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keeping early pregnancy a secret

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Xmasbaby11 · 30/05/2013 23:20

I'm a few weeks pg and not told anyone apart from DH and parents so far. I am feeling well, so it's not hard keeping it quiet, apart from ...what do you do when you go out and don't drink?!

I would usually have a couple of glasses of wine, and obviously I'm not anymore. I've got several evenings out in the next month and I need some good excuses!

Any gems?

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TinkyPeet · 30/05/2013 23:23

There's the good old antibiotic excuse but most people drink through the antibiotics anyway so people would Suss you, unless you say you're on REALLY strong meds for something like VD they might not push it.....lol x

DewDr0p · 30/05/2013 23:28

Drive everywhere

cece · 30/05/2013 23:31

My best tip is to actually order your usual drink, say a glass of wine. Then sip at it but don't actually drink from it. If you can descretely tip some out (say into a friends glass or take it to the loo with you) all the better. TBH after a couple of rounds no one will honestly notice that yoy aren't really drinking. Honestly it works a treat. I fooled everyone using this technique.

loveschocolate · 31/05/2013 05:22

Driving, having a drink but just sipping it, dieting and watching calories, cutting back on alcohol or feeling hungover from previous night are less obvious than the antibiotics excuse

cravingcake · 31/05/2013 05:47

Order a lemonade or coke from the bar but ask them to put it in a glass that looks like its a 'proper' drink. Some places sell Becks Blue which is alcohol free beer, just ask the barman to put it in a glass & no-one will know.

I told one very good friend i knew i could trust, sat next to her during dinner and we just kept swapping wine glasses, i pretended to drink it while she had my share.

IBelieveInPink · 31/05/2013 06:37

The other thing that works very well (although only suitable for certain situations - is buying a bottle of weight watchers wine, pouring it away, and filling the bottle with alcohol free wine. You can be protective over your bottle saying you would prefer that just you drink it so you know how many points you are having (believe me, no one wants to try it anyway!) and you can 'drink' all night. Only works if you at someone's house or at a byo resaurant though....

FobblyWoof · 31/05/2013 08:34

I've got an evening out tonight so I'm driving. I don't think anyone will question because I drove last time. Though I think another mum from our circle of friends may be pregnant so I'll be keeping my eye out to see if she's drinking. Not that I'll say anything!

llamallama · 31/05/2013 08:36

You just have to be "really hungover" from the previous night so can't stomach any more alcohol!! That's the only thing that fooled my friends!

lilstar · 31/05/2013 08:38

So far I've used the antibiotic excuse (isn't too suspicious for me as I've had to have them plenty in the past anyway). Once said I think I had eaten something earlier in the day and feel a bit dodgy. Taken the car and said either...I'm a bit skint or have to pick up my daughter later in the night. At a house party I let them pour me a drink but sneaked to the toilet at some point and poured it out. It is getting harder to make excuses but so far I've been out with different people so not too bad.

Wishfulmakeupping · 31/05/2013 08:39

Yep be 'hungover' a lot
If you're going to BBQ's/parties then you'll be mingling and no one will notice that the glass of wine is going down by much when you get a chance pour some away.
Order lemonade or coke say you fancied vodka and coke etc

FieryChipotle · 31/05/2013 08:42

Appletiser looks a lot like sparkling wine... Fooled everyone at my wedding when I was a pregnant bride!

Bejeena · 31/05/2013 09:26

I an a runner and always used the excuse that I had to be up early for a long training session next morning and it seemed to work. Mind you I guess I have also genuinely used this excuse in the past anyway and am not a massive drinker. Luckily we found out and had a few of the earlier weeks when we were on holiday in Australia just hubby and me so it didn't matter anyway.

I did also use the hangover excuse one night, nobody questioned it.

Congratulations.

Kelly1814 · 31/05/2013 09:48

It is extremely hard, my friends are big social drinkers, as a result I didn't go out much in the first 14 weeks or so.

I'm now 21 weeks and still keeping it a secret from everyone but family and best friend. It isn't easy,although easier without a bump!

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Xmasbaby11 · 31/05/2013 19:13

Ooh, some good ideas. It's a meal out so no pouring the wine down the loo! I will definitely drive and probably say something about being healthy /hungover. I was cutting down anyway when I was TTC. They will probably guess I'm pregnant, but I don't mind as long as they don't put me on the spot! I want to keep it under wraps til 12 weeks, although last time I only managed til about 8 weeks. 21 weeks - wow, Kelly! Why so long? I thought 12 weeks was long enough!

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SauvignonBlanche · 31/05/2013 19:21

I used to ask DH to get me a gin & tonic but he'd just get the gin.

Carole803 · 31/05/2013 20:01

I have mainly avoided social events, but there was a beer festival we all go to every year, so I was going to try a detox, but a driving excuse landed in my lap. This weekend is a pre glasto meet up at the pub, and I think I will try the "it's a school night" excuse, but only if asked! I am the world's worst liar.

By the time we go to Glasto, I will be in my second trimester, but I am only going to let on to people who notice and then see how long I can go before people notice! Not long I suspect, but won't be singing fro roof tops.

Casmama · 31/05/2013 20:09

I would personally just tell people but that seems to be unusual.

MissStrawberry · 31/05/2013 20:09

SB - oops .

Casmama · 31/05/2013 20:11

Kelly and Carole, hope this doesn't seem rude but why on earth wouldn't you tell people by the time you are in your second trimester? Does that out for friends too?

monkeyfacegrace · 31/05/2013 20:22

I dont get why you wouldnt just tell people you were preg
Im a simple creature. I just say it as it is.

MrsEllsmore · 31/05/2013 20:23

I've tried driving and antibiotics (there are some that I have had for wisdom teeth pain that the dentist says if you even have a sip of alcohol you will be violently sick) but the most effective excuse so far has just been to order a soft drink and not offer any explanation at all! I was amazed when no when questioned it but maybe it helped that it was with family and not with friends. 12 week scan on Monday so then the excuses will be over!

DewDr0p · 31/05/2013 20:30

casmama and monkeyfacegrace I told close friends and family very soon but after 2 miscarriages I really wasn't ready to share the news with all and sundry at 6 weeks pg. I think that's the reason most people keep the news to themselves for a while.

Carole803 · 31/05/2013 20:34

Don't get me wrong, I am really happy and really looking forward to a very special christmas present and maybe I am enjoying the secret a little too much :)

I am just keeping schtum until after Glastonbury. Everyone enjoys the festival their own way and I think announcing it will be like hijacking their festival. So if they work it out, great, but otherwise it will all come out in its own time.

I won't be hiding it, and there are plenty of people I will tell, after Glasto, but I just won't be posting it on FB, or making a big song and dance. The gossip tree will do that for me.

GoodbyePorkPie · 31/05/2013 20:44

My first pregnancy was a closely guarded secret. This time round I've just told people. I figure that anyone I would have a drink with (I don't get out much these days so it's usually just drinks with a couple of friends) is good enough a friend to know if anything goes wrong anyway.

GoodbyePorkPie · 31/05/2013 20:45

"Everyone enjoys the festival their own way and I think announcing it will be like hijacking their festival."

Really? What do you think would happen? Wouldn't they just congratulate you and get on with the party?!

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