Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

Annoyed by a 'friend's' comment...

41 replies

lauracutee · 09/06/2013 11:21

I know I'm overreacting, but I'm 32 weeks pregnant and hormonal!

So, my hubby and I have decorated our baby's nursery - we know he's a boy so decided on a nautical theme, lots of blue, boats, lighthouses and (friendly-looking!) skull and crossbones, etc. It looks lovely - well, we're very happy with it anyway.

So I told my 'friend' how we'd decorated the room and she replied "Poor baby, not even born yet and you've already decided on his style."

WHAT?!! We were obviously going to decorate his room! Putting a baby in a plain white, undecorated bedroom until he is old enough to tell us how he'd like it decorated is the way to go now, is it?!!

Unfortunately my baby cannot psychically tell me what colour he'd like his walls painted and whether or not he likes boats so my DH and I had to decide how to decorate his room (duh!)

Just peed off with that comment, really. That is all :-)

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

HumphreyCobbler · 09/06/2013 11:23

She is a silly woman. Basically, at 32 weeks pregnant, even the silliest comment implying that your baby is to be pitied is deeply, deeply annoying.

Fakebook · 09/06/2013 11:29

Were you supposed to wait until he was born and ask him if he preferred eggshell to magnolia?

What an idiot!

gillywillywoo · 09/06/2013 11:38

Your "friend" is a bit of a twat!

MrsBri · 09/06/2013 11:42

By that token, does she expect him to also choose his own clothing? Stupid cow!

bootsycollins · 09/06/2013 11:43

Your 'friend' is a cunt, the pirate themed room sounds fab.

superbadspeller · 09/06/2013 11:48

Your room sounds amazing - your friend not so!

blondebaby111 · 09/06/2013 11:58

Your 'friend' sounds a bit jealous to me. I think its lovely that so much thought and effort has gone into your little babies room before he is here. You should feel proud and sod what she thinks xx

chryssa · 09/06/2013 11:59

the room sounds great! don't worry about people's comments, I'm sure baby will love it!

Original poster

lauracutee · 09/06/2013 12:01

Ahh, thanks guys. She is a bit of a twat and also what bootsy said :-D

I thought it was a pretty stupid comment, and yeah - let's not dress him until he can choose his own clothes. What about nappies? Maybe he should choose his own too? It was the "poor" baby bit that enraged me.

OP posts:

HowlerMonkeyBelievesInAllan · 09/06/2013 12:06

It sounds like the kind of things my friends said to me about my DC, tbh. They really don't mean anything by it; I take it as a sign that they are confident enough in our friendship to tease me. I do tell them to naff off of course

Is it possible that she was just making an offhand supposed-to-be-funny remark? I'm sure she didn't mean to upset you (unless she has form for being a bitch).

Your room sounds lovely btw :)

mummynatty · 09/06/2013 12:13

Your baby's rooms sounds great don't listen to people that just. Want to put a downer on everything, you do what you feels best for your baby and what you want not what other people want and say you should :) tell her if she ain't got anything nice to say just don't say it!

I would have flipped if one of my friends or family said that to me!

babyhmummy01 · 09/06/2013 12:14

Room sounds awesome, your "friend" is an idiot.

pictish · 09/06/2013 12:18

I would've replied 'well obviously, because he can't talk yet can he?' and looked at her a bit dumbfounded.

mrspaddy · 09/06/2013 12:19

Dear OP.. please ignore that silly woman.. what in the name of god would she expect? Wierdo.

I think it sounds so cute and different from teddy bears etc. Not that anything wrong with that either. All baby's rooms are lovely.

Why can't people share other people's happiness? So rude.

I always think there is more going on in their mind when they have to do things like that.

TeaAndANatter · 09/06/2013 15:06

I wish I had a pirate themed room (re the skull and cross bones). Who wouldn't want one! (And I'm 35 and female, and have, obviously, excellent taste)

Tell your friend that she'd better watch out, or you'll run her through with your cutlass too. Huh. Or walk the plank. God, I wish I had a plank for people like that.

Fab room though!

ShadowStorm · 09/06/2013 15:56

That's a really stupid comment.

How is a baby meant to tell you how he would like his bedroom decorated?

something2say · 09/06/2013 16:01

I think she thoughtlessly made the remark about how, these days, we are supposed to be gender neutral, and maybe the baby will be born a boy but feel they wish to express themselves as a girl, and you have gone and spoilt all that with your gender stereotyping already how very jolly dare yow?!!!!!!

But early for all that in my book. Let the kid have a room and let Mum and Dad have fun decorating for a little chap for now!

Skull and cross bones ftw

CheerfulYank · 09/06/2013 16:08

My DS had a nautical nursery too! It was adorable.

It may be what Something says too, the gender thing. Awhile back I saw a really cute nursery set that was sailboats, but in pink and pale orange. I said "oh, sweet...boats, but for girls!" My friend who was with me gave me a scathing look and a lecture on stereotypes.

Lydia161290 · 09/06/2013 16:12

Haha. That made me laugh a lot.

What a daft thing to say. How I see it is at least you're a parent who is willing to decorate their baby's bedroom so it looks nice.

TinkyPeet · 09/06/2013 16:13

Sounds lovely! And you haven't chosen his 'style', you've decorated YOUR baby's nursery in YOUR style :) xx

Pinkflipflop · 09/06/2013 17:28

What a tosser!

Ignore the silly woman!

FringeEvent · 09/06/2013 17:35

Perhaps you should also refrain from naming your baby, and instead wait until he's talking and is able to tell you what he wants to be called.

MortifiedAdams · 09/06/2013 17:42

Dear me - when we decorated the babys room wr just went for what we liked. Mind, people did ask why we didnt find out of it was a boy or girl so we could do the room 'right'?! Erm.....a room is a room. Until dd cam request specifics, then it stays as we like it.

RainSunWind · 09/06/2013 17:57

It's an irritating quirk of some people that they have to make their mark on something that has nothing to do with them.

She could easily have said "oh sounds lovely" but no, she has to stamp her opinion on it (and burst your bubble a bit).

Please don't take ANY notice. If you'd done it in neutrals she would have said something about it not being interesting enough for baby's developing eyesight the way you've decorated is not the point, her need to dominate the topic with a strong opinion is sad, really.

it all sounds great, what you've done in the nursery!

miffybun73 · 09/06/2013 18:00

Your friend is a fool, the room sounds fab :)

Flip

1 2