Facebook announcement?

[mlbear]

Morning all.
Im 20w2d &just found out were having a son!
We have told family in person/phoned where possible.
Called friends we see regulary &sent what'sapp pics.
However we have friends (real friends not number boosting friends) on Facebook that we don't see often/no longer have their numbers so have sent a private message to them.
Ppl keep asking me why Im not 'posting' on Facebook &why i haven't put scan pictures on.
Im not ashamed Im over the moon &want to shout our news off the rooftops!
Friends who are pregnant put their pics on Facebook&take it as an offence that i think Im better than them by not doing so!
Did you announce on Facebook?
Suppose its no different than announcing the birth in a local paper..?

Totally did not announce anything so personal on FB. I understand some people think this is an easy way to stay in contact with all of their friends and family but I think it is nicer and more meaningful to let people know individually.

If others take offence then that tells you something about their mind set doesn't it? I would not make their issue your problem. If they don't like it - tough! Your baby, your decision!

Yes I don't want to put such a personal special time on the internet for the world to know (also the reason our wedding pics aren't on there!)
But I have nothing against ppl putting their scan pics on etc.

we shared with our personal friends on facebook as we only have real friends on our fb accounts :)

Did you 'post' or private message? I just haven't posted cos it's so easy for other people non friends to see when people 'like' or comment etc... prob other thinking the situation!

No, of course you're not better. But good for you doing it your way. Your choice. Their choice.

I put my 12 week scan on Facebook in order to break the news to family and friends that I don't see very often but I didn't put up the image from our 20 week scan because I just didn't feel the need to. I did however make an announcement about the fact we were having a little boy though You just do whatever feels right and comfortable for you, don't let other people ruin this special time for you

mlbear they'd only see likes or comments on your photo if your security settings aren't up to scratch.

However I think you are completely within your rights to
not post about your news.

I've not mentioned anything about my pregnancy on facebook and I'm 33 weeks. I don't like the idea of something going wrong and feeling obliged to update everyone. The people I know well have found out outside of facebook.

I have all security settings on, I'm an investigator in my job so know how easy it is to find things with online. But I'm not judging anyone who does post, I do like looking at friends scan pics on there&seeing everyone's words of congratulations :)

I have just passed 20 weeks, some people knew in advance , I do look pregnant .

I did a rather low key announcement on FB, had a photo of my horse who I am no longer riding.

People care much less about other people's pregnancies and announcements than we think.

I don't get why some people have such an issue with someone else NOT posting scan/bump pics, updates at every time the baby kicks etc. We have been posting scan pics on Facebook as I've had so many (diabetic so scan every 4 weeks) but don't know what we are having but even if we did we wouldn't be telling everyone,infact im being induced at 38 weeks but when we get the date for it we won't be announcing it,hell it could take so long we probably won't even tell our parents what date it's happening! We like posting our news with everyone (like you we have real friends on Facebook that live all over the country so we don't see them as often as we would like) and enjoy seeing other people's scans etc if they post them but if someone wants to keep it private then that's their choice.

didn't post my 12 week scan pic & after telling all of our close friends & family I updated my status on tge following terms:-

MrsRV is upduffed. Again.

I haven't posted anything on FB re my pg. Sent private messages to a couple of people I've been close to previously but who I don't see as I live abroad. I've been tagged in a couple of other peoples photos with an obvious bump which was fine but no way do I feel obliged to post personal details, scans etc!

I didn't post scan pictures because I find it really odd to think of lots of people looking at the inside of my womb on the computer.

In fact I haven't put anything on fb at all, I have told the people I want to tell in person and am happy for anyone else to find out through the grapevine. Or not.

I didn't post a thing on FB until after ds was here. I didn't even tell people I was pregnant in RL. I just waited until they noticed. People are very polite. Even with an enormous bump, most people would rather not comment. Most of my FB friends were rather surprised I had suddenly had a baby. I just wasn't comfortable sharing my pregnancy with the world.

