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Early Pregnancy After IVF: Worry-warts and wimps gather to whimper and wobble.

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PramQueen1971 · 30/08/2013 11:41

Yes! Happy Birthday to me indeed! Fanks for all the Cake I would say 'nom-nom' and 'it was awesome!' but I would have to stab myself for being an irritating twat. I digress..

Come here, ladies who have survived IVF and are now battling the first trimester nerves and scans. We did it...we did it!! Grin

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prambo2thereturn · 07/10/2013 17:04

Prambunctious!! I use 'rambunctious' all the time to describe brattish kids but never applied it to my name

NoMaybeAboutIt · 07/10/2013 18:26

Grin that's what I'm here for Wink

BeetleBeetle · 07/10/2013 19:44

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 07/10/2013 19:48

That's fantastic news Beetle! I'm so chuffed for you. And not much longer till you see them again!!

I'm still waiting for my consultant referral. Just want to be discharged and told I'm low risk!!

It's my gender scan in a week! I'm very excited. A bit worried that the baby won't have grown much due to lack of food, but fingers crossed x

Wimwom · 07/10/2013 19:49

Hoorah beetle - I checked in earlier and was worried when saw you hadn't posted. Good news on two sacs too.

Pram - love the bump pics now I've made it work. Glad you had a bump at 14 as at 13 and a bit am def getting one and people keep telling me they didn't have one till 17,18,19,20... 40 etc I asked one of them if they were saying I was fat? Cue embarrassed face!

BeetleBeetle · 08/10/2013 08:12

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 08/10/2013 09:35

Triplets Shock can you imagine?!

I'll be 17+1 Beetle at the gender scan! Seems crazy writing that down!

How you doing Wim? I've noticed that during pregnancy, everyone thinks they have the right to comment on your weight/how you look/how you should bring baby up etc. if one more person tells me that I shouldn't find out the sex 'cos it's the only surprise you'll ever have' I will punch them. I'm fairly sure my baby will surprise me every day!

MotorcycleMama · 08/10/2013 10:55

Great news on the scan beetle - are you getting used to the idea yet?

maybe I hope your consultant is more reassuring than mine was! She listed the increased risks due to my age (pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes etc) and told me that due to higher risk of still birth I would be induced at 40 weeks, but she may consider going up to 41 weeks "if I insisted". I'll happily be induced if it is necessary, but I would rather have a chance of going into labour naturally. Luckily the midwives don't seem to share her fears. I guess it does mean I get an extra scan at 34 weeks, so that is something. I think you are a bit younger than me, and they seem to have this idea that your health suddenly changes once you are a day past 40! I didn't know they did gender scans at less than 20 weeks - I'm jealous! Can't wait to hear the news! I think that the biggest surprise is having a baby, not what gender it is. We are all so surprised just to be pregnant!

Hi to pram wim and caip

NoMaybeAboutIt · 08/10/2013 11:05

That's exactly how I feel Motor! I am amazed every day that there's a baby in there at all!!

My MW has assured me I will be discharged straight away. I'm 28 and would have been considered low risk if it weren't for the automatic IVF referral. So I am fairly hopeful. I think the whole '40' thing is ridiculous. I know quite a few people that have had completely normal pregnancies and labours in their 40s! I am totally with you on seeing if you can labour naturally. Don't let them bully you into it. We will set Prambo on them otherwise Wink

The local private scan centre here does gender from 17 weeks, but some places do them from 16 weeks! I'm very excited.

Remind me of your EDD again, I like to keep track stalker

MotorcycleMama · 08/10/2013 12:11

My EDD is 17th March, so I'm 17+1 maybe - still got 3 weeks to wait until my next scan. Will you have a 20 week anomaly scan too? I bought myself a fetal heart monitor because I just couldn't resist, and it is great. I can pick up the heartbeat very quickly, and can hear it moving around in there. Makes me grin from ear to ear, and will keep me going between scans. I know some people disapprove but as long as you are aware of their limitations, I think they are fine. I have started to feel the baby move a bit too, which is lovely.

NoMaybeAboutIt · 08/10/2013 12:18

Snap Motor! I got one too!! I love it!! I am also feeling movements. Only at night, but can't wait for them to get bigger!! I'm exactly a week behind you!

prambo2thereturn · 08/10/2013 23:21

Hello girls. I had my 20 wk scan today (at 19+3)! Everything perfect - heart, skull, femural bone, blah blah. The sonographer said, 'Right, let's zoom in on the mouth to check for cleft lip' and as soon as she said that the baby covered its mouth with its hands! We were laughing our heads off. We declined to know the sex (although she would've struggled as baby had its gorgeous little ankles crossed). She made me go to the toilet to empty my bladder as baby simply would not cooperate for measurements, so whilst I was in there I did thirty star jumps. When I got back baby had moved entirely. I have an anterior placenta which is completely obscuring any fetal movements. She said it 'could be weeks yet' until I feel owt.

