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So scared I'm going to lose my baby :(

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YellowRose2728 · 17/09/2013 15:49

Ok, let me firstly explain that I'm not usually this irrational!

I have had 2ds, countless miscarriages, including a ruptured ectopic and am currently 17 + 3 with dd.

On Saturday I went to toilet, having been pretty constipated for a few days (tmi apologies!!) and noticed that I was losing bright red blood. Definitely not from back passage as I 'checked' (sorry again!) and I was in quite a lot of pain. Off I went to A & E where I was admitted in 'possible early labour' Sad

Awful night in pain where lots of tears were shed, so imagine my surprise when after a few hours sleep, I woke up to zero pain and no more bleeding. So the dr was happy with baby's heartbeat and told me to go home.

So, yesterday I thought it would be a great idea to go back to work...it wasn't by the way! Again after using the toilet, more red blood from the front. Trip back to hospital, same thing, baby ok and no reason for bleeding. Then she said, "I'm sorry but I cannot rule out that you are in early labour, you need to go home and wait it out". So now, here I am at home, terrified that if I move something awful will happen and don't even get me started on yhe fear when/if I need to go to the toilet Sad Sad Sad Sad

Any experience or advice would be great. Even just a hand to hold or a friendly shoulder shake to stop me thinking the worst Sad

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DaleyBump · 17/09/2013 15:55

No advice but I'm so sorry you're going through this. Here's a hand to hold Flowers

mumingball · 17/09/2013 16:07

no experience here too, just hope everything goes for the best to you and your baby. you're very brave, a big hug!

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Buswanker · 17/09/2013 16:14

I am 32 weeks pregnant I had this at 13 weeks and 21 weeks, all is well with my baby now.
I did find as soon as I felt cramps if I rested (literally only moved if I needed the loo) the bleeding would stop.
I had a haemorrhage that caused my 1 year old baby to be born early so I understand your worry. I felt nervous to look every time I went to the loo in case I was bleeding.
I know its easier said than done but try rest, not lift heavy things etc.

Teleaddict · 17/09/2013 16:16

Hi, when you went into hospital did anyone check you internally as well as listen to the baby's heartbeat? What you are describing is similar to what I experienced with an incompetent cervix. If this is the case then there are things they can do, such as place a suture in your cervix and it need not be a case of 'wait it out'.

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YellowRose2728 · 17/09/2013 16:19

I vaguely recall (thanks gas and air! ) having an internal and being told that my cervix was high and closed. I'm a bit scared to get anyone to have another look, purely based on that I'm worried it could start labour off Sad Sad

I am a nervous wreck Sad

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Trazzletoes · 17/09/2013 16:21

Oh yellowrose how scary and unhelpful of the Doctor. I very much hope it all settles down shortly.

DaleyBump · 17/09/2013 16:26

Where do you suggest she poops then TeamSouthfields?

Teleaddict · 17/09/2013 16:26

If you've been told that your cervix ishigh and closed then that is very different to my situation so sorry if I have caused you more anxiety. I can understand that you must be so nervous and I know it is easier said than done but hope you can manage to rest.

Wishing you all the best x

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YellowRose2728 · 17/09/2013 16:34

Teleaddict - no you haven't made me even more anxious...I wouldn't say that was possible at the moment Grin it's nice to hear other's experience, because nothing like this has happened. I guess I'm looking for a reason or explanation that isn't worst case scenarioSad

Daleybump - I'm glad you asked...thought I may have misread and didnt want to bite at a possibly, normal question.

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Stom91 · 17/09/2013 16:44

Some people are so Inappropriate!

I really. Hope everything works out for you.
Thinking of. You Thanks

moanymandy · 17/09/2013 16:47

I had a bleed at 14 weeks. Couldn't find a reason but heartbeat fine and they also checked my cervix. They said if it was an 'inevitable' miscarriage then the cervix would be open. so the fact yours isn't is a good sign!

I am now 36.3 weeks so all worked out fine in the end. It was unfortunately onr of those things.

The early pregnancy unit gave me a scan also to put my mind at ease, could you ask for one to check all okay as well as listening yo the heart beat?

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YellowRose2728 · 17/09/2013 16:53

I had a quick scan done by a consultant on the gynae ward. Baby seemed very still (I have to point out that consultant didn't look bothered about this) but heart was thumping away. I was expecting someone to check to see if they could pinpoint where blood was/wasn't coming from. But nothing.

