Annoyed by a 'friend's' comment...

[lauracutee]

I know I'm overreacting, but I'm 32 weeks pregnant and hormonal!

So, my hubby and I have decorated our baby's nursery - we know he's a boy so decided on a nautical theme, lots of blue, boats, lighthouses and (friendly-looking!) skull and crossbones, etc. It looks lovely - well, we're very happy with it anyway.

So I told my 'friend' how we'd decorated the room and she replied "Poor baby, not even born yet and you've already decided on his style."

WHAT?!! We were obviously going to decorate his room! Putting a baby in a plain white, undecorated bedroom until he is old enough to tell us how he'd like it decorated is the way to go now, is it?!!

Unfortunately my baby cannot psychically tell me what colour he'd like his walls painted and whether or not he likes boats so my DH and I had to decide how to decorate his room (duh!)

Just peed off with that comment, really. That is all :-)

Your baby will love his room, TBH he won't know any different for the first couple of years. And it sounds as though you and your DH love the room and will be happy to spend time in with your lovely wee DS.
This woman's opinion means less than nothing and the fact it also seems to be barking just tells you everything you need to know about her.

What everyone else said OP - what a total twonk she is. People can be really tactless. I would also love a pirate themed room To cheer you up - someone said to me recently (not kidding) 'Well, you are quite short, so it is a good job your are having a girl, in case your son would be a short arse, like you'... - it's my first child, what if the next one is a boy? oh BTW, DH is over 6 foot.

I think you should really give her something to pity him for and get him this bed.

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I can't believe you didn't wait until he was born to ask him what scheme he wanted, shocking, he might tell you he prefers something totally different

Seriously, what a funny comment - I think your scheme sounds great by the way

I agree she sounds jelous and a bit of a fair weather friend.
I love the nautical theme.
and for the record theres nothing wrong with doing pink stuff for girls and blue stuff for boys.
are we supposed to turn into a race of androgenous clones for petes sake?
a child caqn decide what it likes when it wants to.

the room sounds lovely. we have done our ds room blue and are looking at the pirate curtains on the next we site. he's not born yet either. people don't think about what they say to pregnant people, especially if they dont have kids.

You should have said "OMG"! Yes of course what a good idea, perhaps we should wait till ds is born and THEN ask him his name too!"

Your friend sounds jealous, either that or a little odd.

BigBongTheory - that bed is awesome! I want one!

Agree she sounds very jealous don't give her daft comment a second thought

Thanks for all of your comments, some of them really made me laugh.

The thing is, he has plenty of pink and non-gender specific toys and accessories, etc.
I have lots of skull and crossbones clothes and accessories and I think she assumed I was trying to make him into a mini-me.
You're all right, of course - she is a total fool. The type of person who always dominates the conversation, never lets you get a word in edgeways, etc.

Tea - that's terrible! What a nasty thing to say. Idiot.

BigBong - I NEED that bed (for myself) :-)

What a complete jealous nobber. Ignore ignore ignore!!

Sounds like she is jealous to me! Decorating the nursery is so exciting and pretty much all of us will come up with some kind of theme! it's part of the fun of it all. She really is an idiot.

your nursery sounds fab! and more than appropriate lol

people have taken the gender thing way too far now i think. our nursery for our son will be a rainbow of the brightest colours i can get (well the floor, bedding and pictures will be!) and damn anybody who doesnt like it!

Your 'friend' sounds like she's on the same wavelength as my cousin. We showed her our unborn DD's room, and she said 'But what if the poor baby doesn't like yellow?'.

My cousin is 7.

:)

lauracutee I know - I did have a good laugh about it with DH though

We have friends who decorated their son's bedroom in a very boy-flavoured room with lots of blue and cars and fire engines on the walls etc, totally not our cup of tea at all, but did we launch into a tirade about a) sex stereotyping b) bowing down to commercialised themes or c) that it wasn't our taste? Of course not. We told them it looked great and were sure their son would love it when he's old enough to appreciate it. Anything else is none of our business. They're the parents, THEY get to choose!

People say such silly things - just because she doesn't want a pirate theme for her real or imagined DS doesn't mean she's allowed to steal your plunder...