Erm.. I thought I was meant to look and feel like Kate Middleton?!

[Hubbythecatandme]

Is this what pregnancy is supposed to be like or am I just unlucky?! I thought I was meant to be glowing, happy, fulfilled... instead I had:
Week 1 after BFP: on cloud 9, so happy, mature and serene I almost didn't recognize myself "I love this child already, I am not scared of labour because if will just be meeting our baby".
Followed by:

• 48 hours of total freak out, reading all books under the sun about childbirth and thinking about it all the time "OMG what am I going to do?"
• Back to happy for a bit then: nauseous all day, in tears because I can't do my work because I have intense nausea. Food and smells disgust me. I eat then I am sick everywhere :s
• Then no nausea but intense cravings, stuffing my face, obsessed with certain types of food (orange / citrus)
• 24 hours of "OMG what if I don't love the baby, what if I don't like being a parent?!"
• More "OMG I don't want to go through child birth"

And today, week 7+2 I feel low, I feel like crying, I have lost all my oomph and enthusiasm, I used to been a happy, highly motivated person, now I just want to spend the day in bed and sleep...... How long is this going to last for???????? Are you getting this too or am I just a bad case?! I thought pregnancy was supposed to be a fulfilling and wonderful time??? Thanks for your answers sent from my bed :)

With DD1 I spent the first 3-4 months living on ready salted crisps or mashed potato & gravy. They were the only things I could eat. It got better after about 14 weeks iirc.

The crying at things lasted most of the way through though. I remember crying that Dh wouldn't let me buy a dead Xmas tree

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I can honestly say hand on heart that Labour was nowhere near as bad as I thought it would be- its no Picnic but certainly not torture like I expected and you quickly forget all about it anyway when you look into your little babie's eyes for the first time anyway.

Well don't forget that even Kate herself wasn't feeling great for the first couple of months!

Pregnancy, thy name is Hormone.

I spent the first three weeks eating chicken-in-a-biscuit and crying into the shoulder of whichever poor sap happened to be in the vicinity.

And as Cariad says, Kate was hospitalised off and on, wasn't she?

Three weeks? Optimistic, Tommy old chap.
Three months. Three months of chicken-in-a-biscuit and gratuitous sobbing.

To be fair Kate spent a fair few weeks vomiting, so much so she had to be hospitalised. You should feel better after about 14 weeks whispers, then you may feel shit again in the third trimester

This to shall pass... I have calculated that I have spent 1 entire year spending exactly as you have described, the first 3 months of pregnancy are always the same. You are meant (I think) to feel rough in the fist trimester and wonderful in the second, luckily I have just completed my (last ever) 1st trimester! You really will feel so much better in a few weeks, hang in there and .

It's completely normal your hormones are doing all sorts of things at the moment.

Sorry my post was a bit blasé. You will honestly feel better. I'm afraid not for another few weeks probably, depending on morning sickness which you may not get. The second trimester I felt great. The third was ok - just got a bit knackered but by then I was used to it so it didn't feel so bad whereas the contrast in the first trimester with pre-pregnancy was more acute. Congratulations.

Thank you it is comforting to hear!
True about Kate actually, come to think of it she did have hg didn't she?? Shouldn't compare.
I feel like I am on an emotional rollercoaster and I just don't know where this is all leading me from one day to the next.
I have got used to the getting up to pee 3-4 times a night and the sore boobs but I feel like my brains is being pulled in all sorts of direction. It's like I am not myself anymore but have turned into this emotional person who can go from happy to terrified and low in the space of days :s

I had a tearful, screaming row with DH at one point in my first pregnancy because he swapped the tea towel for a clean one but it didn't match the oven gloves.

I could hear a tiny voice in my head telling me I was being insane but it was largely drowned out by the outrage that he could be SO. INCONSIDERATE. OF MY. FEELINGS!!!!

In short, pregnancy hormones make you crazy

Lol to the fits over tea towels and Christmas trees!
I am just wanting to stay in bed and sleep, it's been like that for the past 24-48 hours, not that I am particularly tired, just I don't feel like doing anything. Normally I would have wanted to watch my favourite comedy or read a book, even that doesn't seem to appeal. I hope it goes away :(

My oldest is nearly 18 years. I'd say the anxiety wears off on somewhere around year 19...

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hubby said "yup, we are worried about this now, then likely we'll worried about cot death, will they get ran over by a car, will they be offered drugs, are their friends back influence, will someone mug them at uni etc etc" :D

I came on to point out that Kate had HG and ended up in hospital too. So, to be fair, it sounds like you are doing better than she was at this stage

Don't be fooled by the public appearances with teams of stylists and making the effort for the cameras. It's her 'job'. I bet she felt as shit as the rest of us a lot of the time, even after the HG.

You're right Penguins, I did remember she had HG actually.
Why do pregnant women in magazines and on TV look like it's nice and easy... "oh yeah, got this bump but am on top of the world, ignore the bump"....

It's a marketing con. I thought I'd be doing pregnancy yoga, eating organic food and powering through work. Instead I can't work any more, spend most of the day with my head by the toilet and wonder when it will ever end.

And had a diet of McDonald's and KFC!

Love the bit about the dead xmas tree Worse still, I can totally see how that would happen...

Cheryl Macdonald, founder of Yogabellies yoga has written quite a funny book about this (Birth rocks!). She had hg and instead of floating around in white yoga robes, she was lying on her yoga mat eating cheesy wotsits. Worth a read.

Lol sounds good!!!
I did once cry at hubby because "the cat loves you more than me" :s it was a few days after BFP so think the hormones were kicking in... I am glad he is so patient poor man...

It doesn't quite match up to the fantasy does it?! I'm on my second HG pregnancy (waves at livingzuid from HG thread!) and I get amazed when I see pregnant women just walking around looking normal, going to work / the shops / out to dinner without crying, puking everywhere or falling asleep standing up. It's a glamorous business indeed.

I know!! I am only 7+3 and I catch myself thinking "how long before baba is here??"

The hormones kick in way before the pregnancy becomes tangible for other people. I am not very emotional at all normally, and it has been driving me mad. Worrying about everything. Crying inconsolably when my trousers didn't fit, as if I didn't know my tummy was supposed to grow ffs...?

I also feel like a hideous, shapeless fat blob even though I am not over-weight, gained a perfectly average amount of weight bang on the curve, AND I am what you would call an independent, strong-minded, emancipated, unbashful woman. But I have back fat where my bra sits buaaaaah.....

Thanks for your answer homehypno this whole hormone thing is driving me absolutely mad!!! I never thought pregnancy would be like that, I really didn't expect so many symptoms!

slice 'waves' :)

I just cried at a wedding proposals programme on TLC. Dh knew not to laugh. Just been moaning on another thread about hormones. They seem to have massively kicked in these last two weeks. I chuckled at the tea towel moment though!