A thread for elderberries who are hovering in the bfp helicopter

[barkingtreefrog]

All elderberry grads welcome and anyone who fills berry criteria: ttc #1 a long time now finally bagged that elusive bfp, over 30...

Come join the next stage of the journey and compare sickness reports!!

Merkin, 10w, sickness has thankfully gone leaving me to be permanently emotional and tired!
tallyra, 6w+6, suffering mild hg on the sofa. dog breath is my current trigger....
boom, 6+1, hoping to wangle early NHS scan. Slightly sensitive nips, otherwise drawing a blank on the symptoms.
thunder 10+5, feel rough in every way but eating my way through it

Sorry boom I'm being slow- did they say yes to a scan then?

Hi everyone else. Do we need some more furniture and comforting features on this ere copter?

Bought a Doppler yesterday... Should arrive today. Will either be amazing or v disappointing that its too early to find a heartbeat!

Which one did you buy merk? I have an angel sounds one (cheapy) from last time but never heard one.

Yeah it's an angel sounds, found a YouTube of someone getting one at 10 weeks. Am waiting impatiently at home for it to arrive!

How exciting! I hope it works.
At my scan the nurse said she thinks my placenta is at the front- guess that might get in the way!

barking 6w+3, struggling to believe it is real. Random nausea, headaches and tiredness.

I would love an early scan but I'd want to mention to the midwife that it was the first cycle on clomid, which means I knew my dates as I took my tablets on cd2-6! However I did have some spotting yesterday which freaked me out just a little bit so if I mention that then just maybe? And the 6 days of spotting I had around when AF was due is still playing on my mind even though I got my bfp after it. This 12ww makes the 2ww feel easy .

Finally home this evening so will be pimping on a clearblue digi - hoping it tells me the number of weeks I think I am! Should I still wait until tomorrow to use fmu or should it not matter as I'm not testing early?

It works!!!! WOW! Took me a while to find it (and I have a painfully full bladder) but I have a baby in there an it sounds like a train!!! Whoop whoop

Whoop whoop Merkin!!!! Congrats :-)

Definitely me ntion the spotting barking, that may be your key to an early scan.

Wow!!! Fantastic merk!!

Wow, Merk that must be amazing!!!!

More spotting here this morning, after waking up with what felt like mild period pain. Hmm.

I didn't know you could buy those things!

barking eeuurgh, sorry to hear about your day. I gather spotting is quite normal, and the pain could just be movement in your womb (stretching etc). I feel your pain about the nephew, my SIL gave birth recently, but it felt like a stab in the heart when we were TTC and she was all bumpified and pregnant - I was totally suppressing eye-rolls whenever she complained about it. My advice, just remember the good things in YOUR life and try not to dwell on their situation - I bet you'd rather have your relationship, and your life, your outlook etc.

Merkin, 10w, sickness has thankfully gone leaving me to be permanently emotional and tired!
tallyra, 6w+6, suffering mild hg on the sofa. dog breath is my current trigger....
boom, 6+1, hoping to wangle early NHS scan. Slightly sensitive nips, otherwise drawing a blank on the symptoms.
thunder 10+5, feel rough in every way but eating my way through it
barking 6w+3, struggling to believe it is real. Random nausea, headaches and tiredness.
brodicea 4w+4, very tired and occasional nausea.

Can someone please sausage slap my MiL? We just told her were engaged and she was very happy. Then she said 'and of course the next happy news will be a baby on the way'. DP told her firmly that when we had news she would know. She wouldn't let it drop, kept going on about it. Then turned to me and said 'will it upset you, seeing the new baby?'
'I'll be fine'
'Are you sure?'

Argh!

barking
Nothing like a 'helpful' MIL!

Argh barking, big slap for the mil. I would call your midwife /epu about the spotting, it is probably nothing to worry about however they are the people who can help, check and put your mind at rest

Urgh not sure my new pregnancy vits agree with me! Just took one (centrum) with some water and walked to the shop. Had to run home (just made it) to violently puke orange fizzy stuff into the toilet!

Oh barking you need some super powers to get through today! I don't envy you that but have done sanity vibes from here if they help. Definitely call your epic about spotting. I'm sure it's fine- it's so common but I think you would feel reassured if someone was really looking after you. You could probably get a scan too.

merk did you take them after food? I think the acid can be a bit much if there's nothing to absorb it- I was getting quite a sore stomach after taking pregnacare ones if I didn't have a full belly.

I'm sure your epu is epic barking
I read the packet and it said take with water (unlike the pregnacare which specified with food) so I just glugged it down! Lesson learnt. The fear that I was going to be sick in the street had me running home pretty fast

Ugh. Only day 3 of MS and I've already played the 'going home sick' card. Feel ridiculous for using it this early on, when I will almost certainly need it again (and again), but just couldn't focus on anything or anyone. I even made it into work (1hr tube commute) before having to declare.
Now at home and hoping a duvet day sorts me out. Feel like a bit of a failure though - I'm sure this is nothing like what you've been having tally

Re: early scans, I'm in two minds. Quite want an early one to check I'm not going through all this for nothing. But after MMC last time, I'm acutely aware it can still go wrong afterwards, so tempted to wait a bit longer so as not to get hopes up.

merkin amazing - glad that those things work! Sorry about the vitamin incident. I've been taking mine in the evening with food, which seems tobe working so far (pregnacare tho)

barking you might be able to persuade them of an early scan because of the Clomid - I think it helped me last time. Good luck with the rest of your visits.

Can someone add this, as I'm on my phone:
PoppySeedBun 6+1, MS and sore boobs plus TIREDNESS, MMC last time, TTC 3 yrs.

Grr for you barking I would have been cranked out!

Merkin, 10w, sickness has thankfully gone leaving me to be permanently emotional and tired!
tallyra, 6w+6, suffering mild hg on the sofa. dog breath is my current trigger....
boom, 6+1, hoping to wangle early NHS scan. Slightly sensitive nips, otherwise drawing a blank on the symptoms.
thunder 10+5, feel rough in every way but eating my way through it
barking 6w+3, struggling to believe it is real. Random nausea, headaches and tiredness.
brodicea 4w+4, very tired and occasional nausea.
PoppySeedBun 6+1, MS and sore boobs plus TIREDNESS, MMC last time, TTC 3 yrs.

Erm, sorry if I am being a little dense but what is 'elderberry'? Not sure if this is a niche thread and wether or not I should post?
Thanks guys

Hi crazy The elderberries are a group of 30+ woman who have known each other from an ongoing TTC thread. This thread is for people from the elderberry TTC thread who have recently got a BFP. Having said that we're a friendly bunch (all over 30, have been TTC over a year and now between 4.5 and 10.5 weeks pregnant) and if you want to join us and want some support in early pregnancy feel free to hop on board!

Crazy it originally came from 'Elderly Primigravida' (term for a woman having her first child over the age of 30!) which we all thought sounded like Elderberry Pavlova.

If you fit our criteria you're very welcome crazy, all the other pregnancy threads seemed to be full of very confidentally pg women, and it took all of us at least a year (some a lot longer) to get pg and due to being older and this being number 1 for us all, we're here for mutual support as we're all in a similar situation and quite worried rather than just excited . We're only a niche in that we're all waiting for baby #1, over 30 and struggled to conceive.

Speaking of which, I feel weird calling anyone about the spotting as I haven't 'booked in' yet so have no one to officially call, and I doubt they could do anything to stop anything going wrong anyway. Unless it gets worse I'll just wait for my appointment next week. Hopefully the spotting plus clomid might sway an early scan.