1st trimester misery

[whereisthewitch]

This is my 2nd pregnancy I'm 11 weeks. Having such a horrible time right now, constant nausea 24/7, vomiting alot, dodgy tummy like im going to have the runs.

Just so unbelievably miserable I'm finding it hard to cope getting up everyday. I had a scan last week and the baby is thankfully ok, but I'm starting to really regret getting pregnant (this was planned).

I just want this bit to be over, my poor little DD needs a mum who can play with her and have energy to take her out, at the minute im just a slovenly mess trying to get through the day without breaking down.

Sorry I just had to write this down, I know a lot of people who have severe HG are alot worse off but I just don't understand why this has to be so hard :(

Feel free to share your first trimester woes, can't share a though as it makes me violently sick.

I think the end of the first trimester is as hard as the final couple of weeks.

Stick with it - you'll magically start to feel more human any day now when your placenta takes the strain.

Talk to your midwife about how you're feeling. It may just be the fatigue and anxiety talking, but worth keeping an eye on.

It really is, I don't remember feeling this miserable at the end of my 3rd trimester with DD and I haf some serious complications.

I had PND last time and I spoke to the MW last week about how I'm feeling, but I genuinely think it's down to feeling so bloody sick 24/7. The GP prescribed cyclizine which isn't really helping to be honest, it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth and is vile when it comes back up again.

It is rough where is. I've been exactly the same.

The constant nausea and exhaustion, alongside not being able to eat properly really does make me miserable. I really hate being so dependent on everyone else to do stuff.

I took my anti-emetic last night and threw it up this morning, it really does taste vile.

You probably don't want to hear this as it should resolve soon and probably will, but i'm now 20 weeks and just as sick as I was at 10-15 weeks. I've lost weight and now having CBT to help me adjust to being so useless.

Baby is fine though and has somehow developed perfectly through a diet of crisps. That's impressive.

I think the only thing to do is to resign to it and wait for it to improve. At least there is an end is sight at some point.

Hugs nevergoogle

It really gets you down doesn't it? I completely understand why you need cbt, it's soul destroying, I remember it ending at around 18 weeks with DD. I stupidly thought that this pregnancy couldn't be half as bad as my ppregnancy with her, turns out it is much much worse and not helped by the fact that I have a toddler to look after. I'm so unbelievably lucky she is an absolute angel.

This is definitely the last pregnancy for me, I couldn't face it again.

My baby is surviving on a diet of pain au chocolat, dairy milk and pretzels.

I'm 22 weeks now but I remember those dark days. Weeks 10-12 were my worst and I was just a mess. At one point I didn't leave my bedroom for 5 days unless I was running to the bathroom to either vomit or have diarrhoea. It was awful. I'd be in a heap on the bathroom floor just crying my eyes out and my husband would have to come and pick me up and carry me back to bed. I was barely eating and even drinking made me feel sick - I was a state. The pregnancy was very much planned but on more than one occasion I found myself thinking, "have we made the wrong decision..." Feeling like sh*t just became the norm and I didn't realise just how bad a place I'd been in until I came out the other side of it.

I was 14 weeks when I started to feel a little better and by the time I was 16 weeks I was much more my normal self and thankfully I have now hit the 'blossoming' stage

Stick with it, the crappy times will pass - we are all here to listen when you just need a good moan

I am 14 weeks today and still feel horrific. The last two days have been the worst since the start - constant nausea and then vomiting after every thing I eat. I'm amazed I haven't ended up in hospital but I seem to be managing to keep fluids down mostly.

Losing the will to carry on to be honest - this is my second pg and I thought I had it bad the first time round but that was mostly just nausea and not much actual vomiting. This has been so much worse. Last week I thought I was starting to feel better but it's all gone downhill again.

I'm not sure what I am going to do if this carries on - I just don't think I'm strong enough to keep going. I don't want to eat anything but have to force myself otherwise I feel sick. I'm living on beige food and nothing remotely healthy is included in that!

Fx it starts to get better for us all!

Hi OP, you have my sympathy, 9+4 today and been suffering exactly the same since 6 wks. This is my first and I will definitely not be putting myself through this again.

Currently praying that this will end at 12 wks, I'll be gutted if I can't enjoy Christmas :(

Sending you hugs. Mine is pretty much better at 19 weeks. Had significant improvements at around 13 and 16 which really helped and then gradual improvement since then. Now just the occasional vom if I do too much.

I did see some improvements at 13 though which made it much more bearable. E.g. The super smell sensitivity and horrible mouth taste went at 13 weeks which really helped, even though I was still throwing up. Also just got some energy back which makes the nausea easier to deal with.

Every pregnancy seems to be totally different. So frustrating. All I could do was keep thinking "it could all get better tomorrow" and hang on to that thought...

