Anyone else newly pg with no2? Are you panicking!?

[Doodlequackquack]

Just that really.

Got a bfp yesterday (and again this morn to be sure), due 9th July, and although it was planned I'm so much more nervous that the first time round. It's probably because last time although I was pretty well informed I was still blissfully ignorant quite how hard work babies are! The worry, the sleep deprivation, the guilt, the helplessness.

And that's not to mention the solemn vow I made to myself about an hr post natal to never put myself through that again. DD's birth was straightforward, but quick and I think I was literally in shock for a few days. And unlike the pain of a drug-free (not be choice at the time) labour, the pain of peeing on unstitched labial sodding great tears "grazes" which healed 'funny' then reopened at 10 days has not left me...

I worry about the birth, about it being quicker this time and my DH being here, about how my DD will cope, about how I will cope, that the car's too small, that the house is too small... the list is endless.

Share your list of worries with me, and what it was that made a second child seem like a good idea!

xx

I'm with you, though at the moment worrying how to get through the pregnancy never mind when the baby comes along think I have my head in the sand on that account!

I have awful nausea and the pgp that plagued me first pregnancy has reared its ugly head already (at 5 weeks, sob). I have a very active two year old DS who seems to have had a growth spurt and now seems to weigh several tons...

I'm due on 3 July, so can be bump buddy if you like

PS congrats on the BFP

Totally normal reaction! I was exactly the same, and still am at 28 weeks with DC2. Completely planned and much wanted but the reality is a lot different to just the idea.

What helped me through those first few weeks was to focus on the good and fun things about being a mum, those lovely cuddles that they give you, watching DS learn something new etc. Also having grandad on call to take my DS for a few hours as i'd been up half the night being sick was a godsend. And cbeebies.

I also bury my head in the sand a lot, refusing to think just how hard is it going to be with 2 when some days i feel i cant cope with one. Although reality is really starting to kick in as i only have 11 weeks to go and so really need to get organised.

Due 26th June. Currently my biggest concern is that I can't possibly love baby2 as much as I love dd. Everyone says that you just do, but it doesn't seem possible....!

That and the fact I have the shittest cold in the world and just want a lemsip.

Your story is an EXACT mirror of mine, due date shockingly fast labour etc. Only found out yesterday and I think I would be due 9th of July too. I am in a state of dumb panic. Congratulations on your bfp. I am also worried as lost my first pregnancy at 6 weeks so when pregnant with my ds I worried the whole way through and can already feel that starting now. Glad I am not alone. Off to cuddle son and bury head in sand. Congrats again.

Sorry that should be op, your story and worries are exact same as mine. I am worried about not getting to hospital on time...bit early and presumptuous, I know. X

Oh wow, thanks for the replies.

The thought bump buddies makes me grin like a loon and be stupidly grateful Mightily, and whoever else needs some mutual handholding

I hear you with the worry whether you could love another baby as much, but I suppose you just have to trust you will. I'm the eldest of my siblings, but there was never any favouritism going on.

Getting to hospital is a massive fear. If I had listened to the midwife on the phone last time instead of my body, I would've had an unplanned homebirth. I was fully dilated on arrival and fully panicking because the 'experts' seemed to be telling me it was early labour but I knew I couldn't cope with much more and would prefer to die if that was the case. I still can't go through a certain set of traffic lights without thinking of that journey at prob 9cm dilated. We have moved, the hospitals are all further away this time. I shall adopt Duvetfans head-in-sand pose for a while yet I think!

Congratulations all on your pregnancies, and here's hoping for a calm and beautiful birth and newborn experience for us all

What does pgp stand for Mightily? I'm sorry you are suffering already Feeling/being sick with a toddler to look after is torture (norovirus has taught me this), I hope you find a way to ease it a bit.

Congrats on your BFP. I found out at the weekend that our 2nd baby is on the way and due around 30th June. I'm happy, excited, anxious and scared all at the same time!

Congratulations AlwaysDancing. Happy, excited, anxious, scared - yep, add them to my list

Just wondering how old your all your 1st children are? My DD is 2.5yo. I always thought I would like a 2nd a bit closer than this, but I am definitely only just ready (if that, eek!). Did you all plan age gaps, or just went for it when you felt ready?

xx

I'm 12 weeks, DD is 20 months.

both planned & very much loved.

But.... Oh FUCK.... What have we done!?!?!?!