I just want to stop being this neurotic woman who is being negative Sad

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EeyoreIsh · 17/09/2013 17:08

This must be really scary for you, I don't think you sound neurotic at all. Flowers

rest up, watch some box sets or do whatever will distract you.

Don't feel bad about being scared, it's normal to do so. I remember the utter fear of going to the loo when I had my mc and in this pregnancy when I've bled.

One thing that has helped me is to think that I've done everything I could do, and what will be will be.

I really hope everything works out well for you and this baby Flowers

Callofthewild · 17/09/2013 17:52

I had large red bleeds with large clots at 9, 11 (truly humungeous bleed, my DH had to go out and buy me a complete new outfit to wear home when I was discharged from hospital) 13, 14 and 16 weeks for which I was also never given any explanation for. In between I also had lots of brown bleeding every time I wiped. However, I am now 37 weeks (with twins) so please don't assume the worst. I know how terrifying and worrying it can be and that constant feeling of being on edge but please don't automatically think that it is game over. The important thing is that your cervix is closed and hopefully will remain so. As a PP said the best thing you can do is rest and take it easy so that you know you have done everything possble to hopefully allow this pregnancy to continue.

bebopanddoowop · 17/09/2013 18:58

I just can't understand how these hospitals can give no explanation to the bleeding? Seems so strange they can't identify it as SOMETHING to ease the worrying...

bishboschone · 17/09/2013 19:04

Can you get signed off work and stay in bed for a week to or at least rest as much as you can ?

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bundaberg · 17/09/2013 19:12

oh yellow :(

how worrying for you

on a positive note I know 2 people this has happened to. in both cases they lost a LOT of blood (think gushing and bath towels) both went on to have healthy babies. one of them was scanned and was found to have an unexplainable pocket of blood, so she had a bit more bleeding before it finally stopped. the other had had a slight placental abruption, but again the bleeding stopped and all was fine.

do you have someone to look after you? can you just sit wth your feet up and relax for the next couple of days?

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YellowRose2728 · 17/09/2013 19:31

Luckily I have a very understanding boss, so am able to rest up at home. I'm just scared to move and being scared of going to the loo is not helping Sad

I just want to forward time and have her here safe!

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SaucyJack · 17/09/2013 19:40

Everything crossed for you dude Thanks

lovelylentils · 17/09/2013 19:41

Nothing useful to add but thinking of you and keeping everything crossed all will be well.
Thanks

CrispyFB · 17/09/2013 19:41

Did you get a measurement of your cervix? Did they look to see if it was "funnelling" at all? These are all things they should have done. An internal examination is NOT enough. Unfortunately not all doctors always do the right things and you do need to advocate. If it is incompetent cervix, depending on the severity it may yet be fixable with a rescue cerclage. They need to rule it out with something beyond a grope - it needs to be an internal ultrasound, not an abdominal one. And for you to cough during that scan so they can see funnelling if it is there.

Sometimes, though, these things do just happen with no explanation. Taking it easy is always wisest! And babies need to rest just like we do so that could account for the stillness.

Have you asked if there is anything you can take so to avoid any straining with bowel movements?

Lots of luck and keep us updated!

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YellowRose2728 · 17/09/2013 20:02

Crispy it's strange you mentioned about the coughing. When performing the internal she asked me to cough. I had assumed this was to check for waters??

I think armed with a little more info, I will make an urgent app with my gp and tell her my worries. I don't know what I'd do without bloody mumsnet sometimes! Smile

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CrispyFB · 17/09/2013 20:17

Yes, it's to check for waters when they're doing internals (have had similar when I had a hindwater leak at 34 weeks!) If they're doing a scan at the same time, they can see if the cervix "funnels" with the cough. Sometimes cervixes can look just fine but put any sort of pressure on (like with a cough) and it becomes apparent that they're not fine!

You may find your GP is not that helpful as they're not specialists although she will help with the constipation at least! At most they can just tell you to ring the labour ward.. and they don't see women before 20 weeks You may be better off ringing the midwife and explaining your concerns and ask her how to go about getting an internal cervical check ultrasound. It could well be an uphill battle to get the scan you need from the NHS from past experience. If you can't get anywhere, is there any way you could go private? If you're near London I can strongly recommend the Fetal Medicine Centre who will give you the most definitive answer you could expect to get from anywhere.

It is ironic that when you need to be resting most, you find yourself at your most stressed and running around all over the place!!