Please tell me how to get through the first trimester without hibernating and sobbing into my pillow.

[Goldenhandshake]

Apologies for the dramatic title, I just feel so shit all the time. Queasy almost all day long, bloating and trapped wind, heartburn most nights then swinging between constipation and bouts of diarrhea. Every couple of days I am sick too, and on top of that I am so exhausted I am falling asleep as soon as my bum hits the sofa in the evening. All whilst working full time. I feel like I can't carry on like this much longer.

I am only just past 6 weeks, it is so different to my first pregnancy with DD, I had morning sickness and was quite tired, but did not feel anywhere near as shit as this and had no digestive problems. It is really getting me down.

How can I combat the bloating/trapped wind/constipation?

I am trying to eat fibre and healthy food, but the queasiness does always allow for that, some things I just cannot stomach.

I am with you! Am also 6 weeks and feeling utterly terrible while looking after 2yo DS. Feel like sobbing and the thought of a full afternoon ahead. I have awful nausea and bloating and lots of burping.

All this on top of severe anxiety about whether I will carry this pg to 12 weeks - last one miscarried. I struggle to get through each day without sobbing into my pillow and I am currently having cramps so feel particularly rubbish right now.

Sorry I have nothing useful to suggest. Just letting you know you are not alone!

You guys should join the relevant antenatal club on here. There you will be among women going through the same stages as you and can give/receive support and advice. I know it's certainly helping me get through the first trimester. I'm 10+5, due March 3rd.

My first 14 weeks were hell for the same reason, OP. I lived off ginger; ginger beer, ginger biscuits and stem ginger. I also swigged Gaviscon like it was going out of fashion.

As for the tiredness - well everyday at 2.00pm I was ready to drop and cry with tiredness.

Even now at 21 weeks I still suffer from digestive problems (constipation is the worst), being totally exhausted yet not sleeping at night and also being full of wind! The sickness has passed HURRAH!

All I can recommend is ginger, Gaviscon and getting as much rest as you can. The second trimester is easier but I would add mine isn't that much easier.

sleepcrisis I am sorry to hear you are having a rubbish time of it too, but equally relieved to know I am not alone, sorry if that sounds mean!

Lyra thank you for the advice I will seek out the relevant group!

Now 29 weeks. I survived by...er... Crying into my pillow and hibernating for the whole first trimester. Sorry but I actually did!

It doesn't last forever though!

You're not alone Goldenhandshake

I feel like that all the time.

I'm actually crying now and can't give a rational reason why. I've been weepy all day. This particular bout started when DP went out for a drink with a friend. There are also dishes that need washing and that made me cry when I got home from work.

I do have various physical pain in the arse symptoms but as I'm not a crier, this one is really getting to me.

9 weeks today...hopefully I wont be the walking waterfall for much longer...

Message me if you want to chat. x

I felt exactly the same this time round. Came as quite a shock after a breeze of a pregnancy with DD.

Antenatal thread was great but too fast moving so I couldn't keep up!

It will pass, really it will. It feels like it won't, but it will.

Can you stomach peppermint or fennel tea? They're good for bloating/trapped wind.

And definitely join the antenatal thread. At least you won't feel alone, and some of them may have some good tips.

Seabands acupressure bands are v good for sickness and nausea so I'd def recommend those. I struggled with the exhaustion but made myself rest instead of trying to keep going and it did help. Regular small snacks and meals help too.

I'm 28 weeks and feel like I'm returning to the 1st tri symptoms!

Yes peppermint tea has helped me but I don't always fancy it. I ma having this problem where I find something I fancy eating, I eat it and then half an hour later the hideous burps appear and the disgusting taste totally puts me off whatever food I just ate, for good.

I'm kind of hesitant to use sickness bands because I don't want to mask my symptoms - I think the nausea is helping somewhat my anxiety that the pregnancy will be unsuccessful! So I can't win really...

Ive tried peppermint tea but can only stomach a few sips, it did help slightly so will try to force down more. I love the smell of it but it tastes like someones dunked their over chewed gum into hot water to me!

Leave the tea bag in and maybe add some sugar? That would help give you energy too. Alternatively I much prefer fresh mint tea, if you have any growing in the garden? Nice with brown sugar...

goldenhandshake you have all my sympathies. I was doing just that for most of my first trimester. Suffered from bloating trapped wind and severe sickness with no appetite and extreme tiredness. I didn't want to get dressed or do my hair and make up. Just felt like an utter zombie...crying zombie!

