Who had a baby knowing their partner didn't want one?

[Sunshine123]

I keep toying with the idea of how nice baby number 3 would be but my dh is not the broody sort and doesn't want anymore. I know that he would have another one to make/keep me happy (he's told me so) but i just don't know if i could knowing that he didn't want it to. Has anyone been in this situation and just got pregnant regardless? He's working loads at the moment and i feel we're drifting a bit and can't help thinking that a third baby would make me so happy and draw us closer together again - but will it if he only does it to keep me happy?

you got lots of time dont rush too quickly

thanks jolly4,i am still young so i have got plenty of time to keep hounding him i dont think i would feel this strongly about having children so young if he dident have a child already when there together it makes me feel like i want a part of what hes got and makes me think of having children,do you think what sunshine 123 said about a child bringing you closer 2gether is true? xx

no i think personally that you need a very stong relationship too start as a newborn baby and children for that matter is the most life changing experience and adds pressure certainly doesnt bring you closer , sleepless nights my dp is currently in the other bedroom with our son in bunkbeds me an dd are in the double bed as he has too be up early and get too work we are fortunate that we have 3 bedrooms too do this some couples live in 1 or two beds house i sometimes feel as if i havent had any cuddles an i have needs too but we have too make do with kisses on the landing or cuddles on the couch when we have time or arent too tired or ds sayin stop snoggin mum an dad you need too have that concrete foundation from the beginning xx

that does make sense, i think it is a very good idea to wait untill your both ready its just i have my days when i feel like screaming i want a baby!it does help talking to people who have experience of having a baby and makes you realise its not all fun and games.:0

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thanks hapymumof2, i admit i have thought of doing it but i dont think i would ever go through with it because like you say you never know how he may react and i wouldent want to betray him like that ,i would feel to guilty. you are so right about it being another life and i should wait for the right time for both of us so our child would have more of a chance in life with two happy parents who both wanted the pregnancy,how old were you when you had your first child? xx

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thanks i will do, sometimes your feelings take over you rational thinking but coming on here definatley helps you to think sensibly again xx