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Three misscarriages ..any advice on how to have a healthy one

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wannabemommy · 13/07/2013 11:02

Hi
It is the first time im writing about my experience over internet. And it is purely because I see that there are lot of people who had similar experience and feel im not alone and itt would feel better to discuss with you all. I had my first misscarriage three years ago at 17 th week. I have no children yet. I had started bleeding at 8th week and continued bleeding, was in and out of hospital several times. I had lost so much blood that it had become very dangerous for me to go without a blood transfusion, I was that weak. So the doctors gave me blood transfusion at 16th week and asked me to go back home and rest. In between these 8-16 weeks, the doctor was doing ultrasound almost every two days and I saw my baby growing properly and healthy. He would be jumping up and down :). I got so connected to him.But when I went to the doctor in the 17th week he found no heart beat. I was very very devastated. The doctor did an mc and soon after that i got infection. So I had to be in the hospital for another five days. Cried for many months. And didnt dare to try again for next two years. Then I got pregnant again, but I was very scared. And it happened again lost the pregnancy at six weeks. Then after an year got pregnant again, tried to be as careful as I can, still lost it at eight weeks. I dont know what to do I am exhausted, have lost all my confidence. And on top of that people around me say all kind of mean things to me inspite of knowing my situation. For your info, I had taken folic acid and multivitamins for each pregnancy and the doctors could not find anything wrong with me. :( Any suggestion that will help is appreciated. Thanks.

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Chocomama1 · 13/07/2013 11:09

I had 3 miscarriages one after the other....i am now 9 months preg and ready to give birth. The only advice i can give is to not give up faith...give your body time to recover and communicate your feelings with your partner. I know how emotionally and physically traumatic it can be. Stick in there!

Chocomama1 · 13/07/2013 11:15

With this pregnancy the only thing i did different was not have any sex at all. Not sure if this had something to do with it but it worked.... i had a small bleed at 8 weeks but they checked baby and all was fine.

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wannabemommy · 13/07/2013 11:16

That sounds motivating Chocomama1 :) congratulations!! I really hope one day I can say the same. Did you have to take any special medications?

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cogitosum · 13/07/2013 11:19

I'm really sorry for your experience it sounds awful.

Are you still having tests? Although they said there's nothing wrong I don't think they should just leave it.

For your subsequent pregnancies did you take baby aspirin or anything?

2kidsintow · 13/07/2013 11:21

I had 3 miscarriages, one after another. Then the tests.

They said that there was no diagnosis and we should just keep trying.

I went on to have 2 healthy DDs, now 12 and 8. I did nothing different. It was just one of those things. :)

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wannabemommy · 13/07/2013 11:27

Ya now they have started with some blood tests. I lost my third pregnancy just last month. So they wanted to wait until my hormone levels become normal. Have another appointment next month. Lets see what they do.
Some how, inspite of these experiences, the urge in me to have a baby has only increased.
No I didn't take any aspirin before.

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wannabemommy · 13/07/2013 11:29

2kidsintow: So glad to hear your success stories. I wish I had posted this long back. Feel so much better already :)

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Chocomama1 · 13/07/2013 11:51

I had tests but they found nothing wrong. As awful as it sounds sometimes it is just bad luck....at the time you hear that you think what a stupid thing to say but im living proof. Keep your faith x

chilipeppers · 13/07/2013 13:36

I had 3 miscarriages one after another all early thankfully. I then went on to have a normal heathy pregnancy my DD has just turned 2! Hang in there wannabe your time will come. Happy trying!

chilipeppers · 13/07/2013 13:48

I had 3 miscarriages one after another all early thankfully. I then went on to have a normal heathy pregnancy my DD has just turned 2! Hang in there wannabe your time will come. Happy trying!

sazzle82 · 13/07/2013 14:01

I had 3 miscarriages in over a 9 month period during 2008 & 2009, at 8, 5 and 9 weeks. They were all very different, in one I lost a lot of blood, another was a missed m/c. The tests DH and I had showed no reason and the consultant put it down to bad luck. His only advice was that next time I should take a high dose of folic acid and an aspirin a day.

I didn't try again for 3 years. I went to my Dr when we decided to try and got prescription folic acid of 5mg (instead of 400 micrograms that you can buy) and aspirin - normal 300 mg not baby Asprin.