Beetle, you have a good memory; th'usband wasn't overly keen on Queenie...which is why we've decided on Nancy! Still Walter for a boy and I'm very, very happy with our choices. I'm so excited to be pregnant and I'm thrilled your little cuties are perfect.

Marbie, I was chuffed to bits to read on t'other thread about what you ate today. It means a lot, doesn't it, after all you've suffered and been unable to eat. Don't worry about your baby's measurements; s/he has had all s/he needs all this time.

Yes, Motor, they've tried that bullshit about induction at 40/41 weeks with me, too. It is in massive letters on my file (written by me) that I will not be agreeing to an unnecessary induction. It is preposterous to say we are at risk of still birth because of our ages. I will not have it

Wim, my bump this week is massive. I have put exactly a stone on thus far and it is all bump and tits (I am now, much to my chagrin, a G-cup Sad)

Being pregnant is absolutely everything I thought it would be. I'm in no way smug when I'm out-and-about but I am so proud of my lovely bump and so, so grateful for this miracle.

MotorcycleMama · 09/10/2013 06:26

Lovely account of your scan pram, and I'm so pleased to hear all is good and as it should be. I still don't know whether we will try to find out gender at the 20 week scan. Was it difficult to say no?

BeetleBeetle · 09/10/2013 08:56

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 09/10/2013 10:49

Thanks Prambi I was rather chuffed with myself I'm so pleased all is well. Half way there almost!! Do you find time has sped up now the first trimester is out the way?

Beetle pre scan nerves are the worst. I find they get easier though and turn into excited nerves. remind me I said that

I did get some food in! Think I may finally be turning a corner. I still have bad moments, but these meds really are making a difference.

Looks like since dinner you have planned !

prambo2thereturn · 09/10/2013 16:58

Motor, pre-scan I was very, very tempted to find out the sex, but that is purely because almost everyone on the Martians antenatal thread is doing it. Now that the chance has come and gone to find out the gender we are even more excited about finding out at the birth. It is going to be amazing and I now can't imagine having that surprise snatched away from me.

Beetle, I grinned from ear-to-ear when I read how excited you have become about your twins. What a bloody gift you've been given. Yes, we are doing middle names: Marjorie and Adrian after my parents. They are distinctly unlikeable names but I am determined to honour the two people who saved my life on numerous occasions and made this pregnancy possible

prambo2thereturn · 10/10/2013 00:11

Beetle, I was courteous enough to look at the recipe you linked and I have only this to say: Wat lyk soos 'n doek vol kak.

BeetleBeetle · 10/10/2013 05:03

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BeetleBeetle · 10/10/2013 12:26

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prambo2thereturn · 10/10/2013 13:51

Beetle, I was actually trying to say: 'that looks like a nappy full of shit'!

The 12-week scan is all rather underwhelming in terms of information. No measurements are taken or anything like that. Mind you, all I ever look for is a baby that is alive Hmm I have to say, the scan photo at 12 wks is the best you will get throughout the whole pregnancy, so that's especially nice. Beetle, tell your family; there really is no point in holding back now.

I am now in possession of arch supports for my poor feet. I have to say it is like walking on concrete supports, so a different kind of pain, then Hmm

MotorcycleMama · 10/10/2013 18:54

Hi beetle - it's understandable to get anxious prior to the scan. Good news that is has been brought forward though - at least that reduces the fretting time, even if it makes it more concentrated. At my 12 week scan they began by checking the foetus was live/heart activity, then they checked the skull/brain, abdominal wall, stomach, bladder, hands feet and amniotic fluid. They measured crown rump length, and nuchal translucency. I think that 'normal' is anything under 3mm (mine was 1.9mm). They then sent me to have my blood taken, and the result of that, combined with the NT measurement gives you your risk of Down's Syndrome result. My result came through in about 5 days and was 1 in 1700. Once they had assured me the baby was alive and that I should therefore look at the monitor and watch the scan, it was wonderful. Mini-motor was being fairly quiet in there at that point, but we still got to watch him move about. You'll love it - it will be a treasured memory.

What do you mean when you say "I don't want to disappoint" - surely they will be delighted? We held off telling the wider world about the pregnancy until we had had the results from the combined test, just in case. Keep talking to us.. X

NoMaybeAboutIt · 10/10/2013 18:59

Beetle I can only echo what Motor said. For me, it was the most informative and amazing of scans, we had a brilliant sonography who went through everything. Please don't worry, there is no reason for you to worry about your nuchal test.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow x

BeetleBeetle · 10/10/2013 19:31

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prambo2thereturn · 10/10/2013 21:08

Golly, I can't believe others had extensive measurements taken at 12 weeks! I only had that stuff done on Tuesday at the 20 wk scan. Beetle, you can't go through this pregnancy trying to protect others' feelings in the event of a tragedy. Having faith in these babies means sharing your news with those who deserve to feel your joy too. Go on, love... make someone's day! Smile x

prambo2thereturn · 11/10/2013 16:33

Apparently, I did have all those measurements taken at the dating scan, I evidently wasn't in the room Grin