I should be nearly 11 weeks but scans are showing me to be at c6.5weeks

[rb30]

My Lmp was on 20/04/13 and based on that date I should be between 10-11 weeks pregnant. However when I was about 7 weeks, I was suffering abdominal pain so I was referred for a scan and was told that the baby was no more than 4.5weeks - this was on 10/06/2013. I then had a second scan on 17/06/2013 and was told I was 5.5weeks, and they then ruled ectopic. That one week was the most traumatic! I then went for a third scan on 28/06/13 and was told the foetus was just under 6weeks measuring at 3mm! My baby had only grown the equivalent of a couple of days over an 11 day period!!! I don't understand what's happening. I have been suffering severe sickness, morning noon and night, I can't keep water down or any food. I vomit my stomach bile most mornings. On the basis of this sickness, I've been told its a good sign for my pregancy, which I believe. I was prescribed promethazine but had convulsions after taking it, so have been given cyclizine...not taken yet but will try. I'm just scared taking these medicines might affect my baby. I had an MC in December after trying for 18 months. I couldn't bear to lose this one, especially as I feel I became a mother in the last month. Please has anyone had such an experience with the slow gestation? My dh doesn't understand and the nurses at the hospital who have been monitoring me say I have nothing to worry about, BUT they can't explain why this is happening...

RB it sounds like the treatment you received was awful, personally I would be contacting PALS at your hospital to make a complaint when you're feeling stronger - don't do it yet, you need time to grieve for the baby you have lost.

Reading back through your other posts though, please don't feel they flushed your baby away. You said a few posts back that the foetus had reabsorbed, so it was just an empty sac - you will always be carrying your baby as part of you now. It was just the sac that went down the toilet (not excusing what happened, however for your own peace of mind).

rb30 im so sorry for what u have had to go through i think it is absolutely terrible to treat someone that way. whatever they might have thought that baby was and always will be your baby in your heart and mind no matter the gestation.

maybe you have grounds to complain if that will give you some sort of closure?

i hope you can move on from this and have more healthy pregnancies x

they did the exsact same thing to me the baby came out in the bed pan I saw it with my own eyes and my mum seen it to and the nurse just flushed it down the toilet even thowbi opted to have the baby tested they didnt even check on me once I passed out on the bathroom floor my mum called for them and they just dumped me on the bed bleeding its disgraceful the way they treat you ive never been back to that hospital since I didnt even get a apology there truly awful im so sorry to hear of your bad experience but there is hope for us all after seven miscarriages im now 18 weeks pregnant I hope it happens for you soon best of luck for the future and take care of urself sending you love and hugs xx

I'm so sorry for your loss and your terrible treatment, I can't believe how insensitive people can be. I really hope things start looking up for you soon.

I'm so sorry. What an awful experience at an awful time.

Thinking of you both.

Reading this has brought my own miscarriages back to me. I'm so, so sorry you've had to go through this and hope you can come to terms with what happened in the hospital as part of your grieving process. I agree that it was just the sac and your baby is and always will be a part of you. When I passed my sac at home I flushed it away after staring at it for ages. Then, felt TERRIBLE that I had done so. Spoke to a friend who had had a mc and she had done the same. The pain will ease with time but you'll never forget the baby you lost. All the best for the future. I'm currently 20 weeks after two miscarriages. Fingers crossed. Make sure you take all the time you need to grieve xx

Thanks for the messages. Really didn't expect any responses, as it really was just a moment of mad ranting!! rockchick and blackholes, you are probably more than right that my baby is still with me...but I just couldn't help thinking that white wrinkled thing was the fetus. I just kept thinking the what if...what if it was just a hidden fetus and I just killed it? What if this and that...I was driving myself mad those first couple of days. katrina congratulations on this pregnancy. I guess it's a testament to your strength that you never gave up hope. I respect that and find it inspiring. blackholes congratulations to you too. I really hope it all goes so well for you both. Fingers crossed for you both and wishing you healthy pregnancies.xxx

Cally- read the whole thread!!!

Rb- the wrinkled white thing I had on my sac was the umbilical cord. Was it much smaller than the sac? Apologies if you don't want to talk about it; won't be offended if you don't reply! xxx

rb30 I'm v sorry for your loss. It sounds like your treatment was pretty awful, and when you feel strong enough I'd encourage you to write to PALS to complain. It's a horrible enough thing to go through without any additional trauma from poor care.
I've had 4 MC - baby 1 was cremated because it got stuck and was pulled out in hospital, 2 & 3 went down the toilet because I was bleeding so heavily, 4 was caught in a sieve because I was so desperate to get testing on the fetus/sac . I don't think in the long run it has affected how I dealt with each loss, but you should have had your choices respected. You are not have offered testing on the baby unless you've had recurrent miscarriages. You may find this article helpful, it has been a great comfort to me.
There is a lot of support available on the Miscarriage board if you need it.

blackholes I don't know what it was. My first mc I had loads of tissue and clots (the veiny type), but this time it came out whole in one go. I've never seen the umbilical cord at that stage so wouldn't know if that's what it was but guess it makes sense as it was coming out of the side...and it aas white. i guess cos they didnt look at it properly, no onr could tell me what it was.. Thanks for highlighting. bakingtins thanks for that link. Just had a quick skim through the article and found it reassuring already. I'm sorry to hear about your experiences. I hope you got some answers from your test. I really like this forum. Speaking to you all in this cyber way has helped me get a lot with answers and reassurances. I'm going to keep coming back to this thread to find out how you are all doing, so please do keep me updated. I want to hear your happy stories ( if you don't mind). It gives me hope. Wish I could rename thread.

Ps I have breast milk...again my first mc was v early so no experience of this...how do I get rid of it?

The milk is just hormones RB it will settle down. I BF my 2 kids and tend to get milk again whenever I'm pregnant or have just miscarried. Upsetting but normal, and you don't need to do anything, it will go on it's own.