I'm now 31 weeks, still taking Asprin every day (until 37/38 weeks according to the consultant) and everything is fine.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, but there is hope. Good luck xxx

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wannabemommy · 13/07/2013 18:11

Hi chilipeppers,
Thanks for your wishes :)

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ImNotCute · 13/07/2013 18:21

I'm sorry, that must all have been so distressing.

Just to let you know of another success story- my cousin had 3 miscarriages in a row, followed by 2 completely healthy pregnancies. She is now mum to a beautiful girl and boy. I hope you'll have a successful pregnancy soon too.

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wannabemommy · 13/07/2013 18:21

Hi sazzle82, sorry for your losses.
But Im very glad to know that you are expecting a baby soon, congratulations.
For my last pregnancy, i did think of taking Aspirin but was terrified to take it without any assistance. I dont even know if we get 5mg folic acid where I live. I will wait and see what the doctors conclude after all the tests they plan to do.

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Chocomama1 · 13/07/2013 18:24

I know its hard but try not to obsess over it also... your body needs to be as stress free as possible. Give yourself time and pls keep us updated...fingers crossed for you x

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wannabemommy · 13/07/2013 18:25

I thank you all for your responses. All these years me and my husband felt alone in this, all my close friends had normal pregnancies so I knew they wouldnt understand. Thanks again.

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wannabemommy · 13/07/2013 18:28

Hi Chocomama1, Im trying my best not to get stressed over it. After reading about your successful pregnancies, Im very relieved. There is hope :)

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growyourown77 · 13/07/2013 18:32

So sorry to hear of your losses. That's heartbreaking. Def press for thorough tests to see if there is a hormone imbalance or a rejection issue.

If the hormone tests show low progesterone (which can be a factor in the womb lining not sustaining the implanted embryo) you could try 500mg vit c per day as its though to help encourage progesterone in some way. I'd be wary of progesterone creams tho.

I found reflexology helped balance my hormones and acupuncture helped get pregnant and I had it weekly till 13 weeks and now (finally) have our beautiful daughter.

Also fertilityfriends.co.uk and infertilitynetwork.co.uk have great info and forums.

Hang in there and good luck!

ceara · 13/07/2013 21:39

So sorry to hear of you losses OP.

My mum had three successive miscarriages too. No reason was ever found or treatment suggested.

I was her fourth pregnancy.

I hope you will also have your happy ending.

AngryPrincess · 15/07/2013 01:15

Hi,

I had one DS, then two MCs. This time I took low dose aspirin for the first trimester, and am now at 35 weeks. On the one hand it could be coincidence, but I couldn't find any drawbacks with taking the low dose aspirin. (Think it was 75mg).

recall · 15/07/2013 01:24

I lost my first at 22 weeks, then had two more mc which were earlier at 7 and 9 weeks. i then had my daughter, a further mc at 5 weeks, and then my son and another daughter. All three are now thriving

Just keep trying..I wish you the very best of luck.

Oh yes, forgot to say, I was advised to take Asprin 75mg a day which I did as soon as I got the positive tests.

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wannabemommy · 15/07/2013 13:28

It makes me sad to think that probably an aspirin a day could have made the difference.
Anyways, I will wait to see what the doctors come up with. Hope everything is alright and like most of you I just need to take Aspirin :).
Thanks again to all of you and congratulations, it feels good to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and you guys are the best examples !!

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MistressofPemberley · 15/07/2013 22:26

I second taking regular low dose aspirin. I have also had regular acupuncture which balanced out my hormones. I'm 36 weeks pregnant after 3 first trimester miscarriages in a row. I also stopped drinking alcohol and improved my diet.

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wannabemommy · 19/07/2013 08:27

Hi MistressofPemberley congratulations to you too...did you have to take any bed rest? My mom tells me that next time I should take atleast first three months complete bed rest.

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wannabemommy · 25/07/2013 12:30

Hi everyone, I just got the news that one of my close friends gave birth to her baby. Im very happy for her, but something inside me wants to break into tears.
So im sitting in my office and crying. Fortunately no one can see me.
I just feel so misarable right now :(
Its just that after my two misscarriages, she and me started to try for a baby almost at the same time. This is her first pregnancy.

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