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Nuchal fold scan

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Hanzym · 03/12/2013 18:38

Hi, we went for our scan yesterday and got an NT of of 5.5, we are waiting for the blood results but I can't help but think the worst, is anyone else going through this or have any stories about it?
Thank you from a very worried first time (hopefully) mum to be xxx

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ChicaMomma · 07/01/2014 14:33

ah jeez hanzym, i'm so sorry. hope you get through the next few weeks ok. I cant imagine how you are feeling. wishing you a 'happy ending' some time in the not too distant future x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 07/01/2014 14:35

Oh Hanzym. Sad Sad
There are no words. I've followed your thread since the beginning, its just been so unfair since the first post. Angry Sad
I am sending all of my love to you and your husband. I'll still be here to listen. xx

Tobermory · 07/01/2014 15:49

Hanzym, so sorry that the news wasn't what you hoped for.

Sending hugs, Cake and Thanks

OwlinaTree · 07/01/2014 22:20

So sorry to hear your results. Thinking of you both.

adaloveslace · 08/01/2014 13:02

Oh Hanzym, no. That is utterly devastating. Words are completely redundant but please just know that we're all still here, and all holding your hand and thinking of you and DH. For your first pregnancy to go like this......like you say, it's shit and cruel and sad beyond words and so, so bloody unfair.

What happens from here? If you want to reach out to others who have faced similar heartbreaking diagnoses, you could start a thread in Antenatal Tests and Choices at some point. Or just stay here, where we'll be listening. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

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Hanzym · 09/01/2014 07:52

Thanks for everyone's support, my poor little boy has multiple problems the biggest being his intellectual problems, it's a polite way of saying he will be mentally retarded, so the only real option we have is to terminate, I'm going in this morning to start the process, I'm devastated and so scared, I haven't really slept cause of the nerves. I will post in both places, you guys have helped me so much I'm not ready to say goodbye yet.
My DH carries a strange chromosome 11 but is totally normal, this baby took his weird number 11 and made it even weirder, so hopefully next time round the baby will take his good number 11! We are at risk of it happening again but also the odds are on our side that it doesnt take his dodgy one!
These next few days are going to be the worst of my life xxx

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adaloveslace · 09/01/2014 12:02

That is just so, so sad. I can't imagine what you're going through right now but in a way I suppose the decision was made clearer knowing the extent of the problems your son would have had. Not that a decision like that can ever be easy, of course. But at least you have some certainty.

You are incredibly brave to have carried on functioning through so much stress and pain so far - you just need to find a bit more strength to get through the next few days and then you and DH can let the grieving process take over. Can you take some time off work?

Look after yourself, and take the next few days one step at a time, one breath at a time. Thanks Thanks

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/01/2014 12:56

Hanzym take care.
I have to say, having done a bit of googling, and having had to make some tough decisions of my own in the past few months, I would have made the same choice as you. And I don't say that lightly.
You are one incredibly brave woman and I wish you peace and happiness. Lots of love to you a and DH. x

Charotte31 · 09/01/2014 17:01

I'm so sorry for your Loss. Thinking of you xxx

Emberlina76 · 09/01/2014 17:38

Xx

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Hanzym · 12/01/2014 16:23

One last post for everyone, Harry David was born at 8.19pm last night weighing 251g, it was a horrible traumatic experience but I know he is at peace now, we have photos and hand and foot prints, thank you to everyone who has supported me, I am so grateful for everyone's comments and support, especially SaggyOldClothCatPuss I will be waiting to hear when your beautiful baby is born
Xxx

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VJONES1985 · 12/01/2014 16:28

Can someone explain the nuchal scan to me please and what all those numbers are? I'm having mine in three weeks and no nothing about it. Thanks.

VJONES1985 · 12/01/2014 16:30

Hanzym - am very sorry to hear it has ended this way. Hope you can find some inner strength.

swampusdonkus · 12/01/2014 18:52

Hanzym you are so very brave, and thank you for telling us about Harry David. I cannot imagine how devastating this has been for you and your dh, but am really glad you have something tangible to remember him by. Take one day at a time, be kind to yourself and wishing you all the very best for the future x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 12/01/2014 19:01

Thank you Hanzym.

Charotte31 · 12/01/2014 19:14

RIP little Harry David. Xxx

CrispyFB · 12/01/2014 21:52

I've only recently seen this thread and I just wanted to say how sorry I am that things turned out the way they did with the loss of your little Harry. What a horrific time you have had recently, and then having to make such a heartbreaking decision.

Thank you for sharing your journey with us, I only wish it were a happier one in the end.

OwlinaTree · 12/01/2014 22:06

Thinking of you xx I found a lot of support on the angelsand rainbows thread

adaloveslace · 12/01/2014 22:12

Hanzym, I'm so sorry about the loss of precious little Harry David. Life can sometimes be cruel and senseless.

It is beautiful that you got to name him and have photographs and hand and footprints, and hopefully they will give you some tiny degree of solace.

I have been really moved by your story, especially since our journeys started on the same day back in December, and wish you and DH all the best for the future with all my heart. Lots of love and luck x

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