Lies I can use to avoid food & drink I can't have while we wait to reach the safe zone

[K8eee]

So I found out Friday I'm pg baby #1 and has taken 4 months!

Anyway, back to the question. Am being good and avoiding alcohol and food I shouldn't eat but I know my mum will clock on to why I'm not having them eg. I eat my steak as rare as rare comes, love soft boiled eggs and soldiers and could eat pâté until he cows come home. Both her and my dad are either coming to stay, or were going to them in September probably, but I won't be at the 12 weeks until I think early October. Any suggestions for what I can use for lies for the time being?

Antibiotics should cover the alcohol, Fad diet for the rest.

Don't buy them in? Or have scrambled eggs instead of boiled.

Your mum will guess BTW.

You can eat soft boiled eggs as long as they have the lion stamp. That means the chickens have been immunised against salmonella.

Really creature? I want to keep it away from everyone for a while but I feel like I'm going to explode

Ahhhh I didn't know even if it was stamped I could. Ok thanks!

But then if I say I'm on antibiotics, she'll ask what for

If it were me I wouldn't keep such lovely news from my parents.
I can understand the wish to wait till 12 weeks but I always told the very special people who I would have turned to for support should the worst happen.
Congrats btw

I told family before 12 weeks. I didnt tell anyone else until after 12 weeks

I second telling your parents. People wait till 12 weeks in case of the worst. If the worst does happen, you will need your mum. Let her enjoy the very long wait till 12 week scan (& very long wait till baby is finally here) with you.

eggs and the NHS

The NHS advises pregnant women to avoid soft boiled and raw eggs. I told people I was on a diet, it seemed to work.

Yes but the NHS says to avoid them due to the risk of salmonella. There is no risk of salmonella if the chickens have been immunised against it.

It's just catch all advice.

It depends on the kind of person you are. If you are known for eating raw/rare food and drowning yourself in wine (as I was), it will take your friends about two seconds to notice.

If you really want to keep it secret, avoid dinners/drinks with people and socialise around cups of tea/juice/tepid water until you are clear to spill the beans.

Oh, and don't launch yourself at anyone with a bag of Haribo, or openly salivate at M&S trifle adverts. Those are apparently also dead giveaways.

Not much fun, but hey. Welcome to pregnancy!

Congratulations, by the way!

Oh, and I ate Parma ham by the pig load until I realised it was essentially raw.

You can eat rare steak - as long as the outside is well cooked. Pink whole cuts of meat are fine.

nhs now says not to eat undercooked meat.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/foods-to-avoid-pregnant.aspx#Raw

I asked my Midwife about the steak thing, and she had said it was fine as long as the outsides are sealed.

I personally would tell parents, as having been through mc's I feel that if the worst was to happen you would need your mum.
Plus its great to have someone to talk to and ask for advice and your mum is the best person for that. Most people don't tell until 12 weeks but they usually tell their parents or one close friend so they have someone to go to with questions.
Congrats and hope u sort something out xx

Your mum will guess, my DM always knew everything DSIS and me were upto. She didn't always let on and she didn't always tell DDad, but she knew.

Bear in mind also that you may in the throes of morning sickness/nausea at that time!

Do not use the antibiotics lie to cover pregnancy, that one is a dead giveaway.

Current advice is that meat must be cooked through due to the risk of toxoplasmosis. The guidelines seem to change regularly, and your best bet is the NHS website, rather than your midwife, friends, family or mumsnet!

Just tell your parents. The 12 week secrecy doesn't count for close family

I had xmas at the in-laws with raging ms. They didn't guess (dh told them I was feeling unwell as I was constipated!) My mum also never guessed despite us meeting for lunch every fortnight as we work close to each other. Again raging morning sickness. People can be very dense about these things.

It's easy to avoid pate unnoticed if there are other yummy things to have instead. It was the alcohol I thought might give the game away but everyone just assumed I was being virtuous. I kept passing,my glass to DH after some pretend sips.

Tell them you're on medication that reacts with alcohol, maybe?

Congratulations K8eee :)

I told my and DH' family about pregnancy as soon as we got the blood exams results but kept silent with friends and colleagues until 3rd month was over. My lie: i was under a special drug treatment for sinusitis, which was going to last 1 month, obliged me to avoid alcohol and was giving me strong stomach problems (the treatment was something i was actually supposed to take one year earlier so I could give plenty of details). some people actually believed me... many did not!

If you don't get any sickness you might have some chances to keep the secret with your family. I think best way to hide your food constraints is to cook for everyone (so you decide what to prepare) or propose some safe dishes (e.g. pizza).

I kept it a secret until 12 week scan with both my successful pregnancies, my miscarriages were private between me and dh. I didn't want even parents knowing. Do what is right for you!

I drank tonic with no gin (and pretended to get pissed ). Otherwise I quietly avoided the other foods as recommended by nhs website, plus the ones that made me heave at the mere thought. (vom face esp for all the sodding bbqs I have had to endure this summer).

There are lots of things you can have- eg camembert if it is baked, soft egg yolks if they are lion stamped, steaks cooked to a certain internal temperature, cooked parma ham. The one thing I really really miss is pate.

Congrats btw.

I tried not to tell my mum I was pg this time as I'd had a miscarriage before - but she knew, must be a mothers intuition thing!

Congratulations!!

Tell your mum - much easier. Everyone else will not really notice (or will hopefully be too polite to ask ) and you'll want her support if anything bad happens, and to ask her about all the niggles!

I managed to go from 20 a day, always the first to suggest 'pub?' and eating steaks that were still mooing, to teetotal, non-smoker, eating mainly crackers and only one person guessed. ONE! It is doable, just be subtle.