anyone else pregnant with dc4?

[hokeycakey]

Hi all

I am 13 weeks 4 days with dc4 I have a ds 5 and 2 dds 3 and 14 months I always sort of wanted 4 but i was surprised to fall so easily with this one as haven't even had a period since having dd in feb 2012

I am very happy to be completing our family but scared about how I will cope with 4 of 6 and under although my standards are so low now it'll probably be ok :)

I feel terrible really sick and tired and halfway through a training course as well so supposed to be doing loads of written work for that..... oh well

Is there anyone else about pregnant with dc4 who wants to chat during our pregnancies?

I crave cheese I do think that practicalities are important BUT do you want a 4th or not is probably the most important question! Having a playroom could help as kids have more space do you have any potential to extend? My 2 dd's are in together but we still have a spare room, will see how things go as they get older!

Icravecheese.......this baby will have to share a room. If its a girl, it will go into our daughters room and if its a boy, it will go in with our youngest.

Have just remembered important question. When did everyone start to Show?

At about 11 or 12 weeks this time around

Can you copy the list, and add your due date before you repost it? Or just let us know when your due date is and I can do it.

MissLurkalot. May
EsmereldaPB. May
Mummysaysno. June
Thinkingof4. July
elliejjtiny. July
bigbelly4. July
SomebodyWillGetHurt. August
Becky2406. September
Hokeycakey. October
posterWickedgirl. October
Mooglet. October
LovesTheChoas3. November
Tazmo. December
BookwormBetty. December
Razzdazz.

DD1 - 8 days late - 8lbs 5ozs
DS1 - 6 days late - 8lbs 15ozs
DD2 - 15 days late - 10lbs 13ozs

icravecheese - we have a 3 bed house and currently DD1 & DS1 have bunk beds and share a room and DD2 is in a cot in her own room, we'll have the baby in with us for the first 6-12 months (going on past experience) and then they will go in with DD2.

SomebodyWillGetHurt - I'm honestly not sure when I started to show this time around, as I'm pretty wobbly in the tummy anyway and as it's been so cold I've been wearing a lot of big jumpers etc, I look a little pregnant in my friends wedding photos and I was around 20 weeks when she got married

MissLurkalot. May
EsmereldaPB. 17 May
Mummysaysno. June
Thinkingof4. July
elliejjtiny. July
bigbelly4. July
SomebodyWillGetHurt. August
Becky2406. September
Hokeycakey. October
posterWickedgirl. October
Mooglet. October
LovesTheChoas3. November
Tazmo. December
BookwormBetty. December
Razzdazz.

Good chart. Though I'm due in November. Not sure I said which I is probably a vital point on these threads. Can't have people thinking you're pregnant forever! I'll try to change later when on main computer.

Oh to get to twenty weeks!! I feel huuuuge already. I didn't show till the twentyish mark with second two. On first one I didn't show till six months.

My first was 2 days early 7lb 15
2nd 7 days over 6lb 3
3rd 6 days over 7lbs

So an absolute bunch of tiddlers compared to yours!

I am 14 weeks and def showing but I was at my lowest weight in ages before getting pregnant so bump had nowhere to hide I have rectified that now though as I can't stop eating!

MissLurkalot. May
EsmereldaPB. 17 May
Mummysaysno. June
Thinkingof4. July
elliejjtiny. July
bigbelly4. July
SomebodyWillGetHurt. August
Becky2406. September
Hokeycakey. October 11th
posterWickedgirl. October
Mooglet. October
LovesTheChoas3. November
Tazmo. December
BookwormBetty. December
Razzdazz.

for October mums

MissLurkalot. May
EsmereldaPB. 17 May
Mummysaysno. June
Thinkingof4. July
elliejjtiny. July
bigbelly4. July
SomebodyWillGetHurt. August
Becky2406. September
Hokeycakey. October 11th
Wicked girl, 9th October
Mooglet. October
LovesTheChoas3. November
Tazmo. December
BookwormBetty. December
Razzdazz.

Cravecheese... I think you need to get away from focussing on the bedroom situation. I don't know what others think, but my kids are literally in their own bedrooms to get changed, and then sleep.
I honestly feel you just have to make the best of what you have.
Don't let distribution of bedrooms be an important factor in your decision to go for no 4.
Concentrate on more important issues... The sheer impact of another one to look after.. Practicality, emotionally, financially.. And the effect of this new person on all of you.
Things like bedrooms, bigger car.. That's the easy thing...
Think about coping with pregnancy, new baby, and how it impacts you especially.
That said... I love being pregnant, even now, lower back/hip ache, cervix feels as thin as cling film! But, I bloody love it. I love feeling the little tike squirming about, and bouncing up and down inside me! Lol!
I am really slowing down now.. But, it's all ok.. I'm just taking taking it all on my stride and am reminding myself.. Make the most of it, this is the last time.

Our bedroom situation is this...
We have the loft bedroom and ensuite on the top floor (heaven), with a stair gate at the bottom of our stairs.
Then each of the 3 kids have a bedroom each, and they share the family bathroom.
New baby coming soon, so we'll make the following changes..
DD1 (8) has the large original master bedroom, it's the entire width of the house, with two large windows, two light fittings and two radiators under each window. It is large, and she rattles about in it.
So bish bosh.. Two options, they both share or we split the room.
We've all decided to split the rooms, with a little corridor, giving them their own space.