Yep yep yep yep. Count me in as a bump buddy, due 1 June and bricking it! DS is 2 and starting to be a right stroppy bugger, ditto your thoughts on the house being too small... Not to mention I had my booking in apt last week which just reminded me how much I HATE patronising midwives. How does it take 2 hours to tell me stuff I already frigging know? And surely it's a little late anyway at 10 weeks to be telling me what I can and can't eat???

Hi Doodlequackquack baby was planned but it's still a bit of a shock when it actually happens IYSWIM!!
Our DS is 6 would have liked a smaller age gap but it just didn't work out that way.
Exciting times ahead for us all!

I'm in exactly the same position and glad to find I'm not the only one. I've been terribly nervous this time.
I'm due 9th May. The sickness has been worse this time but I'm just past 13weeks so fingers crossed that will subside soon.
Ditto on the fast labour. My last one was early so now I'm thinking that it could happen at work or anywhere.

Doodlequackquack my first is only 10months. The second was planned although we didn't expect it as fast as I'm still breastfeeding and wasn't having periods.

Anyway, congrats to all of you. I'm sure we'll all be fine.x

I'm due 16th June, DS1 is 11 months and last night as I was putting him to bed having given him his milk I was struck by a massive wave of panic - what on earth do I do with the baby while all this is going on?! Just how, practically do I do it?! Oh my goodness what have we done...?!

I'm due 22nd April, I'm 16 weeks, dd will be 3yrs11months when this one comes. Both very much wanted, but CRAP! Already unimpressed by my newly acquired bulge, dreading the lack of sleep regime, the costs of a new baby eek!

My first is 18 months. This one is a surprise as it happened first time..never thought that would happen as it took us over a year to conceive our first. Now just wanting to make it to the 12 and 20 week scan. Just worried sick about everything now.
Congratulations to all the bfps..x

My DS is 3. I'm due on the 11th of May. Was all planned and everything but had scan yesterday and couldn't get excited about as I've been feeling sea sick forever. We bought there's a House inside my Mummy for DS and read it last night. He said "I don't a baby". Hmm you wanted one before I conceived.

both planned and very much loved

But.... Oh FUCK.... What have we done!?!?!?!

That sums it up nicely MrsRV

Annie, if he's anything like my DD, you'll be suprised how much your DS and his routine changes in the months to come, and you will hopefully not have too much trouble nudging him into a more baby friendly way of doing things.

It's interesting to see a range of age gaps. I think people can sometimes obsess about "ideal" age gaps, when I've come to the conclusion that there is no such thing and it differs between families.

I know what you mean about first time lucky shock duvetfan, although DD was conceived first time too so I really should've been prepared. I realise we are incredibly lucky, but it is still a bit of a Shit It Worked moment!

I'm going to start researching a new car this week... Just for my information you understand... I'll let DH get over the reality of the baby before I mention it though, poor bugger

Pgp is pelvic girdle pain doodlequackquack so basically achy hips and legs, and that's before I've got a bump!

My ds is just 2, so will be 2.9 when this

...one comes along. Hopefully more independent and sleeping better than he does now!

duvetfan I had mc at 6 weeks in Aug this year, so know what you mean. Had no real pg symptoms though then and feel sick as a dog now so hopefully all a good sign.

Pgp, of course. Sending soothing thoughts to you and your misbehaving body parts.

I told my parents today. It's early, but I would find it hard not to blab on the phone to my mum at some point soon anyway and saw them in person today. They are now very excited. It's made it seem more real to tell someone.

I thought 3 year olds are known for being a fickle breed smearedinfood? I'm sure he'll come round eventually. When my friend had her youngest and her 3 year old was brought to the hospital to visit she burst into tears when she saw the baby. They eventually got out of her that she thought she was getting a pony

Thanks doodle!

Told mine yesterday too, mum pleased, her partner distinctly underwhelmed (but then his response to hearing of mc was "well what did you want to get yourself pg for?") glad yours are excited

I am due on 20 April, and ds is 3 (will be 3.5 when #2 arrives). He has been so excited, he keeps kissing my tummy and whispering 'I love you baby'. Yesterday he drew a picture of himself cuddling the baby. I'm just hoping that a. This enthusiasm lasts the next 5 months, and b. He still feels the same way when reality hits and he has to share his parents!

Haha doodle. I've now got the Pregnancy book out and he likes looking at the pictures of the babies in the Mummy's tummy and being told where his bum used to live in my tummy. Fickle yes.

I've got a CVS test tomorrow, anyone else going through the same thing?