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Help please.

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smurfgirl · 26/07/2006 09:00

I think I am pregnant ( 2+ tests!) but the tests have only been positive with strong urine and this morning I have started bleeding. Its not super heavy and its mostly a browny colour but there are spots of bright red blood. I am also having period type pains. Does that mean I am not pregnant any more?

I don't really know what to do now? Do I just leave it and assume that I had a chemical pregnancy or do i need to see my Dr?

Thanks for any help.

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Rhubarb · 26/07/2006 21:16

Could be messy implantation?

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smurfgirl · 26/07/2006 21:38

The bleeding is light a light period, some (small) clots and some red bleeding.

The nurse was realistic and said chances are that its a chemical pregnancy but she still gave me folic acid and talked about what happens when you are pregnant which has confused me a bit. I know she has to but its just got me a bit mixed up. Hard to reconcile myself to the truth when she was talking about having a scan in a month kwim?

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smurfgirl · 26/07/2006 21:39

Oh and if by some very very faint chance I am pregnant I will probably have the baby. But i don't think i am pregnant.

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heavenis · 27/07/2006 08:20

How are you doing today. Are you staying off work ?

apronstrings · 27/07/2006 13:29

how are you smurfgirl - been thinking about you.

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smurfgirl · 27/07/2006 16:41

Thanks for asking! I am ok today, I went to work (not really allowed any days off) and I feel fine. Bit tearful sometimes but i suppose its a stressful thing? Been having some funny pinchy feelings in my tummy but otherwise no more pain, still bleeding though.

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SSSandy · 28/07/2006 09:58

How strange smurfgirl. Seems odd that they can't do a scan sooner so you know where you are. Maybe that's because I'm just used to the health care system here, my gynaecologist does it straight away after testing your urine, if there's any doubt. You're happy to leave it like that?

Wonder what could be causing the pain

Piffle · 28/07/2006 13:20

Smurfgirl glad you're ok xxx
They are always reluctant to scan this early as you can see very little until the 5-6 wks mark
I hope the bleeding settles and I'm glad the pain is not too much for you
Take care
xxxxxxx

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smurfgirl · 28/07/2006 23:10

SSSandy the nurse talked about referring me for a scan but the GP was the one who decided on the blood tests.

Thansk again for all the support. I feel so stupid for being upset but I am really really sad. Ho hum.

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SSSandy · 29/07/2006 10:56

smurfgirl why do you feel so sad? Is it because you may have lost the baby or do you feel sort of overwhelmed by everything?

It would be good to know for sure, wouldn't it? Very confusing, all these tests giving different results and then the bleeding. Has the bleeding stopped now?

apronstrings · 29/07/2006 15:24

still watching the thread and hoping your doing ok

apronstrings · 01/08/2006 14:08

Hi smurfgirl - how are you - are you getting a blood test today? when will you get results of that? hope you had a good weekend with dp and are getting your head round the whole thing

novadandypowder · 01/08/2006 16:13

I'm still watching too, I hope everything's ok with you

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smurfgirl · 01/08/2006 19:53

So I had my blood tests today, results on Monday (don't you love the ever efficient NHS ) Actually I could have them on Friday but would rather avoid a Drs receptionist telling me I am not pregnant. So Monday is not such a wait and my lovely practise nurse can tell me.

I am totally not pregnant, I just know I am not. And do you know I am so not coping one little bit. Today I have cried about a million times. At everything, I watched a programme about teen dads and cried, I listened to a sad song and cried, it rained and I cried, I said the wrong thing to someone and I cried, dp asked me not to ring the doorbell so much and I cried etc etc.

I feel so lost and I am really struggeling. I know I was never really pregnant I know but I just feel so adrift. I don't have a place at the moment anywhere I am still a student but I am not a teenager who wants to go and get drunk, I don't have a permenant job like friends my age. The course so far has been so easy academically so I don't in any way feel challenged. I just don't seem to fit in anywhere you know and this seems to have brought it home. I have never been overly broody but at the moment I would give anything to be pregnant even though I know it would not fix anything or make my life easier.

dp is being lovely very very kind, but he absolutely cannot understand where I am coming from.

Ho hum.

Thanks for asking about me etc x x x

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indignatio · 01/08/2006 19:57

sending huge hugs

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smurfgirl · 01/08/2006 20:26

Thanks x

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novadandypowder · 01/08/2006 20:27

Smurfgirl, I'm worried that you need some support and might not be getting it. Is there anyone you can talk to about any of these feelings?

It's hard to see the positive in anything when you feel so down, but is it possible to talk to someone about your course, the fact you don't feel challenged and see if there's something they can help with?

How are things with your DP, what were/are his thoughts on children?

Sending cyber hugs your way x

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smurfgirl · 01/08/2006 21:03

novadandypowder thanks for your concern

I don't feel like i can talk to anyone, my one friend i told just says that its a good thing and i have to deal with it and i was never really pregnant which is true I guess.

There is nothing else I can do course wise, hopefully my 2nd yr will be harder.

DP wants kids, just in a few more years when we are more financially stable which makes an awful lot of sense! Its hard to separate what your heart feels and what your mind knows sometimes isn't it!

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foundintranslation · 01/08/2006 21:08

Smurfgirl

Don't reduce your loss, if it is a loss - a positive test means a pregnancy, means you have conceived. My first miscarriage was a very early one, where the hormones never got very high and went away quickly - but it was still a miscarriage, and acknmowledging that helped me to deal with it. You have conceived and it is OK to not cope and to cry. It really is. Take the time and space you need to grieve. If this sad situation means other things in your life are coming to a head, let them come, be good to yourself and then when the worst is over, create some (physical if need be) space around yourself and take stock.

Thinking of you. xx

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smurfgirl · 01/08/2006 21:24

Thank you for your kind words FIT I know I shuldn't even be posting here because I don't have children and I am not pregnant but its nice to have support from people who have been there x x

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foundintranslation · 01/08/2006 21:29

You post away smurfgirl! Don't ever think you 'shouldn't'.

Beccy1974 · 01/08/2006 22:02

smurfgirl, i've somehow missed your thread but i just want to say all the best..

dont worry about feeling like you don't have a place.

i think those people who can talk, and express themselves the way you have, even if only on here, will always be okay as you're in touch with how you feel..

bit deep isn't it.. but hang on in there .. and you sound like someone who'll make a great mum one day :-)

apronstrings · 02/08/2006 14:30

Hi smurfgirl. I can understand why you feel the loss even thought you had mixed feelings initially - you say you know your not pregnant - is that because you have tested again? becaues bleeding has carried on?
have to dash now - but will keep watching. Incidently don't say you shouldn't be posting here - mn is for anyone who wants it - the variety of ages and experience of the poeple who post is absolutely what makes it - it would be a poorer place with less diversity!

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smurfgirl · 02/08/2006 18:34

Gut feeling tells me I am not pregnant apronstrings. I bled for 3 days and it was like a light period (although def more than spotting)? My boobs don't hurt, I don't feel (particularly) sick. I just don't think I am. I have got a mix of neg and pos tests since I saw the nurse so have deicded not to do anymore its too confusing will just wait for the blood test results.

Its quite nice to have a thread to ramble on! x

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smurfgirl · 04/08/2006 19:32

Just one last post. The nurse rang me yesterday to tell me that I am no longer pregnant.

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