I announced this time on Facebook, just something very simple. Didn't really want to but DH said I needed to start believing this was real (been having a few anxious wobbles). It got way too much attention and I really regret it, but that's just my anxious side coming

*out. Do whatever feels right. I guess I'll just deactivate my account if something goes wrong.

Both times I've 'announced' the pregnancy after the 12 week scan with just a simple status. Just really to let those people I would want to know but don't see very much know. We announced dd's birth and will be doing the same with this baby. All of this was after telling close family and friends in person or by phoning.

I've never put a scan photo online as it's a very personal and private thing for me. It's the first time (or one of the first times) my child has ever been recorded in a physical sense and to me that's not something I want to share with a lot of people. It's a very personal choice though and I'm sure a lot of people are far more casual than me about it.

We didn't find out the sex with dd and we haven't this time but I can't imagine I'd have shared it with many people before the birth anyway, so I doubt I would've announced it on Facebook.

Do whatever you feel comfortable with. You don't need to be shouting everything from the rooftops in order to be excited. And congratulations

I didn't mention anything on FB until about 24 weeks. And even then it wasn't 'an announcement'. DH posted a photo in which I was obviously pregnant, and tagged me in it. Nothing else. It took a lot of people by surprise! Most people thought they'd missed The Big Announcement.

I shared on FB after the 12w scan when we felt confident that everything was ok. But mainly that was so I could then spend the next 6 months being able on moan on FB about how ill I felt (HG)

I know plenty of people who haven't announced it, though, and have never thought anything of it. Also I'm not a huge fan of ultrasound pictures, but I don't actually know why not.

I told close friends and family both times after the 12 week scan.

With DC1, I think I put it as a FB status update at about 14-15 weeks once everyone was told.

With DC2, I'd miscarried a few months before so while we told people IRL after the 12 week scan, I didn't feel comfortable saying anything on FB until after 20 week scan.

Have 12 week scan with DC3 this week. If all is well I suspect I'll do similar to how I did with DC2.

Both times I didn't really harp on about it after the announcement until the birth.

I know people who announce as soon as they've had a positive test, people who update every week with "28/29/30 weeks today" and people who say nothing until a baby is seemingly just delivered by the stork! All not how I do it, but the world would be dull if we all did things the same way.

People spend too long worrying about how people perceive them on FB, or thinking people's behaviour is wrong because its not his they'd choose to do it. Just do as you think is appropriate and sod anyone who has a differing opinion! But equally don't ever get sniffy about how other people use FB to share news.

I've done the same as you, not made a formal public announcement, but did tell those that I'm "true" friends with by a private facebook message. I have nothing against those that do or don't, just not my thing

It's such a personal choice. A lot depends on how you use Facebook too, and the quantity and type of friends you have on there. And your journey to get to the point where you feel comfortable announcing.

Personally I'm fairly reluctant to make big announcements because I know having had issues myself how it can feel to see an announcement.. however having said that I am always thrilled to see a friend announce who I know has been through a lot to get there.

Scan photos don't bother me particularly, but I know they bother some.

Last time round I posted nothing until I'd delivered, then I posted a photo of DS a few hours old. This time out at around 22 weeks in amongst a bunch of other photos from the day, there was one of me and it was obvious I was pregnant. Quite a few people noticed and congratulated, but I'm pretty sure well over 75% of my friends list passed it by without realising. That's fine with me. I'll occasionally refer to pregnancy-related things on FB but not as the sole focus of a post.

I think it's fine to announce & share on FB, really up to you. They are supposed to be friends, right?

We didn't put our 12 week scan photo up but did put a comedy photo up each to let people know. We had told all our family and friends and work before hand though.
I don't have that many friends on fb but as some us are all over the place and we don't all have each others numbers so we tend to keep track of each other on social media. I think its up to you if you put anything on there though. I wouldn't think it strange if someone didn't put anything up about their pg as its personal choice.
We ended up putting our 20 week scan photo up as dh was so excited though.