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I agreed to a termination I don't want

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Thisreallysucks · 24/08/2013 13:58

I have just found out im pregnant and knew my partner didn't want anymore.
I told him and I thought he took it quite well, he said there is worse things in the world that could happen. Nothing else was said.

Yesterday in work he was being a little off with me so I brought it up. He said he wasn't over the moon about it and we would talk later.

We spoke I asked him where he was with things and he said I think you know. Gave his reasons, which are all completely selfish. We won't be able to go away on weekend holidays anymore (we already have a 6 year old) our life was just returning to normal and we have a bit more freedom. And a few more self censored reasons. At no point during all this did he ask me my feelings or opinions.
I stupidly I supose tried to bluff him and said il make an appointment to talk about the options. He said I know its rubbish but we haven't got any other option.

So I've basically agreed to something I don't want to do and know deep down I can't go through with.
I know I need to speak to him today. I'm in such a state crying all eve an this morning. I just don't know what to do.
We have got a nice life the way things are but I just don't see it as a massive problem and he clearly does.

I just don't know what to do now, I will make an appointment to see the GP but deep down I know I can't go through with it. I'm not a maternal person but I just can't do this.

I told him in scared stiff as I don't know much about the procedure.

I found out that's why his last long term relationship ended, she fell pregnant he didnt want to know, she terminated (he said he left her to it as didnt want to be a part of it) then they split up. He did say he would come with me, how good of him.

Sorry for the long post

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Mendi · 25/08/2013 21:24

Lots of good advice here. Would just like to add my tuppence-worth as the mother of a daughter my ex-husband told me to abort. Our marriage was hanging in the balance at the time for other reasons, but I will never forget him telling me to "get rid of that thing".

I will also never forget the grim trip to the Marie Stopes clinic (alone). It was obvious to them how much I didn't want to do it, and so I left still pregnant.

We were divorced by the time DD was 2 but I absolutely knew it was the right thing to keep her. Her older brother and she share a really strong bond and, of course, their father now whines constantly about not being able to spend enough time with them. He seems to have forgotten telling me to get rid of his daughter.

Don't have a termination if you don't want one. But do think about how you will get by financially as a single mum of two.

Good luck. Your partner sounds like a bit of a child BTW.

Xmasbaby11 · 25/08/2013 21:34

His reasons for not wanting a child are valid. However, it's your body so you have ultimate say in the matter. It's very difficult when you can't agree on something this big. It sounds like your relationship is on the rocks, so this must be a difficult time. There is no easy answer. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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