But now 18w along and I feel like my old self. Just happy and normal and nothing like first trimester. Believe me it will pass. Mine got better at 15weeks. I am shopping, going out to restaurants to eat, seeing friends and staying up till late easily. All the things I never did in the first trimester.

It will get better. In the meantime there's nothing else but to grin and bear the first 3 months.

Oh and I tried every thing from ginger biscuits to peppermint tea to sickness bands. It was just utterly pointless.

I had severe vommitting in week 9-14 so got some anti sickness meds from gp which were a big relief and made me slightly human. Doesn't take the symptoms completely away but I could eat.

Is there any way of easing the exhaustion, anyone? I have existed solely on the sofa and in my bed for more that 48 hours. My poor DS is utterly bored. I just can't seemto get out of my pjs!

Sleepcrisis, for a few days I was so tired I barely had the energy to breathe. Then I started taking a supplement called Ferroglobin which contains iron, B vits etc. I felt much better within 24 hours.

OP, there was a thread on here a few weeks back recommending probiotic supplements for digestive problems, especially constipation and heartburn I think. I'm now 13 weeks and instead of supplements I've started drinking yakult every morning in the last couple of weeks and I'm definitely having fewer problems in that department, so worth a try maybe?

For sickness I'm afraid I can't really help, I get queasy about 2hrs after eating and the only thing that helps is more eating, so little and often (or in my case a lot and often) is my only solution.

Hi Golden, I totally sympathise.

I am 7 weeks today and I feel awful. I have generally been ok until last Wednesday and I have just gone downhill. I started crying at work on Wednesday morning and things are just getting worse. I can't focus at work and by 2pm I feel awful. I get hoe at half 5 and go to bed. My husband wakes me for food at about half 7 and then I go straight back to bed again. It is almost 2pm now and I only managed to drag myself out of bed about 30 minutes ago. I have a persistent headache, restless legs, exhaustion, constipation/diarrhoea and eating is no longer enjoyable as everything makes me feel so sick. I have had further random outbursts of crying and thankfully my hubby is being brilliant. All I want to do is hide and cry.

I have even had moments of thinking, "Have we done the wrong thing getting pregnant?" I just can't handle feeling this way, knowing it isn't going to get any better for quite some time and I can't cope with having to pretend I'm ok because nobody is allowed to know I'm pregnant.

I started taking vitamin supplements yesterday in the desperate hope that it might help. I have got a scan on Wednesday (me and hubby are treating ourselves) and I'm hoping tat when I see my little Jelly Bean it will make me realise that it is all worth it.

No idea. In both my pregnancies I was hibernating and sobbing in my pillow for the first 14 weeks. You have my sympathy!

Would iced peppermint tea work? I assume so, but don't know for certain. It might be a bit nicer?

As for exhaustion, I wish I knew! I'm 19 weeks and still utterly knackered.

I absolutely salute every one of you doing this while holding down a full-time job or looking after a toddler. I couldn't do it. You are amazing.

Ah going to chip in here. I think im only 5 or 6 weeks and today i have been a mess. Had a massive row with my OH about absolutely nothing and basically i laid in bed and cried all afternoon.. feel tired and a bit sicky all the time.

Still really teary now and know i'm being a b*tch!! Please don't tell me its going to be like this for months :-( x

I've had a few rows with my hubby too - they felt justified at the time but in hindsight I see how hormonally crazy I was being.

I woke up at 07.30am this morning and felt really awake for the first time in about a week! I made the most of it, got up and dressed but by 11.00am I was the downhill slope again. I have just got back into bed with the intention of having a much needed nap. It is crazy!

Also, since yesterday I have felt sick at just the thought of having a cup of tea. I used to be obsessed with tea, drinking at least 10 cups a day and now I can't bear the thought of it. I had a few yesterday but just looking at the mug and tasting it...well, it made me feel quite peculiar. All I'm drinking now is water, it is all I can face!

What is happening to our bodies!!!!!

Writer, I'm pleased to report that my love of tea came back at about 15 weeks. I was really worried that I'd never like it again!

I think I'm going to have some Nutella sandwiches, that will cheer me up! I will cry if I ever start feeling sick at the thought of them...

I feel your pain. I'm 15 weeks so finally coming out of it but have been feeling awful for months.

I coped by being signed off work for a while as just could not function and have been having acupuncture which has helped me cope a lot better! Lots of rest, lots of fluids, eating when you can and anything you fancy seemed to help. I know it doesn't seem like it will ever end but it does get better x