Angelina, one of my friends had terrible sickness and it disappeared like magic at 12 weeks, so it can happen. Keeping everything crossed!

Oh, I could have written your post, whereisthewitch. I'm 8+2 and feeling so low at the moment. DS is 2.5 and I can do hardly anything with him I feel so rough. I feel so guilty for leaving him to his own devices and know I should be doing more. CBeebies is becoming our constant companion.

I'm being sick most days, but feel nauseous constantly. Everytime I go into the kitchen the smell makes me want to curl up and cry.

I just can't cope at the moment. We've recently moved house and I haven't made any new friends yet and really not up to it at the moment. DP works long hours and is out of the house from 6.45am to 6.45pm. I am useless after 5 o'clock. Can't cope with making DS's meals or even doing the washing up. If I can get him out to a toddler group in the morning I am doing well.

Struggling to drink much and I worry about becoming dehydrated - my lower back feels tender and I worry I'm getting an infection. Can keep most foods down so far, but living on bread, cheese and potatoes (and midwife kept banging on about BMI - really helpful).

I've had ms since 5 weeks this time round. Last time I had it from around week 7 to 15. I'm sad at the thought that I'm probably going to be ill over Christmas - really hoping it's different this time.

Had my booking appt on Friday and was feeling alright when the midwife was here so stupidly forgot to even mention the sickness (she never asked). No appointment with her now until January.

Hoping my dating scan letter comes soon, as at least after the scan I can tell my family who may be able to help out a little. Apparently it'll be between 12 and 14 weeks. Not sure I can hold out for that until after Christmas though so might look into getting a private scan if we can afford it.

Having such a bad few days. Feel like crying all the time. Don't know how I'm going to cope. Looking at the long weeks ahead of me.

Hi all my fellow sufferers of the 1st trimester urgh feeling 24/7
I'm pregnant with my 3rd baby, 10 wks at mo, constant sick feeling, a nose like a bloodhound everything stinks !!! (Spec cheese & onion pom bears) got a 16 mth old & a 4 yr old, who love to climb all over mummy & I'm if finding it really hard to be motivated to even brush my hair & get dressed! Obviously have no choice , just have to get on with it.
Thank god for minty chewing gum & fizzy coke ! They are helping me !
Also Marks and Sparks carbonara is making a regular appearance in my diet at mo !
School run isn't fun feeling like this day after day, haven't told all family yet, so can't do any whining to them !!!!
Also really suffering with constipation , that's so draining also, tried lactulose which does help .

Hoping that the next 2-3 wks fly by & I start to feel normal , well pregnant normal again! I love being pregnant but this bit is just hell, most annoying is when people say, it's a good sign, hormones are strong,,,,,,,,,,,,,urghhhhh is all I can reply !!!
Here to share any groans , moans or delight, I'm due 26/05/14 got a girl vibe, think in my experience I'm more inclined to sick & horrible skin whilst carrying a little daughter !! Xxxxx

I know exactly how u all feel. im 28 weeks pregnant with number 3! and im still suffering but that is the way my pregnancy go but the first 12 weeks was awful and I was working full time I was sick all the time and always so tired.i ended up on anti sickness tabs coz I was that bad. speak to yr mw about how yr feeling
it is so much harder the more kids u have got. do hope u all feel better soon xx

oh god the first trimester is horrid isn't it :(

the only thing that slightly helped was the more sleep i got the less sick i felt. and i also ticked off every day in my diary - i know that sounds weird but it helped to know i was getting each day out of the way

the sickness started to lift around 13 weeks and i felt brilliant by about 14 weeks and now 19 weeks and it seems like a distant and horrible memory

i really hope the time goes quick and it gets better for you soon x

Just woke up from a nap and saw all your replies, it makes me feel better to know im not alone but sad that so many of us have to feel so horrendous!

Unless you are dealing with this nobody can understand, I feel so jealous of friends who never felt this way, very "why me" iykwim.

onelittle I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to carry on, I could never consider abortion but I think I may end up very depressed if this doesn't stop.

charlie I'm the same I can't face proper drinks, so am relying on fizzy lemonade and satsumas to hydrate me....I miss getting up in the morning and having a cuppa! My DD is also being raised by cbeebies, thank god she still naps! I know the hopelessness that you feel

Thank you everyone for commiserating, those of you on your 3rd you are unbelievably brave. ..I feel like a hero doing it twice

Hey OP. Hugs and sympathy from me - I'm about 12 weeks and not doing much better, though I'm finding the exhaustion worse atm. I work shifts so get quite a few days off in return for long working hours, which used to be great, but unfortunately now I tend to spend the day after a 10-12hour shift asleep and incapable of doing anything . Really feel like I'm wasting my life asleep!

