My wonderful DH

[Newmum0113]

Hi all,

Just thought it was about time someone listed some good points about DHs/DPs and other family members, as I'm getting a but depressed reading all the other threads, even though I agree/have experienced half of it. Time for some positivity!!!

My DH has been excellent throughout (22+2, but found out at 2wks)

Tonight he had dinner all planned and ready to go. Off the cuff I decided I fancied garlic bread and pasta carbonara. So he went to the shops and got everything he needed to make it just for me. Brought me back a chocolate milkshake too as I'd said I wanted one earlier!

I had to have surgery three weeks ago too and he was an absolute rock! He stayed with me right up to the surgery and afterwards came to see me with a load of treats and Disney films to keep me entertained. Since being home he has changed my dressings every day better than the nurses do! He has washed my hair and fetched me food and drinks at the drop of a hat.

When I'm feeling sick he rubs my back and strokes my hair til I am feeling better or have fallen back to sleep.

He is considerate of my symptoms and feelings and is always looking after me. I love him so much! He is going to be an amazing daddy!!

Overwhelming gush of emotions over, for now at least.

Anyone else?

[wundawoman]

Awww that's so lovely! You are very lucky, such a great start to family life!!

We should all look after each other like that ,

All the best.

[Newmum0113]

exhausted that's wonderful! Isn't my DH when I was 16 and we got to know each other as friends first. He made me a romantic candlelit dinner for my 17th birthday and we've been together ever since! We've been together 9 years this year and married for 2, just before EED - what an anniversary present!

[ExhaustedMamasita]

Eeek love this thread! My beautiful, loving, adorable husband is AMAZING!!! He?s so supportive, understanding, kind and so so caring, without doubt the best person I know. Has spent his entire weekends for months making our house into a cosey home for our baby, while looking after me and making me tasty meals. He?s always been there, helped make my wishes come true and our baby is the product of a very happy and extremely loved up relationship. We?ve been together for 13 years, married for 5 yet I still get butterflies in my belly at the sight of him. Gush! Loving the positivity!

[Newmum0113]

wannabe - if he lets you finish the wine he is a keeper!

God I miss my wine. Feels like forever since I've had a glass. Not that I drink that often but really noticing it now I can't have any!

[LittlePeaPod]

Thanks for sharing... He sounds really lovely and the sort of man that would do something special for you because it would make you happy even if it wasn't for him.

And we all appreciate all those lovely things our partners do for us just because they know it will make us happy and we appreciate them for it.. I know my DF appreciates everything I do for him..

[wannabeawallaby]

Ok ok

My DP is wonderful because he is smart, funny, supportive, encouraging, a good cook, kind, caring... And he always lets me finish the wine! How's that?

[LittlePeaPod]

Wannabe it is a given and my DF has always been supportive. I thought the point of this thread was to highlight some of those positive points and share them.... It's lovely to read positive posts. It would be great if you could share something positive..

[FunnysInLaJardin]

wanna I think in an equal relationship either party would be considered amazing for doing the extra stuff, and hopefully within the confines of their relationship they are. I know my DH appreciates the stuff I do for him, and vice versa

[Newmum0113]

Yes wannabe we know its a given they should be that way. The point of the post is that we need to acknowledge that they are being supportive to us because a lot of the other posts are just moaning about people and it was getting a bit depressing.

[FunnysInLaJardin]

DH was wonderful though out my 5 pregnancies. Two ended in mmc at 12 weeks, 2 ended in my lovely 2 boys and one was a termination. That spans 25 years with the termination being 23 years ago! He is a wonderful man and very deserved of my 3yo wishing him a Happy Fathers Day many times during the day!

[wannabeawallaby]

I think it's really sad that men who get the dinner in and comfort their partners when upset are considered 'amazing'. You know that stuff should just be a given, right?

[Newmum0113]

Hi 212. I had my appendix out :-( I put a thread up called "my recent trauma - for anyone who may experience this" if you want the full details.

Good luck with your surgery, hope all goes well, although they might want to delay until you reach 2nd trimester if possible.

[212VIP]

Lovely thread newmum!!
Hope you don't mind me changing the subject but could I ask you what surgery you had?
I've just discovered I'm pg (5+) weeks and am due to have spinal (neck) surgery soon. Am devastated to think what the surgeon is going to say about me bring up-duffed.
Can you tell me your situation? x

[RNJ3007]

My DH is currently doing the washing up and sorting the composting pile and clearing up whilst I put my feet up and 'watch' Peppa Pig with DD. He's indulged my odd cravings, has no issue cleaning out the sick bucket (I have Hyperemesis) and has even taken to doing bath time for DD as my SPD is getting awful.

And to top it off, he's told his mother to back off and let us parent our way without the constant comments, as he trusts my instincts and has learnt that his mum is not exactly an authority on child rearing... Yay!

