Type 1 diabetic mums & mums to be damn that dawn phenomenon!

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Thanks spotty i know he will be fine i guess i just feel so guilty that i dont have the same time to devote to him and miss our cuddly times.

Think my milks come in but cant bring myself to breastfeed even tho she clearly smells them and they hurt big style i was so full of good intentions too.

Why can't you bring yourself to do it? You could hand express some to relieve the pain. You know you could still ff and let her have comfort feeds from you with no pressure to do it even once a day

Obviously if you want to ff it's completely fine, dd was ff, it's just you seem to feel guilty about it already which makes me think you're not 100% on your decision. It could all be hormones though!

OH MY GOD!!!!!! I can't believe I've missed a baby!!!! How the hell are you Hoping and GORGEOUS Ellie? A huge congratulations! I'm so happy for you, glad she's safe and that you're home.

How is everyone else doing?! I'm so sorry I went AWOL - I'm getting induced tomorrow and we had so much to sort out! I'm petrified as the baby is measuring almost 10lb and I'm only going to be 37+4!

Please tell me I'm not going to die in labour about the baby isn't going to get stuck (and will be safe and sound).

Of course you'll be fine puds the second one just pops out

Oh I bloody hope so!!!!

spotty i feel gulity i do but i dont think i could handle it all being up to me feeding i mean i so need the support of others ie i can go to bed and miss a feed.

puds thanks and so glad to hear from you!! We r doing ok emotional breakdowns aside. Remember i was told ellie would be almost 10lb when she was born they were very wrong! Unless in 2 almost 3 weeks she only gained 5oz?! Tommorow how exciting!! Cant wait to hear what u have!!

I think this time round you need to look at it as what's best for you as a whole family and it sounds to me like ff will be best it's important for you to be rested and happy as you have your little boy to think of too. He can't have you stressing or wanting to be in bed all day! I'm sure you will feel less guilty once your hormones have settled down too

Thanks Hoping!!!!

I have similar worries to you re. BFing. I did it with DS with for 10 months but I really, really put myself through the mill to achieve it. I went without so much sleep contributing to an anxiety disorder I developed after DS.

Anyhow...I'm still not quite 'right' two years on. But I have discovered that sleep (or lack of it) affects my anxiety for the worse. A lot. The BFing hormone rollercoaster didn't help either.

Sooo.....not quite sure how I'm going to handle the demands of BFing this time with toddler to deal with too (and of course diabetes). I'm hoping to express ASAP but DS would never take a bottle. We're going to try it earlier on despite warnings about nipple confusion.

However I'm also thinking once DH goes back to work whipping one out will be soooo much easier than bottle feeding faff - and I suppose the same goes for night feeds.

We'll see how it goes but just to let you know I totally understand the issues you're facing. X

Thanks spotty and puds how im going to manage at all when oh goes back to work is something im trying not to think about right now. Is it too early to think about pnd? Im worried im heading down the same route as with ds not had a massive rush of love yet etc mayabe i just need to sleep lol

I agonised with 'loving my DS' enough for over a bloody year after he was born Hoping. I WILL NOT be putting myself through that bollocks again. You and I know how much we adore our toddlers. At baby stage of course you love them (think how you'd feel if God forbid something happened) but at the moment you're just doing your best to look after the baby. That's the love.

I know it's easier said than done but please shelve this worry. It's silly. There's no one going to look inside your head and do a check on number of rushes of love felt for baby! Xxx

Thanks puds yes was same with ds and cried today because he went to stay at my parents

ok so it would appear my wound has had a bleed to itself im way too tired to go anywhere tonight itl be ok till morning right?!

Good luck for tommorow puds cant wait to hear

Puds - thank goodness all is ok. Induction tmrw - eeek! You must post and let us know what happens.

Hoping - I think your wound will be ok til morning assuming you are not losing blood still? Do dress it with a sterile dressing if you have one at home and be sure to have it checked tmrw. I'd call the community mw. Hopefully that way someone will come out and see you at home.

Ps puds - when did you try the bottle last time and when will you do it this time? Am keen to ensure I can do this with DS. I know I'm going to have to have a) a proper kip and b) a proper drink at some point so want to make sure I time it right! Health visitor suggested there's a window between 4-6 weeks where nipple confusion was unlikely but he would still take a bottle. Tips welcome!!

Hi Bona! Hope all is well with you and DS

Right well I've just posted about when the earliest people recommend expressing with a bottle in the feeding section and a few have said three weeks.

I was ever the paranoid mum last time and dutifully waited until six weeks to avoid nipple confusion but it really was too late. He ended up never taking to the bottle until about 10 months when he lost interest in the breast and we finally found a bottle that worked (Dr Browns). It was a nightmare as for 10 months I didn't sleep and couldn't leave his side for more than a couple of hours. There was gallons of my milk wasted trying too :-(

This time we're taking the risk for my sanity! It's quite important I've found

Of course your DS might be absolutely great at flipping between two at six weeks. My DS was (and still very much is) stubborn as hell!!! It's good your MW said four weeks - makes me feel less bad about trying at three - if I get that far all things going well.

