting on too much/ losing too much wouldn't help me. I just want to look properly pregnant (currently 15 weeks)

I'll get a flaming for saying this but here goes. Why don't you talk to your HCP and ask them to supervise you not gaining in any further weight in pregnancy. You wouldn't actively be trying to lose weight but just stay the same.

I want to make this clear I don't think you are gross or disgusting for putting on 2 stone. I really don't but I know how horrible I felt being huge when I was pregnant and I wish someone had helped me to manage my weight gain better.

Wow, I'd love to be 10 stone and I'm not even pregnant!!

Stop reading celeb magazines if they make you feel bad about yourself. Your body is not 'gross', it's growing and nourishing your little baby - it's beautiful.

It's a sad thing that the ridiculous obsession with being thin is ruining pregnancy for a lot of women. Be kind to yourself!

Great post writer - I feel exactly the same x

OP, do you have a history of body image issues/eating disorders? If so, is there someone you can talk to who might help?

I've always been slim. I'm 5'5 and when not pregnant I've never weighed more than about 8st 4lbs. My family are rather obsessed by diet and exercise I suppose so I've always grown up around slender people. I have had body dysmorphia but although seen GP/ dietician over the years nobody has deemed it severe enough. I just hate putting on weight!!