Erm.. I thought I was meant to look and feel like Kate Middleton?!

[Hubbythecatandme]

Is this what pregnancy is supposed to be like or am I just unlucky?! I thought I was meant to be glowing, happy, fulfilled... instead I had:
Week 1 after BFP: on cloud 9, so happy, mature and serene I almost didn't recognize myself "I love this child already, I am not scared of labour because if will just be meeting our baby".
Followed by:

• 48 hours of total freak out, reading all books under the sun about childbirth and thinking about it all the time "OMG what am I going to do?"
• Back to happy for a bit then: nauseous all day, in tears because I can't do my work because I have intense nausea. Food and smells disgust me. I eat then I am sick everywhere :s
• Then no nausea but intense cravings, stuffing my face, obsessed with certain types of food (orange / citrus)
• 24 hours of "OMG what if I don't love the baby, what if I don't like being a parent?!"
• More "OMG I don't want to go through child birth"

And today, week 7+2 I feel low, I feel like crying, I have lost all my oomph and enthusiasm, I used to been a happy, highly motivated person, now I just want to spend the day in bed and sleep...... How long is this going to last for???????? Are you getting this too or am I just a bad case?! I thought pregnancy was supposed to be a fulfilling and wonderful time??? Thanks for your answers sent from my bed :)

My money's on a girl . Hope you feel better soon OP.

i too imagined pregnancy to be one of the most glamorous times in my life, instead i was sick for first 20 weeks then got a cold followed by a second cold, i am currently the size of a house as measuring big for dates, can say with all honesty that the lovely Kate is awesome to have appeared so elegant and composed throughout her pg, irrespective of how she was actually feeling. and to top it off i doubt i will be back in skinny jeans 3 months after baby pops out, once again falling short of my own hopes expectations

Bloody hormones. Last pregnancy I had the biggest go at DH because he had cut the vegetables for the evenings dinner too big. Dinner was going to be ruined, "and it's my only pleasure in life I have left" . I fear I was monstrous. But it will pass. At 17 weeks now I feel like I am on more of an even keel (but I still can't watch 50% of adverts without sobbing).

And it's like having a severe hangover all the bloody time, without the pleasure of drinking the night before to make it worthwhile.

Like someone upthread, I am overjoyed because this is very definitely my last baby (is my 3rd) and I NEVER HAVE TO DO THE FIRST TRIMESTER EVER, EVER AGAIN.

It passes and you become human again. My first 2 PG I was such a raging nutter I split with DP!
Hormones are a shit! Thankfully im a lot older this time hormones running out? and I am a whole lot mellower. I do have my moments, but im a lot more chilled!
The only thing I'm watching out for still are those post natal BF hormones. That was the next rough patch for me.

Hi Hubby - the truth is, unfortunately, for a lot of people, pregnancy is really quite horrible. But

• it doesn't last forever
• the second / third trimesters will be either slightly or lots better than the first
• the second twenty weeks go sooo much faster than the first.

The problem is that everyone has different experiences, and it's very easy to project from your own experiences, plus there are all the images of happy serene pregnant ladies enjoying salad lunches and doing yoga.

Have had two really quite miserable pregnancies, sick, exhausted, headachey, palpitations etc etc and yet a friend tried to get me to join an antenatal circuits (!) class cause exercise would make me feel better. Another friend sympathised with my terrible nausea by saying when she was pg she once felt a bit sick at the gym. Others go mountain biking and kayaking while I can't walk to the underground and spend every moment I can collapsed on the sofa.

The hormonalness is just another symptom so try to treat it as a physiological thing which is affecting you. I haven't suffered too much with that before but (currently 6+2 with DC3) am giving DP absolute hell about bugger knows what, and cried when leaving DS1 at my parents last week.

Also, if it helps, I am a terrible worrier and was worried about being a terrible worrier about my children, but actually, I'm not. And by the time you get close to your due date, you;ll be so excited / impatient that fear of childbirth should take a back seat.

HTH! And hope the rest of the trimester passes quickly.

PS am still very very cross with the Sun(?) I think for printing a picture of Kate's flat, smooth post natal tummy. It actually made me cry

I too had imagined I was going to have an easy time and look glamorous and feel wonderful lol instead I feel like somebody s playing with my brain and body and there is nothing I can do about it!!
I seem to find endless things to worry about, they do change and come back though which gives me variety.... The nausea seems gone, which totally scares me as I am wondering what is wrong with baba.... the past 2 or 3 days have been doom and gloom, not wanting to get out of bed a do a thing which in turn makes me feel awful.... lovely!!!!
Don't think we'll be having 3 children put it this way!!!!!!!

Give it time Symptoms do come and go btw.

Give it time Symptoms do come and go btw.

Kate was hospitalised with hyperemesis!!!! Not sure you want that!!.

Its only now, in week 20 that I have become a bit more normal!

Highlight have included crying because my DH doesn't like Winnie the Pooh, crying because my DH bought flavoured popcorn, crying because my DH ordered a pizza (for himself!) with what I deemed to be a horrible combination of toppings. Do you see a pattern emerging?!

I'm still really tired, and I have pelvic pain, but at least I'm not a weeping mess

Lol mcfox!!!
Today my mood picked up a little bit, I was able to leave my bed to go to the gym and do my work during the day instead of late at night. Hurrah!
I can't believe I cried my eyes out at the doc's though, first visit with this GP, she is not going to forget me :s

I hope so rewardchart!!!