Have you tried asking for a different anti-emetic? Cyclizine didn't work for me either, but for a different reason: it totally wiped me out to the point where I literally had to sleep all the time and was zombie-like if woken. I'm hoping to get something else off the GP this week in preparation for numerous long train journeys this weekend.

RaRa hat off to you for working, I got signed off 3 weeks ago and can't see myself going back until this gets better.

I'll have to ask for something different, what else is out there that they can prescribe?

i was the same as you Rara. working full time, coming home and falling asleep inbetween vomitting. at 15 weeks the GP insisted I take time off due to the weight loss.
now at 20 weeks i'm gaining weight again by managing to eat after taking Avomine which makes me drowsy.
it's all triggered depression for me. the guilt of not being able to eat properly for my baby, the guilt of not being able to work, the guilt of not being able to be there for the older two like I would want to be, the guilt on not preparing a single family meal for 10 weeks.
so, the CBT will hopefully help me to become less tearful and help me to stop giving myself a tough time, i really have no control over this.

this is dc3, and neither of my other two have been as bad as this.

OP : Thanks - but it's not a competition; I'm probably just not as bad as you! And shift work does have a dubious 'benefit' in that because I don't work five days on the trot, I'm often ill inbetween my shifts (meaning that I get sweet FA in the way of a work-life balance, but work doesn't have me off sick as much as they otherwise would).

I don't know what else is out there I'm afraid - I don't know much about anti-emetics . Sorry. Hopefully someone else can suggest something, but I'd really pop back to your GP for a chat. I think domperidone may be an anti-emetic? I was on it when I was on morphine a few years ago, and I think it was to counteract the sickness off the morphine.

Have booked an appointment with my gp so fingers crossed!

Sorry I didn't mean for that to come across the way it did, I'd been wondering if perhaps work would take my mind off how awful I feel but the thought of doing drop offs with DD then the awful conmute there just fills me with utter dread.

Just take care of yourself, I learned that the hard way in my first pregnancy.

Come join us on the Hyperemesis thread. Lots of great advice on how to handle it, work and home situations and no such thing as tmi - this is a hugely hideous experience some of us have to go through. So sorry you are struggling.

Second that: the lovely people on the Hyperemesis thread gave me loads of good advice when it was really bad a couple of weeks ago. Hope you feel better soon, OP.

I'm only 6 weeks and the morning sickness hasn't really hit in yet but I have horrible insomnia instead. Over the weekend I got about three hours sleep one night and none the other. Insomnia makes me very anxious due to PND I had with DS so I am ashamed to say that if I had lost this baby on Sunday I would probably have been happy.

Thankfully I've now had some sleep (still woke up five times last night) and can look at things with a bit more perspective. I'm now worrying about the Chamomle and Fennel Tea I've had as apparently they are both dangerous in pregnancy, though I do think they really helped to make me feel more relaxed. Can't win!
I've a feeling this is going to be a long pregnancy.

Hopefully things will get better soon, Insomnia. You might be 'lucky' and go the same way as me - I can sleep at least 12 hours a day . I don't know much about chamomile, but fennel can induce uterine cramps and in theory stimulate a miscarriage. I think you'd have to have a fair amount of it though, and I doubt a cup of tea would constitute that - but mebbies have a word with someone at your local herbal medicine shop? I use hops tablets (valerian root) if I can't sleep - there's nowt in the information to say they're a problem if pregnant. Mind, if you're anything like me, soon you'll be up eight times a night just for a pee!

Hi, just had a look through this thread and needed a little reassurance and perhaps a moan about my nausea through first trimester. This is my first baby and I'm almost 8 weeks, was feeling great up until the last week or so……it's not been great!! I haven't actually been sick, just nausea and gagging at almost every smell - walked into the living room the other morning and gagged instantly, dad2be had cooked eggs URGHHHHHHH!!!! I'm worried about losing weight as I've only been eating little bits as and when I can. I've started on the crackers and drinking plenty of water too. I got a little angry with myself last night because I'm tired, can't sleep well and wake up feeling starving all the time but putting some food in my mouth just makes me gag. Anyone got any ideas on how to get a good night's sleep btw? Sorry for the rant, I know it's very early stages for me but I just needed to let off some steam and try to get a little advice

Hi Mixi you have my sympathy, my nausea started about 7 wks and full on sickness at 8. Just eat what you can, this time I'm stocking up on chocolate, crisps and fruit, it's all I can manage right now and not as putrid coming back up ( though I'm "lucky" in that I usually vomit straight after eating so it's not been digested at all). Try a bath before bed, though I think the insomnia is normal, maybe some toast before you go to sleep?

Today (and I'm touching all the wood around me) I feel more human, this is after literally wanting to go to sleep yesterday and never wake up! ! I've even managed some housework today!

How is everyone else? I can honestly say id do labour 50 times if I didn't have to suffer this, I miss proper food, tea, perfume, taking my DD to the park etc