Strange things people say ...

[nappyaddict]

"it doesn't matter what sex the baby is as long as they are healthy."

I really don't understand this one. So if they aren't healthy then all of a sudden it matters to you if they are a boy or a girl?

[gertrudestein]

People asking if it's planned
People telling me when I should have the next one
66 yr old male boss, a propos of nothing, walking straight into the office and telling me that I should have bare breasts at the birth so that I can breast feed ASAP
Same boss telling me I didn't want to take any time off work because I'd be too bored and his wife only took 3 weeks off
And EVERYONE saying 'your boobs are massive!'

[Wickedgirl]

Surely as soon as you find out you're pregnant, you hope that everything goes well

Yes I have told people that I don't care what sex the baby is but I would like a healthy, happy baby. Why would I want a poorly baby that has to endure a life of hospital visits, poor health and possible pain?

I already have a girl and two boys so the sex of this one really isn't an issue

[Purplemonster]

I was told yesterday 'Bloody hell, you're really showing now aren't you!" Umm, I'm 31 weeks, did you not expect me to look pregnant? This is just the most recent in a long line of stupid comments.

[lollypopsicle]

I really find it inappropriate when people ask if it was planned. So personal!

The other one I find irritating is the number of people that have asked if we'll have another after this one ( exp DC2) firstly, non of your business, secondly, I've not even had this 1 yet!

[BraveLilBear]

LadyFlumpalot they're awful.

I agree with the sentiment, but there is a weird subtext that to some people, the sex of the baby is the be-all and end-all. I find that difficult for many reasons, not least of which the prejudice that accompanies these children into the world because of what's between their legs!

That's how I find it strange. In reality, I want a happy and healthy child, but that particular expression implies that you can't have a happy and healthy child in the combination of sex that you would most prefer. Which, semantically, is odd.

Very sorry for your losses.

[TigerSwallowTail]

This cracker is from my aunt, right after us announcing our pregnancy after we had a mc; "How do you press the undo button on that one?" I was devastated after her nasty comment and cried my eyes out that night as we were already worried about another mc and desperately wanted this baby.

Then after that comment she then indicated to 5 year old DS and said "and what are you going to do if he (DS) changes his mind and doesn't want a baby around"

[LadyFlumpalot]

From a work colleague "try not to have a miscarriage this time, it was very stressful for me covering your work you know!"

Another work colleague - "Awww, same father as your son?"

From my midwife when I was explaining that I don't want the anti-d jabs as both DH and I are Rhesus Neg - "well, as we only have your word that your husband is the father, we would still recommend it"

[rosiedays]

oh.... i wonder what colour she will be???!!! green is my fav answer at the mo.

[Fakebook]

I don't agree. I had DS after 4 miscarriages. I didn't care what sex he was when I had my 7, 9, 11, 12, 13, 15 and 20 week scans. I just wanted him to be healthy and stay alive. Same with this baby. I've 5 scans so far and I'm only 13 weeks. I want a healthy baby that I give birth to. Don't care if its a girl or boy.

[Wickedgirl]

I am 17 weeks pregnant with dc 4. I was asked this morning "don't you watch tv then?" Is it really that odd to have a 4th baby?

One if my male friends asked me if it was his? Wtf?..... We have never been any thing other than just friends. He really is like a younger brother. He is married (happily) so it was an odd thing to say even in humour.

[Snowflakepie]

'We didn't think you would bother with such a big age gap...' 3.5 years is not a big age gap to me, actually it's working out perfectly thank you.

'But you don't like babies' true enough, but they aren't babies for long thank heavens.

My favourite though - 'where will we sleep when we come to stay then?' From my MIL. In the cot with the DC, obviously. Or try not staying for a change, that works for me too. Not that I'm deliberately filling every room in my house to avoid the visits, not one bit...

I was guilty of saying 'you crazy lady' to a friend when she told me she was expecting #3, with a 3 year old and 18 month old. It just came out. I did apologise, she has children who sleep so a very different experience to me, I just couldn't picture it for myself. She's still speaking to me at the moment.

[User21276799]

We have got a lot of: "another one? ALREADY?!" There'll be 19 months between them so I don't think it's that soon.