[notsoold]

Dh amazed me with his upbeat about ttc in my forties ... Or when I mc I could hear him crying in the middle of the night but always offering me his shoulder to cry during those dark days...
Now pg at 20 weeks dh continues to amaze me with his positivity. He lift his head from his books and smiles and says that I will be a good mum as I was a good mum to our other dcs...then buries his head in his books and papers and I love the fact that even though he is deep in thought with other things he is also thinking of me. ( and dcs)
And I love how he lets me babble away about my nerdy things ( star wars, star trek, dc comics, marvel, etc) and takes an interest even though he really, really wants to listen to music or find another book....

[marzipanned]

Lovely thread!

I want to thank my DH for... dealing with all cat litter and vomit since BFP (the deal when we got cats was that I'd always deal with that stuff...now he gets very upset if I even think about doing it)... for not even mentioning the fact that I've banned sex until the 12 week scan... for keeping this pregnancy a secret from his parents on my request even though I know he's dying to tell them... for coming home every evening and letting me whine and rant and rave about my crazy hormones and morning sickness when he has a tremendously stressful job and I know needs to download himself... for laughing when I phone him from upstairs and demand food to be brought to me in bed... and also for remaining consistently positive and upbeat throughout almost 18months of TTC.

Thanks DH

[Drhamsterstortoise]

Wow you are all very lucky.I'm very jealous

[jessw25]

This is a nice thread.

To add to it, am also feeling very lucky to have my DH at the mo. I've been in hospital for 2 wks because of bleeding caused by placenta previa and have 3 more to go (till cesarean) in here. DH has been fab, even better than I anticipated! Texts and phone calls all the time (and he's not a big phone person), sending me silly videos of stupid things our cat does (I am a bit of a crazy cat lady! She's our 'baby' till our first real baby comes along!), surprising me with visits when he's already visited that day, bringing me in food treats, DVDs and books even when I've told him I don't need anything etc, going to shops especialky to get me maternity pads when I run out and getting up early to get to sorting office to pick up my parcels he's missed from the Internet shopping im doing in here. All of this on top of him having a really stressful time of it at work as well so it makes me doubly grateful.

Bump has bought him a Father's Day card to say thank you today for being such a support to Mum, even before he/she is born!

[something2say]

Aww w all,your partners sound lovely.

Mine is too. Ai am not pg or anything but he is still lovely to me. Today he has been spooning me in bed and then brought me coffee. He is currently making breakfast.

I am going to Hoover his two bedrooms and landing now tho.....hahah.

[amazingmumof6]

and does he have a brother for my sister?

[NandH]

Where did you find such a caring man ?

[meg2106]

so glad to see this thread... i m six weeks and honestly not that bad... i dont have morning sickness but extremely exhausted.... DH is always there for me....doesnt let me pick a pin on weekends ...all i did on the weekend was sit in the front of TV, while he took care of the meals and took me out on a walk.... he has always been fantastic..... preg or not.... i just love him so much.... the way he takes care of me shows wat a fanstastic Dad he'll be....

[Newmum0113]

Aww I'm really glad there are some lovely DPs out there!

It's lovely to hear how supportive they can be. Mine does look at me as if I'm crazy sometimes but holds his tongue and just gives me a cuddle.

Hope we get to keep some positivity going especially as it is Fathers Day after all.

[LittlePeaPod]

Great thread OP. loved reading the wonderful and positive posts.

My DF has been wonderful. He was a rock when we mc in February even though he was heart brocken. Since our BFP (10+5) I have been really ill (HG) and DF will go to the shops to get anything I fancy even takeaways, whatever time and he never gets annoyed if I can't eat it. MIL really upset me because I have been so ill with HG she thought I was been pathetic and the HG was just all in my head even though I spent time in hospital DF put her straight and told her to keep her nose out and that if she wasn't going to be supportive then we would not be seeing her until after birth because he didn't want me getting stressed and upset by anyone. He keeps saying how in his opinion growing a baby is amazing and he won't allow anyone to show disrespect or upset me even MIL. When I have got upset his been there with hugs and supportive words. We booked private scans because if previous mc and he has attended every single appointment. He normally travels to the Far East every January for two weeks to meet with suppliers (has done every year for 11years) but his already told the suppliers his going in November and then maybe May 2014 because he will be a new dad and I need him here at home.

I love him so much and I know how lucky I am. His a wonderful, careing, thoughtful and loving man. I am so proud of him and he will be a fantastic father..

[wispa31]

aw this thread has me sat in tears at how lovely dp/dh are. :) i actually had a bit of a melt down last night in bed, in tears as i had been worrying about how my body will change after birth (wobbly belly, droopy boobs, not able to have sex for a while, etc) worrying about being a good mum and worrying about us forgetting how to be a couple. dp was lovely, wiping my tears away and giving me cuddles telling me il be great mum and not to worry about the body stuff, its all natural and will only be temporary and not important, main thing is me and baby are healthy and that hes here for me no matter what.