Tips for early pregnancy anxiety?

[VJONES1985]

Right, I'm five weeks pg and wake up every day thinking I've had a missed mc. I don't know why,I have no reason for this. Some days my symptoms seem to ease, which worries me again.

I have been quite shocked since finding out I was pg. We are over the moon and this is all I've ever wanted but I haven't had a chance to sit down and take it all in properly. Sometimes I just need a cry but I have such a hectic worklife that I just get home in the evenings and sleep.

What can I do to stop feeling like this? I want to enjoy my pregnancy.

[Mmolly2013]

wow same dates then lol. I wanted an early scan I thinl because I just don,t believe it right now

[bumblebeebzz]

I have recently found out I'm expecting my second, not sure how far along I am as I have really long cycles. I think this is what's making me worry the most!
like a PP, I didn't look at internet forums with my first and was blissfully ignorant to all the horror stories.
this time around I'm terrified, I feel like I would be amazingly lucky to have two healthy pregnancies in a row. just taking each day at a time.

[sarahquilt]

The best thing to do is think positively and remember what will be will be. Even if something did happen, you wouldn't be able to do anything about it anyway so there's no point worrying.

[Harryhart]

I'm 6w+3 with no symptoms and usually the sensible pragmatic type, however have turned into a complete wreck over the past fortnight! For some reason I just can't seem to accept that everything is probably ok. Everything you read prepares you for tiredness, sore breasts and feeling sick and I can't accept I might just be lucky and keep obsessing that it must be a mmc. It doesn't help that sickness is apparently a sign of a healthy pregnancy!! So I empathise with what you're going through, I never expected pregnancy to effect me in this way, I feel like I'm going mad!

[VJONES1985]

I'm glad I'm not the only one! Sarah - you are absolutely right and I'm starting to realise how important the positivity is.

Harry - is this your first pregnancy?

[Harryhart]

Yes first pregnancy, also it wasn't planned so a bit shock in there as well.

[DorotheaHomeAlone]

I did find the scan reassuring as a good part of me didn't really believe there was anything in there! Was helpful for convincing dh as well! We caught first go with a quite halfhearted effort so I think we were both still in shock. Now we can tell family over Christmas as my reading suggests our mc rate is down to a less scary 3%.

I'm planning to maintain my new sense of equilibrium by stepping away from the internet over Christmas although, as you can see, that's not happened yet! Hope you get the news you want.

[VJONES1985]

Thanks. What is your reading? What does that mean?

[DorotheaHomeAlone]

I really don't want to encourage you as it's a terrible habit!But I did a lot of googling about different stats on mc at the different stages. There are about a gabillion studies all with different stats out there but most agree that your risk of miscarriage falls week on week, particularly after you see a heartbeat. By seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks most of the stuff I read suggested our risk had dropped to around 3-5% at this stage. Obviously this wouldn't apply to you yet as your bean is too small to have got going on the heartbeat probably so not seeing one isn't a bad sign. Does that sort of make sense?

[VJONES1985]

I see. Yes, thanks. Am kind of wishing I didn't have to have an earl scan and sometimes I think it's a good thing. I can't decide how I feel about tomorrow but if we can't see a hb I am sure I will worry.

[DorotheaHomeAlone]

I won't tell you not to worry as that would be totally hypocritical. I really do understand. But you would be very early to see a heartbeat now. My advice is really to step away from mn and the internet, like you did with TTC, and focus on something else. Even now, so early and pre heartbeat the odds are in your favour. Good luck.

[VJONES1985]

Thank you. I will try to step away from it and stop worrying. Unfortunately I know of some people who have seen a heartbeat at 5+6 (which I'll be tomorrow) and that makes me expect to see one too!