How do I stop crying?

[SeashellHoarder]

Just looking for some advice really and need to know if this is normal or what can I do?

I'm 34 weeks and very very emotional. DH is not very supportive. Quite sweary and often raises his voice at me. Sometimes at dd (2) also.

Yesterday evening it was quite bad and he had 3 episodes of swearing / aggression within 2 hours.

Since then I've just been crying off and on, most of the night awake, every time I think I've got it under control I just start crying again.

If you can suggest any way to help me feel better that would be much appreciated.

It's not normal. I didn't realise that with my ex, and I had a miserable pregnancy with my dd because of him. Fast forward 7 years and I have a very happy relationship and am also 35 weeks pregnant. This morning ex dp over reacted about a change in arrangements with dd, called me a cunt and a sh*tty controlling bitch etc. it really upset me, and I've felt a bit sensitive and emotional today so I can see why you are so upset. My ex is fine again now, and it was exactly that quick change in behaviour that left me second guessing him all the time and spending ages sticking to my guns about throwing him out.

Now I know I definitely did the right thing and I'm just gutted it took me so long to realise. That kind of aggressive language is a very damaging environment for you and your children, please dont accept that it is normal.

It's not normal, it's definately NOT okay and you need to get yourself and your children away from him. Get a message to someone, anyone to come and get you with the police.

Thank you all for your responses. It does confirm what I already know deep down tbh.

I will contact a solicitor and get a view on chances of supervised contact only.

Dave, thank you for sharing your experience, it does sound very similar behaviour. So reaffirming to know you made the right choice

Stay strong Seashell- you are making really positive steps just by becoming aware of what's been going on and that its not okay. BTW that phone number I posted earlier is open 24 hours- even if your local Women's Aid branch is closed at night, someone will still be there to talk to you on the phone.

No its not normal, he is the c**t not your child!!!

My partner and I very rarely argue and there is certainly never any shouting or swearing. If there is an issue we discuss it calmly and try to find a resolution.

You need to find a way of escaping before you have baby number 2 as it will be all the harder. Does your DH not work? Can you say you are taking DS to the park/health visitor and just walk away with the clothes you are wearing??

How are you OP? Thinking of you x

I really feel like you need some legal advice to assist you so that you have some knowledge around child contact/residence. I'm a Solicitor specialising in Family law and I would be happy to help if you felt you wanted some advice. What you are experiencing is not acceptable by any means.

Thank you all I am doing ok.

Natalee that is very kind of you to offer, I will put some thoughts down and pm you if that's ok?
I am obviously very concerned that he is never alone with my dcs now or in the future and it guides all my thoughts and actions.