Good luck today puds! What's the plan of action?

Hoping I hope you're feeling a bit better today. Try not to worry about these things it's such early days and you're tired and hormonal. If I've had a bad day I think 'everybody's fed, nobody's dead' and I know actually my day has been successful

Good luck puds! It's great to have you back with us.

spotty, your first glass of wine in 15 months!? Ooops, I've been having a v. small glass pretty much every other night carefully timed around feeds.

Also, V kept refusing to feed yesterday - screaming and pushing me away - when I thought I saw hunger signs. She managed to stretch her feeds to 4-hourly, meaning that we only had time to fit in 5 feeds in 24 hours.
Is this a big issue?
Can it be that she just wasn't hungry? I know she is recovering from a cold.

I'm not a big drinker diec

I would say that's fine. Sometimes there's no rhyme or reason to these things and tomorrow she'll be back to normal. Ds did every two hours last night full of beans this morning though.

Got my eyes appointment in a bit got to take both children!

puds huge good luck hope it all goes well

spotty hope your appt goes well also.

Ok fairly tough night again ellie just wont settle in our bedroom??!!but is ok with 1 of us sleeping on couch in living room could scream! And please dont judge me as i felt this way with ds and would die for him now but i feel unable to bond with ellie. I feel like she is an inconvience and is ruining what was an easy enough life and causing my realtionship to change with ds i feel like crying about this alot the changes i mean. Im sooo worried about when oh returns to work and im on my own too

Oh hoping, you poor sausage.
Maybe your room's the wrong temperature for Eliie? I know V prefers sleeping in the spare room (her room one day!) because it's warmer than our room.

I don't think I began bonding with V until she started smiling at me at 2 months - before that she was just kind of foreign, if you know what I mean. I blame that on the cs, personally. Being alone with her is still a bit weird.
If it happened with your ds, and improved, then you know that it can improve with Ellie. It's still very early and your body must still be packed full of crazy hormones.
(Sorry, I know you've done all this before! I'm not trying to teach you anything, just to remind you because you might be feeling a bit over-whelmed right now )

Sorry you're having a hard time hoping when is your mw coming? The important thing is to talk about it in rl so at least you're not carrying the burden on your own. Does your ds go to nursery or mil during the week? This has been a godsend to me. Also Ellie will change a lot in two weeks you will feel a lot better then.

Well eye appointment wasn't great. He only got two good pics as I couldn't have the drops. Hopefully they can get a result from them.

Hoping - please keep telling us how you feel and don't feel alone in this. Everyone keeps saying to me 'ooooh how exciting' 'aren't you soooo excited' and I think 'well actually I'm only just regaining sanity and life after DS so no!'. I totally know what you mean about the inconvenience thing thrown into your probably-only-quite-recently-settled-again life. How old is your DS again? Mine has just turned 2.

Personally I think us diabetic lot suffer more with random hormone shite as they're already out of kilter. Anyone else share the theory? Can relate with Diec's 'foreign' feeling - I felt like that for a long time with DS. I put it down to never having been around babies before.

Right keep me sane and chat today ladies. I'm not in until this afty so a loooong day ahead. I'm nervous about the sliding scale thingy . Keep thinking they're going to cock it up and I'll die on insulin overdose! The MWs are NOT going to be looking forward to getting me in!

Puds I didn't have a sliding scale. How are you being induced?

Is the sliding scale the weird insulin/glucose drip or am I getting mixed up?! I'm getting pessaries until waters break and then the bastard hormone thing that I'm really, really hoping to avoid.

Were you induced Spotty? I can't remember.

Yep that's the sliding scale. I had the 24 hour pessary and that worked. Had it failed they would have gone onto the six hour ones then arm and drip as last resort.

If I were you I would see what happens. Give your body a chance and unless necessary tell them to piss off with the drip. I had the pessary inserted at 9:30am mild contractions by bed time. Contractions I had to breath through all night then by 6am I was being sick wet myself and was 4cm. Was 6cm by the time I got to labour ward. Waters broke about 11:30 (?) of their own accord and ds born 12:25 with just gas and air 15 minutes pushing. No sliding scale or drips.

Being your second I don't see why the pessary alone won't work. Also if they need to break your waters ask them to give you a couple of hours before using the drip as I'm sure you won't actually need it have you written a birth plan?

Oh my God Spotty that's just what I wanted to read before going in. That's EXACTLY how I'd love things to go for me this time - although I know I need to keep an open mind.

You've pretty much summed up my birth plan