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Pregnancy a few months after giving birth?

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FraggleRock77 · 09/07/2013 19:34

This is our first child and we were discussing the other night about how long we should wait before getting pregnant again (egg and sperm willing). I'm 36 and have always wanted a large family. Has anyone else turned things around quickly? How did it work out? Xxx

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Smilehappy · 09/07/2013 20:34

Didn't want to read and run, hopefully this bumps your post up...

don't have any experience in your situation, but your apparently meant to give your body 2years to recover from pregnancy; this obviously is a guideline and you can go as quickly as you would like , maybe give yourself a few months before conceiving though...

Good luck x

rockybalboa · 09/07/2013 20:39

I have a friend who has 1 year and 18 days between her DC1 and DC2. Her stomach muscles are pretty wasted but she's now on DC4!

BeQuicksieorBeDead · 09/07/2013 20:40

Hey fraggle we are in the same sort of situation. I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with our first and 35 - will be 36 by the time this one is born. We think we want more than one (like you said, egg and sperm willing, and we are very grateful to have got this far at all) and we are also thinking that leaving it for a couple of years might make the egg and sperm less willing!
I know a few people (I work in a school so lots of parents around!) who have children with birthdays less than a year apart - so they got pregnant very quickly! Two of them are even in the same class! They are all a bit younger than us but no reason why it wouldn't work, if you want that. I know with a CS you are advised to wait before getting pregnant and I bet someone will be along in a minute to tell us how long!
The other thing we considered was adopting a child in a couple of years time, an older or younger sibling for PFB and a fresh start for someone who isn't as lucky as our baby will hopefully be. Whether we have the energy and courage to do it though remains to be seen!

Good luck with everything and PM me if you want to

BeQuicksieorBeDead · 09/07/2013 20:42

Oh and me and my lovely brother are only 18 months apart, so my mum didn't hang about either!

VanellopePitstop · 09/07/2013 20:47

16 month gap here, almost to the day, and it was hard work at first but great now they are older (3yrs & 4yrs).

Oubliette0292 · 09/07/2013 20:50

I know two children who were born in the same year and aren't twins (one in Jan and one in Dec).
Mine are 19 months apart - really tough to start with but great now (7 and 7).

Oubliette0292 · 09/07/2013 20:52

ooops - now 7 and 9.

toffeem · 09/07/2013 20:54

My brother and i are 14 months apart and we are very close. Mum and Dad said it was hard to begin with but by the time we were 2 it was great as we were into the same thing.

As teenagers and older we had all the same freinds too!

TippiShagpile · 09/07/2013 20:58

I have 12 months between my 2 children. Very very hard to begin with but an absolute breeze now.

I had an em section with ds1 and that lead to lots of probs when I was pg with ds2 because my scar hadn't healed properly etc but I wouldn't have it any other way.

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 09/07/2013 21:11

A friend of mine told me about her midwife (yes midwife) who was already pregnant by the time of her 6 week post-partum check up . She told my friend "Don't do what I did!"

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FraggleRock77 · 09/07/2013 21:35

Thank you for all the great feed back. And what a lovely thought BeQuick about adopting. I'm having a planned C Section so think i may be forced to wait. Has anyone jumped back in (so to speak) after a section. I'm worried my stomach may burst open!!! Xx

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Gonnabmummy · 09/07/2013 21:39

My cousin only had a 7 week gap b4 conceiving again by accident I may add. She would not recommend it, it's really not to good for you but deffo think there's a longer time after a section

FeegleFion · 09/07/2013 21:41

I was so traumatised after DC1 that I waited 14 years before 'jumping right in' with DC2.

Lots of people do have what it takes to have what I call 'stepping stones' but not me.

DC2 is 7 months and I'm still not ready to have sex not that that matters, but that's another story

windywoo26 · 09/07/2013 21:42

Fraggle I am pg with DC2. There will be 19 month gap between ours. Had EMCS for DC and my mw has said that's not a problem at all as long as you have recovered ok. Took almost 2 years for DC1 to come along and pretty much 2 weeks for DC2!

PoppyAmex · 09/07/2013 21:50

Same here. Currently pregnant following a c-section, DD will be 18 months when DC2 is born; HCPs don't seem worried about scar.

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FraggleRock77 · 09/07/2013 22:38

Thank you for all the really helpful answers xxx

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ThePortlyPinUp · 09/07/2013 22:41

13 months between dd3 and dd4 here and I found it easier than the 3.5 year gap between dd1-dd2.

Gruntfuttocks · 09/07/2013 22:43

11.5 months. A blur of feeding and changing, but they grew up really close and have remained so as adults, much like twins. Knackering but worth it.

madwomanacrosstheroad · 09/07/2013 22:56

Two of mine are 17 months apart (also have bigger gaps between the others). The first year or so was a nightmare. Actually i was so exhausted that i remember very little. Since then it worked really well. They are now 12 and 13 (boy and girl) and like similar books, films, friends etc and can do things together that i would not allow either of them to do by themselves. There is none of the demands to be entertained by me and they are very close.

ZingWidge · 09/07/2013 23:11

smallest gap was 17 months ( DS2 & DS3)

crazykat · 09/07/2013 23:23

12 months between DD1 and DS1 (not planned that way) it was very hard at first as DD1 had reflux that wasn't diagnosed for months so hardly slept. The first year is a blur TBH but they are really close and I think it helped with jealousy as DD1 was too young to remember a time before DS1 was born. Well except for a couple of weeks adjusting to the new routine.

They also kept each other occupied when they were 2yo and 1yo respectively.

There's a 22 month gap between DS1 and DD2, and 22 months between DD2 and DS2. There was a little jealousy between DD2 and DS2 as she was used to being the baby of the family but DD1 and DS1 were old enough to keep DD2 occupied when DS2 needed attention.

peanutMD · 09/07/2013 23:30

Friend had an EMCS with DD1 and ELCS with DD2 12 months on. The girls are now 5 and 6, very different children and have always fought like cat and dog for attention.

SIL had EMCS with DD1, ELCS with DS 10 months later and ELCS with DD2 11 months after that. Kids get on very well and always have done although now they are 16, 15 and 14 this is not always the case :o

Everyone is different just enjoy your baby and see how things go!

StupidFlanders · 09/07/2013 23:36

I'm 36 and I have had 5 in 6 years and also had a couple of miscarriages in that time and 4 cesareans.

Never had a problem and the only concern shown by the dr was after my last cesarean she said she wants to see me back but wait 18 months this time (but it'll be fine if its earlier).

StealthToddler · 09/07/2013 23:44

I have 5.5 years between my 4. A 17 month gap then 23 months then 2 years. i was aged 33, 34, 36 and 38. Took 3 years to conceive ds1 and the others came sling quickly. I would say it is exhausting but it's lovely, they all get on and play nicely but the 17 months age gap was very hard. 2 years much easier.

cjdamoo · 09/07/2013 23:49

11 months between ds 2 and 3. Hectic early days but they are so close now

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