DH's aunt said: "No. You are not serious. This CANNOT be true" and was openly horrified. Again, 19 month gap, come on woman.

Childminder said: "Oh God. Not you as well". I did chuckle at that one - all her charge's mums are now knocked up it seems.

One friend almost cried when I told her (she wanted to be pregnant with DC2 first) and totally forgot to say congratulations...

Definitely not the same set of glowing and excited reactions we got first time round!

[BraveLilBear]

Gerty you just reminded me of another... 'what... already?' from my dad. We had told him in advance that we would be trying (so he could get his head round it). I'm 33 years old and been with DP nearly 3 years!

[Lj8893]

Gerty, its crazy that people seem to think 25 is a mad age to have a baby when statistically your early 20s is when you are most fertile.....surely that makes 25 be the most natural age to have a baby?!

[mouseymummy]

I'm pg with number 3, dd2 is 7mo so its going to be a 55 week age gap (if going by due dates) EVERY SINGLE FRICKING PERSON I've told has done the face and said one of two things "aww it'll be like having twins" (my sis in law and brother have twins. Nope, not going to be anything bloody like having twins. You pillock) or "aww was it a happy accident?" Who bloody said it was an accident? Baby no 3 was planned, wanted and will be loved! Why do I need to clarify this?

It annoys the hell outta me tbh.

[Gerty1002]

Lj we thought I might have PCOS too, just as I was having third set of blood tests and after 9 months of trying I fell pregnant! Some people act as if it's a ridiculous age to get pregnant but to us it's perfect.

[Bunnylion]

Someone who's not your closes friend or family asking you if it was planned is so rude.

What do they expect you to say after that? "No, total accident, I'm having an aborting on Monday. Just thought I'd tell you so you've got some juicy gossip for the office/pub/gym/bingo-night etc".

[Lj8893]

Gerty I have had similar responses to you, I'm also 25!

The "was it planned" line is wearing thin now, lots of that! And considering I have PCOS and many of the people using that line know that, I find it a very odd thing to ask!

When we first found out and we told both our families, DPs sister said "there are other options you know" WTF!!!

[Gerty1002]

I work in a pub and some of the regulars have said some corkers. One 21yo lad said: "eeeh I didn't think you'd get pregnant, you don't seem the type, I thought you were dead innocent!" ...as if I'm some teenager who has had a fumble behind the bike sheds! I'm 25 and engaged, and baby was v much planned! Also had: "You're too young to be pregnant!" A few times as I look younger than I am, and: "was it planned then?" Is a common one with people being utterly shocked that the answer is yes. Being treated/looked at likely be a naive pregnancy teen is wearing very thin now at 23 weeks...

[afrikat]

After getting asked by a guy at work if we were going to find out the sex I told him no, we wanted a surprise. He said 'it will give you something to push for'. Like if I knew it was a girl/boy I would just give up and let it stay in there!

[TigerSwallowTail]

And other comments I've had from strangers;"what did you do that for?" and "could you not have just bought a book instead?"

how rude...!

[TigerSwallowTail]

Hmm I'm not sure I agree with you completely that the 'as long as it's healthy' line is strange. DP and I have 2 dc with SN and have had 2 mc too. I'm 36 wks pg now and we didn't care what sex it is, we just hoped everything was ok with baby.

What comments I find strange are from people who know this isn't our first dc but still tell us we'll get a shock when the baby is here and we see how hard it is. We've already done it twice so know what having a newborn is like .

[janey1234]

"so who's the father then...?" from a colleague. Cue everyone staring at her, and her having the decency to and follow it up with "well, I mean I presume it's your DP, but, you know...."

FWIW she's met DP and had no reason AT ALL to suspect he might not be the father. Think she's just bonkers and didn't know quite what to say at the time (not sure what's wrong with 'congratulations'!)

[Hyperhelpmum]

You are insane...... When I told someone I was expecting number three. How f ing rude!

[Pizdets]

maryann, I told someone I'm 19 weeks and was told 'Oh, so very early days yet then' - do you think there's a magical time when you switch from 'early days' to 'nearly there'? Is there an inbetween?