Yes good advice about the bedroom issue not being the clincher. We live in a country where most people live in tiny apartments, so kids share tiny rooms. Right now two of mine share a room, even though there is a spare bedroom but it's two floors away, and it works better for all the kids to be on the same floor where there's also a playroom and backyard (upside down house). Then at 6 months the baby will move from our room to the spare room. But when/if we move back to UK there would be change again and I'd probably have some sharing just to keep them all on the same floor.

The way I see it, for every child, having three siblings means plus points...that there's always someone to play with, the house is totally about kids and not mummy and daddy etc, and negative points...financial impact, practical impact...they can't all go to where they want as we can't please all of them all the time. They have to wait sometimes to get my attention if I'm talking to another one. For us the pros are worth the cons... but of course not for everyone. This knowledge is why I wanted a fourth, but I also know we're handing our life back to chaos for a while!

I've recently found out I am pg with baby number 4. I'm still in a bit of shock about it all as it wasn't planned. I haven't even told dh yet. I'm really nervous about people's reactions. We will have four kids aged 5 and under. Thank goodness we bought a 6 seater car (assuming this isn't twins)!!

I feel ok. The morning sickness isn't too bad but I'm quite tired. My husband works away from home. He comes home two weekends a month. I'm worried about the cat as I am the only one who can do his kitty litter. I guess some disposable gloves and lots of hand washing are the way forward.

I'm very busy, just starting a new business, PTA, and volunteer work but I guess I will cope somehow.

I really want to have a home birth this time. I'm not sure what dh will think of that though.

I'd rather not go on the role call list yet, if that is ok as I have a history of miscarriages and I still have a lot to get my head around.

But it will be nice to have some others to chat to!

Mummysaysno...... I love what you said.. "handing our life back to chaos for a while!".... So true, it's like you're setting the clock back to zero again.

Greenleaftea..... Welcome and congratulations. Of course, will leave you off the list for now, I totally understand.
Obviously only you know how you feel and what is right for you. But, I think there is a plus side to having them closer together.. Bish bosh... You're not 'out' of the chaos that is 3 young kids under 5 yrs. you're still very much in it... I wish I had mine a bit closer together.. We'll be 4 kids under 8.5 years.
I love the idea of rounding up the figures...
My oh was in shock for a few weeks even though we we were trying! Lol!
It sounds like its you anyway who will be taking on the extra work of little one arriving in 8 months... And, as long as you are up for it, (god, that looks awful written down.. But you know what I mean), go for it. Another little personality in the house...
We're here to 'hold your hand' until you come to a decision, whatever you decide. It can be awfully lonely knowing what you know... But thank you for sharing, and we're all here for you. x

God, that last paragraph looks bloody awful! I really should preview before I post! It all sounded over dramatic.. I just meant that glad you found us Greenleaftea. (Getting my head down for a bit, didn't sleep well last night, and I'm spouting gibberish! Lol! x

thanks ladies - now i've read your posts, i realise my main concern re: bedroom arrangements looks daft really! So thanks for knocking that on the head and leaving us to consider the more important side of trying for no4!

Ah go on ilovecheese...join the club!

Congratulations to the poster who just found out...(can't check names as posting from my phone). You sound like you will have a lot to handle...don't be afraid to put yourself first and step down from some commitments.

...sorry icravecheese! Can't even hold a name in my head for three seconds.

MissLurkalot..ditto re the shock of finding out...this was planned, but that first week after getting the positive I kept waking in the night in shock. You think after three children I'd be a bit less surprised how babies are made!

Welcome green leaf tea! So lovely to have you here I know how it feels I also have history of miscarriage and I know everyone worries in early pregnancy but mc really taints the pleasure of getting pregnant! Helped me to concentrate on the fact that it is WAY more likely that everything will be fine than not and luckily it was

You sound like me too, I volunteer for age uk, I run a local toy library/toddler group am on the children's partnership board and I'm also training to be a yoga teacher as well as having 3 five and under so have lots going on! Will just play it by ear and see what happens

Icravecheese yes join the club!

Hope everyone is ok

ha! we're very tempted...going on past experience, it only takes my DH to look at me & we're pregnant! I will re-join thread if indeed we do decide to go for it.
In the meantime, congrats to everyone, enjoy your 4th pregnancies & delicious newborns!

Good luck icravecheese!

Thank you for the welcome everyone and the very kind words MissLurkalot.

I will talk to dh this weekend. I feel happy and positive about the pregnancy so that is good. Perhaps it is fate!

Dd is currently going through the terrible twos and I was quite relieved not to go through that again but looks like I will after all.

We have booked a trip for the summer to visit my parents who live abroad. Well, if you don't get priority with three little kids and a big stomach then I don't know what will. We go every year so the kids are used to flying long haul but it should be interesting this time!

I will see if I can get an early scan.

Crossing everything for you Cravecheese.... xxx

Somebody. Sorry I put you down as August, must've got mixed up.

Greenleaftea. I do believe fate is a large part of it. It was for us.
I'll be thinking of you this weekend. I'm sure hubby will be happy if you're happy. My hubby is really quite excited now, it took him a little while to get involved in the pregnancy.... Mostly due to work and that he's been brilliant helping with the three kids, taking up the slack if I've been under the weather.. So it's kind of crept up on him.
We're off to France this summer, despite baby only being two months old. We're returning to the same place again, and I said to hubby, when we saw a new mother with her newborn.. Wouldn't it be lovely if we had a newborn next year. And hopefully, all being well, we will.
My 8 yr old dd had a show and tell for RE today at school, and they're to bring something in. She wanted to me and my bump in, bless her! I suggested one of baby's sleepsuits and the little toy comforter the girls bought for baby... Such a warm, fuzzy and proud moment, bless her. x