I should be nearly 11 weeks but scans are showing me to be at c6.5weeks

[rb30]

My Lmp was on 20/04/13 and based on that date I should be between 10-11 weeks pregnant. However when I was about 7 weeks, I was suffering abdominal pain so I was referred for a scan and was told that the baby was no more than 4.5weeks - this was on 10/06/2013. I then had a second scan on 17/06/2013 and was told I was 5.5weeks, and they then ruled ectopic. That one week was the most traumatic! I then went for a third scan on 28/06/13 and was told the foetus was just under 6weeks measuring at 3mm! My baby had only grown the equivalent of a couple of days over an 11 day period!!! I don't understand what's happening. I have been suffering severe sickness, morning noon and night, I can't keep water down or any food. I vomit my stomach bile most mornings. On the basis of this sickness, I've been told its a good sign for my pregancy, which I believe. I was prescribed promethazine but had convulsions after taking it, so have been given cyclizine...not taken yet but will try. I'm just scared taking these medicines might affect my baby. I had an MC in December after trying for 18 months. I couldn't bear to lose this one, especially as I feel I became a mother in the last month. Please has anyone had such an experience with the slow gestation? My dh doesn't understand and the nurses at the hospital who have been monitoring me say I have nothing to worry about, BUT they can't explain why this is happening...

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. It's not easy.

Can u ask what did they see on the scan? Just a sac, a feotal pole or heart beat?

I'm sure someone will be along with advice soon. Is there anyway your dates could be wrong?

So sorry to hear you are going through this It does
Seem a bit strange - could your dates be wrong making the foetus smaller than expected?

Also it can be hard to get accurate measurements at this stage as baby is so tiny so you may find it grows more by the next scan. Have they seen hb yet?

Are you having another scan soon?

I hope it works out for you xx

Sorry to hear of your anxiety. My experience isnt quite like yours but i hope it gives you some reassurance. I was always showing small for dates but not significantly until around 32 weeks when I also had reduced movement from baby. It just resulted in regular monitoring & a couple of extra scans. I also has steroid injections for dd's growth. She was born very small, 4.7lbs & developed a strawberry mark on her head which I was told is connected to her low birth weight.
She is still on the small side but perfectly healthy & meeting milestones. Good luck

I also had very bad sickness but no idea if that was connected.

Thank you so much for responding. There was suggestion i ovulated really ate (like 2 weeks too late). i accepted this, but when they said it was "5.5" weeks in second scan and "just under 6 weeks" in 3rd scan 11 days later really concerned me! The third scan I had was to check heartbeat...the sonographer thought she saw a flutter...I couldn't tell because everything's moving for me at mo because of nausea. I have another scan in a couple weeks to make sure it's the babies heartbeat and not my pulse. I have seen changes in the 3 scans so far. the first was a sac, second included a "yolk", and then the 3rd one was a small white thing floating around in the black blob..so i guess there is some development. but I'm so scared. I am worried about abnormalities / disabilities after one of my insensitive friends ( mother of three) said baby likely to be born with such! Magicstars so great to hear your positive news. It really helps just talking about it. Thank you for reading

I found out today I lost the baby shortly after that last scan. I've still not had bleeding and experience all day sickness. I think it may have been because I became really dehydrated and passed out a couple of days after that third scan...not my time right?

Oh rb so sorry for your loss. I had a similar experience in oct last year, had v early scan to rule out ectopic, showed about 4 weeks so they weren't expecting a hb, another scan at what should have been 8 weeks, looked about 6 and still no hb but they said it could appear, third scan in my case showed no change from 2nd, and like you no bleed/natural MC at that stage.

It's a horrible thing to go through as you get a glimmer of hope at each scan, I had my bad news the day they broke the story about the royal pregnancy so I couldn't get away from pregnancy stuff wherever I looked and I suspect you feel the same at the moment.

I know it means very little now, but don't give up hope. I'm now at 31 weeks and so far so good this time, what helped me was having a good break from work when it happened and booking a last minute sun holiday-I really needed it more than expected and got pregnant again straight away. Fingers crossed for your recovery and good luck

Purplepoppyseed thank you for your message. I am truly heartbroken. I guess my time will come one day

I'm so sorry that it turned out to be bad news. I have been through it twice and for me it was third time lucky but I did manage to get some tests in between which helped. I'm sure you didn't lose the baby because of dehydration - it most certainly was not due to anything you did or didn't do - sadly it wasn't growing properly from the start. You don't have to wait for bleeding if you don't want to - it is possible to get it over with faster if you feel that would help with your recovery.

Katandkit thank you for your message. It's reassuring to hear your story...3rd time lucky...that's what I'm holding out for. If you don't mind can I ask what tests you had done? I'm going to have my ovaries checked because I was told I had a cyst on my left ovary from which the egg was released (they told me this on my first scan back early June). I don't know what happened and why. I'm just keeping every limb in my body crossed that I'm as lucky as you 3rd time. Thank you again xxxx

im sorry to hear you had ammc. i went through exactly the same in dec including the sickness and baby stopped growing at 6 weeks when i should have been 11. i hope i can reassure you that it is just a complete one off. i had 2 healthy dc before that and got pregnant straight after and currently 23 weeks and all is ok. good luck xx

I'm so very sorry rb

Just wanted to offer a hugs. I'm so sorry you're having a difficult time x

Very sorry to hear your sad news

I'm so, so sorry.

It's possible that the cyst you were told about is a corpus luteum cyst, particularly if they mentioned it in relation to the egg being released. It's nothing to worry about but you can google it if you want more information.

It's a horrible thing you're going through and be gentle with yourself. You're grieving for a whole life.

