keeping early pregnancy a secret

[Xmasbaby11]

I'm a few weeks pg and not told anyone apart from DH and parents so far. I am feeling well, so it's not hard keeping it quiet, apart from ...what do you do when you go out and don't drink?!

I would usually have a couple of glasses of wine, and obviously I'm not anymore. I've got several evenings out in the next month and I need some good excuses!

Any gems?

Say you're detoxing. I used it when TTC & in the 'possibly pregnant' zone. Make some noises about eating tofu & mung beans etc & act a bit smug.

Having said that, I'd love to have announced it everyone at Glastonbury. Perfect occasion

I am keeping it quiet because:

1. had bleeding at 7 weeks, then cervical stitch at 14, it was touch and go and couldn't face telling, then un telling people.

2. I live outside the uk in a country with terrible maternity laws (45 days maternity leave!), have no legal obligation to tell employer and am in middle of negotiating a better package at work. They could renege on this if they knew I was pregnant, they can even fire me if they like.

3. am very private person and thought of being centre of attention and this being the only topic of conversation for 9 months holds no interest for me. As an example DH and I ran away to Vegas and got married just the two of us without telling people, we didn't want a big white wedding fuss and wanted to do things our way.

It's actually really lovely having such an intimate secret and am really not looking forward to everyone knowing tbh.

It is just my choice. I am looking forward to sharing the news in my own time.

I'm afraid I quite enjoy the attention, I'm not a very private person (have many close friends who know we are TTC and I would tell if I mc). Work are so nice, they will decrease my workload once I tell them I'm pregnant, as they did last time.I wouldn't tell them until much later though unless I needed to (ie sickness).

Having said that, I do know that at this stage, mc is a possibility (I'm 37), so I know the more people I tell, the more real it will be and even harder if something goes wrong. It already feels very real though and I am so excited! I am really terrible at keeping (my own) secrets.

I was a party animal before I found out I was carrying my son, me and my bf would be out every weekend without fail staying out until the sun came up! so when I found out I was pg I had to avoid alcohol until I could announce my news at 12 weeks. I told people I had an iron deficiency and the doctor recommended I take up a healthy diet and no booze for a few months. I felt terrible for lying but I had to think of something! Me and my partner couldn't tell people due to being worried we would lose our son, if everyone knew we had lost a child then it would have made it harder for us to deal with privately.