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Strange things people say ...

33 replies

nappyaddict · 01/05/2013 13:39

"it doesn't matter what sex the baby is as long as they are healthy."

I really don't understand this one. So if they aren't healthy then all of a sudden it matters to you if they are a boy or a girl?

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rosiedays · 02/05/2013 13:13

oh.... i wonder what colour she will be???!!! green is my fav answer at the mo.

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LadyFlumpalot · 02/05/2013 13:32

From a work colleague "try not to have a miscarriage this time, it was very stressful for me covering your work you know!"

Another work colleague - "Awww, same father as your son?"

From my midwife when I was explaining that I don't want the anti-d jabs as both DH and I are Rhesus Neg - "well, as we only have your word that your husband is the father, we would still recommend it"

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TigerSwallowTail · 02/05/2013 13:46

This cracker is from my aunt, right after us announcing our pregnancy after we had a mc; "How do you press the undo button on that one?" I was devastated after her nasty comment and cried my eyes out that night as we were already worried about another mc and desperately wanted this baby.

Then after that comment she then indicated to 5 year old DS and said "and what are you going to do if he (DS) changes his mind and doesn't want a baby around"

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BraveLilBear · 02/05/2013 13:52

LadyFlumpalot they're awful.

I agree with the sentiment, but there is a weird subtext that to some people, the sex of the baby is the be-all and end-all. I find that difficult for many reasons, not least of which the prejudice that accompanies these children into the world because of what's between their legs!

That's how I find it strange. In reality, I want a happy and healthy child, but that particular expression implies that you can't have a happy and healthy child in the combination of sex that you would most prefer. Which, semantically, is odd.

Very sorry for your losses.

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lollypopsicle · 02/05/2013 14:16

I really find it inappropriate when people ask if it was planned. So personal!

The other one I find irritating is the number of people that have asked if we'll have another after this one ( exp DC2) firstly, non of your business, secondly, I've not even had this 1 yet!

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Purplemonster · 02/05/2013 14:24

I was told yesterday 'Bloody hell, you're really showing now aren't you!" Umm, I'm 31 weeks, did you not expect me to look pregnant? This is just the most recent in a long line of stupid comments.

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Wickedgirl · 02/05/2013 15:52

Surely as soon as you find out you're pregnant, you hope that everything goes well

Yes I have told people that I don't care what sex the baby is but I would like a healthy, happy baby. Why would I want a poorly baby that has to endure a life of hospital visits, poor health and possible pain?

I already have a girl and two boys so the sex of this one really isn't an issue

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gertrudestein · 02/05/2013 19:35

People asking if it's planned
People telling me when I should have the next one
66 yr old male boss, a propos of nothing, walking straight into the office and telling me that I should have bare breasts at the birth so that I can breast feed ASAP
Same boss telling me I didn't want to take any time off work because I'd be too bored and his wife only took 3 weeks off
And EVERYONE saying 'your boobs are massive!'