Thank you all for your kind messages. This mumsnet forum is great for sharing same experiences isn't it? It's really helped reading the success stories after such issues. Showofhands thanks for the tip. Will look into it. workingonitagain good luck with your pregnancy. Hope it all goes well for you. Best best wishes xxxxx

Just wanted to say sorry. I am another person hoping for 3rd time lucky.

Anyone who has had my experience please could you help...I have a question...did your fetus disappear? I went for another scan today at a diff hospital and they did a scan and the fetus wasn't in the sac - literally it had disappeared. The sac had grown but looked like it was collapsing...really don't understand. They suggested that the fetus could've absorbed into my uterus but isn't that dangerous? The fetus died per the previous scan about 3 weeks ago...this new hospital epau now want to see me after another 10days and then start medical management...I feel like I can't wait that long as I've known this now for over a week already so am going back to the original hospital to finish off what they started. I just don't understand where the fetus went...oh I dunno every time I go hospital it feels like I'm hearing I've lost the baby for the first time and just get really emotional! Oh I just thus would be all over...but my body doesn't appear to want to start bleeding yet!

yes when i went for my last scan she couldnt fint the baby so had to do an internal scan to check things. remember we are talking about mm measurments and since its not alive it could shrink or reabsorb. so yes it is normal i think. i opted for the tablet to flush the sac and have to say i hardly had any cramps and after a couple of hrs i passed it. hope you get it over soon and feel ok again xx

workingonitagain thanks for your message. It's given me reassurance. I had an internal scan too. This new hospital had fantastic equipment it was like HD quality...which is why I got worried because couldn't see anything. The sonographer spent ages looking for it! I just want this over but my original hospital won't see me sooner either to remove it! I've opted for the medical management method too and hoping it is over quick. I just want to start trying again. This is going to sound truly awful, but the fact that I can't see the fetus anymore makes it easier to want it all out of me quickly so I can move on. Thanks again xxx

I know what you mean I had that feeling as soon as I knew it wasn't going to go Ok so I think it is normal.
Good luck and look forward to seeing you here on this thread again and im sure it won't be too long xx

workingonitagain thanks for msge. Please let me know how you get on with your pregnancy. Fingers crossed all good. All the best xxx

I wouldnt go for the medical management it made me so poorly I ended up haveing a blood transfusion and then had d&c I would go for that its quick and easy sorry to hear of your bad news ive had seven miscarriages good luck with trying again hope all goes well xx

So I had my medical mangement treatment. I went in Thursday 1/08 at 1pm. I was given 5 courses of misopristine over a 15 hour period. I started bleeding a lot (though the blood was very thin) from 8.30pm but had no clotting. Needed to change pad every half hour. I was in a lot of pain and was given oral morphine. I was also put on a drip because my blood pressure had plummeted.At 5am I felt like my insides were going to come out so sat on toilet with a bed pan. I could feel something coming out and after a little bit of pushing a ginormous sac fell out of me into the bedpan. It was like a deflating balloon. I could see something white wrinkled attached to it. Then a whole load of thick blood fell out and covered it. I was alone when this happened and must've cried out because the nurse came knocking. I let her in and told her I needed to take a picture of it because I wanted my husband to see it. She let me get myself together, and as I got up to leave the bathroom she picked up the bedpan and started shaking it. I came back and took a picture and then left, thinking they would keep it do some testing and then let me know what they were doing with it (I hadn't signed the consent form for them to cremate it- I'd said I would let them know withiin a month). I came back to bed and a short while later heard the toilet flush! Following morning when the doc came to see me at 10am she announces it was a blood clot! I was like I have had nothing else, no tissue no clot anything come out of me. So if that was an enormous blood clot that means I still have everything inside of me. I showed her the pic, and she still thought it looked like a clot cos it was covered in blood (the nurse had shaken the bedpan). So the doc then said well its probably the clot you've been seeing in your scans!! I could t believe the the condescension!!!! I know I saw my baby in those scans! She then was ready to send me home as there was nothing else they could do for me! I couldn't believe it! They don't make doctos like they used to. She then disappeared saying ill prescribe some antibiotics incase you get an infection. So nothing happened for another 4 hours! At 2pm the sonographer who I knew from epau came to take me for a scan. The us showed everything was out except for some residual tissue and quite a large bleeding cavity in my uterus. She confirmed that what came out was the prengnancy sac especially as now I had very little bleeding! I couldn't believe it! The monkeys had flushed my baby down the toilet!! How dare they???!!! If I'd wanted to bury it they had just taken that right away from me. A diff doctor came and spoke to me at 3pm and when I asked why they'd flushed it he was like don't worry about we only test if its a molar pregnancy! And then discharged me! I asked about the antibiotics and he said yes he'd prescribe because if you carry dead tissue for more than 5 days you risk infection (baby died about 4.5wks ago). Then disappeared. Finally at 7.30 pm a nurse turns up with my discharge letter and some painkillers to send me on my way. No antibiotics because neither doctor had written it down! I have never ever in my life experienced such inexperienced incompetent care! How dare they flush my baby down the toilet! This entire experience has been so traumatic - the hospital made it sooo much worse! I practically begged them a couple of weeks ago to take baby out because I wanted to started healing process and they could get me an appointment sooner than this week. Then when I came in they actually had t booked me in! It took an emotional rant for them to start treating me! And then for them to do this!!! I know I've been very upset throughout this but it finally hit me yesterday that its all over and my baby is gone. Literally. I am heartbroken. I can't bring my baby back.

katrina I am so sorry to hear about you feeling unwell and especially of your 7 miscarriages. I don't know how you dealt with it. This is my second and I am heartbroken. I'm devastated. I hope you stay strong and your wishes come true. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Xxxxx