present for wife when she becomes mother for the first time

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Hi. Firstly I am a first time dad to be due mid feb and secondly apologies if this is not the right area for this type of question.
My wife and I have taken a long time to get pregnant and finally it has worked through ivf on third go. She has been through a lot to get to this point so when the baby girl is born I want to get my wife a present but something she will really appreciate. I was thinking a new set of clothes to make her feel a bit glamorous again after the pregnancy. I don't want to get her something just because I think she will like it. I would rather know what new mums think instead. Any ideas appreciated. Thank you.

I was told the traditional gift upon birth of first child is an eternity ring.

We now have two children and I'm still waiting for the ring

Congratulations!

Jewellery would be something nice she could keep. it can take a little while to get back in to normal clothes so she may not appreciate it straight away but probably would after a few months along with some pamper time so maybe vouchers for this and clothes.

Your total commitment to your fair share of nappies, sleepless nights and all that!

in 3 months time I promise you that will be looked back upon as the best bloody thing EVER!

I wouldn't do clothes. In case she is feeling a bit bloated or 'post baby tum' - which is perfectly normal! Your body changes but it can, when you've got all those hormones raging round, cause you to feel bad.

I agree, nice jewelery. Or some really lovely things to snack on. I wouldn't put any focus on 'glamorous'. I promise you that when you've just had a baby the last thing you want from your partner is the idea they want you to look glamorous again!

Firstly, congratulations!
Second, clothes are a bit transient for such an occasion perhaps? Could you get her clothes and something more permanent like a piece of jewellery?
It's a lovely thought re clothes btw.

Congratulations! I can appreciate how much you and your wife have been through. I think she'd love some new clothes eventually, but as the above poster says, she may not fit into them straight away and that might make her feel bad :-( An eternity ring is a really nice idea as is pamper time... Is there a food that she's really missed during pregnancy? Perhaps have a bottle of champagne and a plate of cheese & pate waiting at home for her too? I'd love all of those things... I hope my husband signs in and sees this... LOL. All the best :-)

My dh gave me a diamond eternity ring. 12 years later I still love it and tell my children why I was given it and they love the story.

Clothes not a great idea as she might not be the size she wants to be.

How about doing lots of cooking/fill the freezer? Lovely gesture and good for you too.

Congratulations. I agree on not clothes as it will be months or more until she is feeling good about her body again.

Two children and 19years later I still haven't got at eternity ring but then I don't think they should be for 'occasions', more as an everlasting sign if love after many many years.

Sorry I digress but if she is I to jewellery maybe a lovely ring or necklace, diamond earrings etc??

Fully agree with the pampering too.

I got an eternity ring and dh paid for a weekly cleaner for the first 6 weeks after birth. 'Twas wonderful. I got something to keep and 6 weeks of extra time with ds.

I'd say a ring or piece of jewellery that she can keep and remember when you gave it and how special it was, my dh wanted to get me an eternity ring but tbh we were too skint, but he's promised an eternity ring when I have my last baby and he will get their names or initials engraved which I think is the best present ever.
But in the few weeks after birth the best gift is support and love

I was going to say leave the clothes till a bit later aswell!

Jewellery without a doubt. Never, never,NEVER clothes!!!

Your wife may have maintained her weight etc but it will be the last thing on her mind...you talking about clothes may make her think your priorities are muddled!

Buy your wife something beautiful and irreplaceable, CONGRATULATIONS!

Oh yes new girl, fill the freezer with home made food! When my dh went back to work after I had my second he left me a packed lunch every day to make sure I ate (2 kids under 15 months!) that was amazing!

No clothes. Something a bit more permanent!

Not on the high street has some lovely jewellery, quite reasonably priced.

Im not very materialisic but my DH bought me a bunch of the most beautiful yellow roses when I had DS1 - he's now a teenager and I still think about them now...although typical man despite many conversations about them I never got another bunch

How about a picnic hamper filled with things she hasn't been able to have in pregnancy (favourite booze and foods etc) and then some handwritten vouchers for things for her such as 'an afternoon off for some pampering', 'a night away together', 'a week of all meals of your choice cooked for you' 'a shopping trip with a budget of x amount when you fancy some new clothes' and that way she has some things immediately and she can cash in the vouchers when she wants them. For me I had my DD 9 months ago and I still wouldn't have cashed in the shopping trip as I'd want to save it until I stopped breastfeeding so I could get lovely clothes that didn't need to have boob access!

Congratulations and what a lovely sentiment to canvas opinion about something you obviously care so much about getting right. I hope you have a smooth pregnancy.

This is such a lovely idea! Congratulations to you and your wife. I would suggest jewellery as others have said - something that she will always treasure. Or perhaps a voucher for a spa day somewhere special (your name makes me think you might live somewhere close to Rockcliffe Hall or Wynyard Park??)
If you're feeling generous maybe buy clothes too, but only if and when she suggests going for a shopping trip.

Really, not clothes. Sorry. It says "get thin and have lots of sex again SOON".

Diamonds. Apparently.

If diamonds is too much, a lovely photo album.

And yes, no gift will count half as much as doing your full share of the yucky and the midnight stuff :)

A lovely ring. necklace, earrings ( whatever she likes) as a memento .

Good fmoisturiser. A voucher for a haircut/ beauty session every six weeks . (you stay home and look after the baby)

A hotel weekend /dinner once the baby is weaned if she is breastfeeding and can stay with grandma for the night .

A promise (kept) to do housework or yes, a cleaner and sign up to supermarket food delivery service

Most of us just want our partners to be there and to be interested and to understand that for a little while , the baby is the most important concern.. (i know you know that , not trying to be patronising) but you asked .. Good luck and congratulations

Can you buy-back holiday time from work? Maybe book a week of work for when baby is about 6/8weeks (assuming you'll have pat leave at the start). That was the point at which the adrenaline had worn off and the sleepless nights were really taking their toll. I'd have loved another pair of hands around for a while so that I could catch up on sleep, have some me time in between feeds.
It would also be a great for you to help bond with the newborn just as it is starting to wake up to the world.

Or an eternity ring

Really like Tarkas idea

Dp got me a tablet, which was brilliant as I could use it to while away the endless hours breastfeeding in the early days

DH bought me a ring. I was gobsmacked as I wasn't expecting it. jewellery is your best bet!

Wow. Thanks so much to you all. I'll go with the eternity ring food hamper nappy changes of course and prep of frozen food. Really appreciate all the responses.

How about jewellery with your child's birth stone?

Have a wonderful time and don't forget to treat yourself as well!