My wonderful DH

[Newmum0113]

Hi all,

Just thought it was about time someone listed some good points about DHs/DPs and other family members, as I'm getting a but depressed reading all the other threads, even though I agree/have experienced half of it. Time for some positivity!!!

My DH has been excellent throughout (22+2, but found out at 2wks)

Tonight he had dinner all planned and ready to go. Off the cuff I decided I fancied garlic bread and pasta carbonara. So he went to the shops and got everything he needed to make it just for me. Brought me back a chocolate milkshake too as I'd said I wanted one earlier!

I had to have surgery three weeks ago too and he was an absolute rock! He stayed with me right up to the surgery and afterwards came to see me with a load of treats and Disney films to keep me entertained. Since being home he has changed my dressings every day better than the nurses do! He has washed my hair and fetched me food and drinks at the drop of a hat.

When I'm feeling sick he rubs my back and strokes my hair til I am feeling better or have fallen back to sleep.

He is considerate of my symptoms and feelings and is always looking after me. I love him so much! He is going to be an amazing daddy!!

Overwhelming gush of emotions over, for now at least.

Anyone else?

[marzipanned]

Lovely thread!

I want to thank my DH for... dealing with all cat litter and vomit since BFP (the deal when we got cats was that I'd always deal with that stuff...now he gets very upset if I even think about doing it)... for not even mentioning the fact that I've banned sex until the 12 week scan... for keeping this pregnancy a secret from his parents on my request even though I know he's dying to tell them... for coming home every evening and letting me whine and rant and rave about my crazy hormones and morning sickness when he has a tremendously stressful job and I know needs to download himself... for laughing when I phone him from upstairs and demand food to be brought to me in bed... and also for remaining consistently positive and upbeat throughout almost 18months of TTC.

Thanks DH

[notsoold]

Dh amazed me with his upbeat about ttc in my forties ... Or when I mc I could hear him crying in the middle of the night but always offering me his shoulder to cry during those dark days...
Now pg at 20 weeks dh continues to amaze me with his positivity. He lift his head from his books and smiles and says that I will be a good mum as I was a good mum to our other dcs...then buries his head in his books and papers and I love the fact that even though he is deep in thought with other things he is also thinking of me. ( and dcs)
And I love how he lets me babble away about my nerdy things ( star wars, star trek, dc comics, marvel, etc) and takes an interest even though he really, really wants to listen to music or find another book....

[RNJ3007]

My DH is currently doing the washing up and sorting the composting pile and clearing up whilst I put my feet up and 'watch' Peppa Pig with DD. He's indulged my odd cravings, has no issue cleaning out the sick bucket (I have Hyperemesis) and has even taken to doing bath time for DD as my SPD is getting awful.

And to top it off, he's told his mother to back off and let us parent our way without the constant comments, as he trusts my instincts and has learnt that his mum is not exactly an authority on child rearing... Yay!

[212VIP]

Lovely thread newmum!!
Hope you don't mind me changing the subject but could I ask you what surgery you had?
I've just discovered I'm pg (5+) weeks and am due to have spinal (neck) surgery soon. Am devastated to think what the surgeon is going to say about me bring up-duffed.
Can you tell me your situation? x

[Newmum0113]

Hi 212. I had my appendix out :-( I put a thread up called "my recent trauma - for anyone who may experience this" if you want the full details.

Good luck with your surgery, hope all goes well, although they might want to delay until you reach 2nd trimester if possible.

[wannabeawallaby]

I think it's really sad that men who get the dinner in and comfort their partners when upset are considered 'amazing'. You know that stuff should just be a given, right?

[FunnysInLaJardin]

DH was wonderful though out my 5 pregnancies. Two ended in mmc at 12 weeks, 2 ended in my lovely 2 boys and one was a termination. That spans 25 years with the termination being 23 years ago! He is a wonderful man and very deserved of my 3yo wishing him a Happy Fathers Day many times during the day!

[Newmum0113]

Yes wannabe we know its a given they should be that way. The point of the post is that we need to acknowledge that they are being supportive to us because a lot of the other posts are just moaning about people and it was getting a bit depressing.

[FunnysInLaJardin]

wanna I think in an equal relationship either party would be considered amazing for doing the extra stuff, and hopefully within the confines of their relationship they are. I know my DH appreciates the stuff I do for him, and vice versa

[LittlePeaPod]

Wannabe it is a given and my DF has always been supportive. I thought the point of this thread was to highlight some of those positive points and share them.... It's lovely to read positive posts. It would be great if you could share something positive..

[wannabeawallaby]

Ok ok

My DP is wonderful because he is smart, funny, supportive, encouraging, a good cook, kind, caring... And he always lets me finish the wine! How's that?

[LittlePeaPod]

Thanks for sharing... He sounds really lovely and the sort of man that would do something special for you because it would make you happy even if it wasn't for him.

And we all appreciate all those lovely things our partners do for us just because they know it will make us happy and we appreciate them for it.. I know my DF appreciates everything I do for him..

[Newmum0113]

wannabe - if he lets you finish the wine he is a keeper!

God I miss my wine. Feels like forever since I've had a glass. Not that I drink that often but really noticing it now I can't have any!

[ExhaustedMamasita]

Eeek love this thread! My beautiful, loving, adorable husband is AMAZING!!! He?s so supportive, understanding, kind and so so caring, without doubt the best person I know. Has spent his entire weekends for months making our house into a cosey home for our baby, while looking after me and making me tasty meals. He?s always been there, helped make my wishes come true and our baby is the product of a very happy and extremely loved up relationship. We?ve been together for 13 years, married for 5 yet I still get butterflies in my belly at the sight of him. Gush! Loving the positivity!

[Newmum0113]

exhausted that's wonderful! Isn't my DH when I was 16 and we got to know each other as friends first. He made me a romantic candlelit dinner for my 17th birthday and we've been together ever since! We've been together 9 years this year and married for 2, just before EED - what an anniversary present!

[wundawoman]

Awww that's so lovely! You are very lucky, such a great start to family life!!

We should all look after each other like that ,

All the best.